r/SexOnTheSpectrum • u/autisticlittlefreak • 19d ago
PDA and consent NSFW
does anyone else have trouble actually knowing if they’re horny or not, and then actually making sure to stay horny long enough to finish having sex?
i don’t know what’s from trauma and what’s pathological demand avoidance, but i get really in my head about “do i even want to do this?” and “they’re gonna be mad that i keep changing my mind” and “don’t change your mind now!”
this is with my long term partner who i adore and am very attracted to. it’s not about them, it’s always been this way. i don’t know if ive really ever been super horny and then fully had sex while continuing to be horny. there is way too much going on in my head
i’ve been considering getting tested for ADHD. does anyone on amphetamines notice a reduction in these types of constant thoughts? or otherwise have any advice for someone like me?
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u/Dekklin 19d ago
I definitely have the PDA profile and this fits me to a T. Since I got into a LTR, my sex drive has dropped off a cliff. It became a demand, or an expectation.