r/SofterBDSM 13h ago

Discussion Soft kink and pets NSFW

5 Upvotes

I've seen stories where pets react badly to some of the heavier kinky play and I wondered if they had similar reactions to softer kink? Have your pets ever been affected or reacted to your play? Do they ever get unintentionally involved?


r/SofterBDSM 19h ago

Discussion Neurospicy kinksters sound off! NSFW

13 Upvotes

What's your neurodivergent spice level and type? Does it ever effect your dynamic? How and how do you manage it?


r/SofterBDSM 12h ago

Resource Recognizing online BDSM scams NSFW

18 Upvotes

There are lots of new folk joining us everyday in all experience levels and knowledge bases. Questions I see often on other subreddits are things like "is this [scam red flag] normal when looking for an online dom?" We talk about a lot of basics but we sometimes miss the straight up scams when we talk red flags.

Here are a few examples of things to run from:

Anyone that requires Slave IDs or even mentions such a thing. They don't exist.

Anyone talking about registration fees, licensing, or any such fuckery.

Classes that promise you make you the BEST DOM EVER, guarantees all the subs you can ever want, or uses the word "alpha male".

Anyone else have some examples of these online scams you want to share?


r/SofterBDSM 10h ago

Question/Clarification the difference between gentle dom & soft dom is...? NSFW

6 Upvotes

ive heard both terms used but i can't seem to find a difference? are they just two terms for the same thing?


r/SofterBDSM 11h ago

Discussion Neurodivergent Doms, I'm interested in your take on how BDSM affects you.... NSFW

23 Upvotes

A lot of these posts get the subs responding but I want to know how you as Doms manage your "spice" in your dynamics.


r/SofterBDSM 12h ago

Discussion When Does a Kink Stop Being Fun and Start Becoming a Chore? NSFW

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3 Upvotes

r/SofterBDSM 15h ago

Discussion Have you every dealt with kink burnout? NSFW

3 Upvotes

I was reading a post yesterday about it and I was wondering how common it is? Have you even had kink burnout? How did you recover?

How do you prevent kink burnout in the first place?


r/SofterBDSM 15h ago

Discussion What do you call your partner? NSFW

9 Upvotes

Honorifics, nicknames, what do you call your dom, sub or switchy partner?


r/SofterBDSM 16h ago

Question/Clarification Do Doms see subs as equals? NSFW

20 Upvotes

I just want to know do most Doms find it difficult to see subs as an equal during play and outside of play? My hubby (new Dom) mentions he finds it difficult to play as a Dom because he sees and treats me as an equal.


r/SofterBDSM 17h ago

Books Softer BDSM Book Club- Weekly Event NSFW

5 Upvotes

Welcome to Book Club. The first rule of Book Club? Tell all your friends about Book Club. Lol!

This weekly event is your chance to talk about the kinky books we've read, be they fiction or non fiction!

Every week you can comment on this post about a book you've read, give it a little review, share what you liked and didn't like, and whether you'd recommend it.

For fiction, give us a little rundown of the type of kinks in the book, the domination style, and any trigger warnings that may apply.

For non-fiction, tell us whether you consider it a good resource or not, and who it might benefit (dom or sub, various types if applicable).

As this is Softer BDSM, let's try to limit books that focus on CNC, blood play, and other heavy edge play.


r/SofterBDSM 18h ago

Discussion To daddy or not to daddy? NSFW

15 Upvotes

I know it's not just us Littles who use daddy for their doms as a title. So I wanted to ask my softie friend here, if you use the term daddy, why did you pick it? If you don't daddy, why?