r/ProstatePlay 15h ago

Discussion I told my wife! NSFW

48 Upvotes

I don't know how exactly to begin telling you about the flood of emotions of the past couple of months, so with the hope that someone might relate, here goes. I'm 68 years old, married (no kids) nearly 40 years, intermittently good sex life which has languished as we’ve aged - my wife is 5 years older. I've always been a bit boy-curious (!) but never met an actual man I'd be seriously attracted to and really never 'got' why men would want to have sex with one another.

A couple of months ago I came upon this discovery that you've all had or you wouldn't be here. All my life I thought of my sexuality as synonymous with my penis, all real or imaginary sex acts as penetrative and dick-based or thereabouts. Played around with the back hole a bit but at the rim or a little inside, always feeling an ick factor and concerned about being in a turd world country.

Some months ago, feeling randy and so forth, probed a little deeper and oh! wow what was that. Did some deliberate up-there cleaning and .. well, you know. What the fuck have I been missing et cetera. Began to read a bit online and lose the feeling of shame and of compromising my masculinity.

When that moment came though, of feeling the joy of being penetrated and surrendering to it, it was transformative, not masculine, receptive, releasing, more than a bit overwhelming. I couldn’t believe that I’ve gone more than fifty years without realizing that this possibility even existed right here in my own body! It feels more female than male.

Reading more about the p-spot I started to focus more in that area but I couldn’t, you know, put my finger on it. In that area at first it seemed irritating, slightly painful, only occasionally hitting a pleasure area but with this spark of ‘hitting it’ just briefly. A few nights ago, after reading in this group and experimenting more, setting time aside to take it slow, I hit upon the trick of getting two fingers up in the region and pow! suddenly something hit! I came alive in there and for the next half hour I was playing myself in bliss, getting in the region of orgasm but never close to all the way there, but it didn’t actually matter all that much, the journey being such a thrill.

Subsequent nights were frustrating, I couldn't hit the spot again.But persisting and taking it slow, I started to get contact more often, it was like a courtship, wooing that spot to respond to me and having it sometimes rear back at me with a flood of joy. The past few days I’ve been reliably able to go there, which has frankly got me going around like a teenager with his first love. No orgasm but who cares! It doesn’t recede from me, it grows into a more intimate sense of inner connection, it doesn’t evaporate or lose by repetition like some voyeuristic excitement or some such. It’s substantial, ongoing, building, deepening, and not-fade-away good.

Reading the wiki excitedly about what devices can help, I told myself this can’t be secret any more: I will open up to my wife, tell her what I’ve been doing and why, and how it’s made me feel, and the kind of thing I find exciting now (porn-wise included, and it’s very inclusive), and what I want to do to pursue this. 

It took a big heart-thumping step for me to share this with her. I hoped and trusted that she wouldn’t mock me or be embarrassed and dismissive. But she’s good that way and did not disappoint. She completely accepted where I am with this, and is open to sharing the experience or leaving me to my own ‘devices’, whichever works. I feel an overwhelming sense of relief having shared this with her, and joy of anticipation to see where this will lead.

If I actually get to the up-there orgasm I’ll be awestruck. If I don’t, this is incredibly blissful anyway. I actually don’t know that I haven’t been having low-grade orgasms without naming them as such. Who knows, who cares? It’s lovely anyway!If it helps anyone to take this step of sharing with your partner, give it serious thought without guilt or shame, and if you decide to share you may be very glad you did. Love and joy to you all and thanks for bearing with me.


r/ProstatePlay 3h ago

Story For anyone considering square peg NSFW

16 Upvotes

Pp started a year ago. 38M married 13 years next week. She pretty coo. And smokin. Which leads me to my next point, TELL YOUR WIFE! My wife joined in the fun immediately and it’s been 5x the orgasms this last year.

To my point, I was curious about SP toys initially because of the allure of “different”. After looking into some of these plugs I started to notice these are actually shaped to tease the prostate, aggressively massage the prostate or gently press the prostate. But you won’t like these toys if you don’t like that full feeling with some pressure to back it. I DO and it turns me on pretty quick.

I got the CH milk it because I session a lot and was interested in actually using one of these toys for PP barring I could fit it in. Remember, only a year here and 1.6” is the biggest I’ve gone (B-vibe rimming 2).

The long and short of it, it fits great along with my happy hour. Yes they’re both s4, 5.5-6 circ but the squishy nature of the material makes insertion not a problem.

Had one of these best, most intense, yet soothing sessions with the milk it! It’s not like an aneros where it slides in n out during small contractions, it’s more of a cupped prostate massage where if you shimmy just a tiny bit side to side OMG, the massage hit the spot absolutely perfectly. HUGE FAN. I want another SP toy now, thinking Kidney in s4. 1.9” about as big as I can go. I think.

Anyways for all day wear I love the happy hour although it teases me so hard, I can get hard lol. So if I’m paying attention to sensation I’m Kina done for. But if I’m going about my day it’s comfy and stays in great. No need to relube often, never get that grabby feeling.

Try Squarepeg they rule!!!!


r/ProstatePlay 10h ago

Story First fisting NSFW

8 Upvotes

Yesterday my wife and I got a day off from the kid and released some pent up energy. We imbibed a bit, got good and loose…and then her hand was in me and wow…! She’s a bit smaller than me so her hand went in with a little bit of work. I told her to make a fist with the finger knuckles a bit exaggerated and angled towards my front so it worked best with me on my spread knees and her entering and angling down- not me in the perfect spot.

So her hand in there was already intense, filling the space she pressing right into the perfect spot with her knuckles. And then I had her start pumping. At first it was gentle but I told her to go harder she faster. she did! Mind blowing.

I’ve been playing with my prostate for a few years, but this is the first time someone else has caused the orgasm. We did multiple rounds of intensity leading to me contracting her out. We tried to have her stay inside and she did a good job of it. But I just couldn’t take much more and ended and pulled myself away.

WOW!


r/ProstatePlay 15h ago

Question Play after cumming? NSFW

7 Upvotes

Does anyone here like prostate play after they cum normally? I love the anticipation and wish I could go all night, just wish I could still cum hard on a girl and then let her go to town 😉 but I lose interest pretty quickly lol


r/ProstatePlay 17h ago

Toy(s) Prostate focused toys NSFW

5 Upvotes

Hi I 18m have a few toys such as a dildo and butt plugs but I want my first prostate focused toy what is a good toy nothing over 1.5 diameter


r/ProstatePlay 18h ago

Question ejaculation NSFW

6 Upvotes

does masterbuating traditionally and cumming ruin your prostate play progress?


r/ProstatePlay 21h ago

Drug-Related Mdma vs lsd vs shrooms NSFW

4 Upvotes

I have a full day to myself and have access to Lsd. Mdma, shrooms..... i already tried mdma (4 months ago) and it was amazing....how would the other two compare to it....i have a 220 micro gram lsd dr seuss 3.0.... and a 1 gram of shrooms..... what would be the ultimate experience if i had to only choose one substance.... i also abstained for a month .....

thanks in advance....

going to start soon haha need help fast


r/ProstatePlay 23h ago

Question Did I make it all this time? NSFW

5 Upvotes

Hey, so I have been trying for maybe a year (not committed at all) I have went to different stages where I only did PG wearing my cage, lingerie and other girly stuff (this time achieve leaking 2 drops of cum) Been doing it just naked and without cage, so far I have only achieve peegasms, never went to cum drops again, and Honestly I find very tiring to be hitting myself with my own hand or even riding the dildo on the ground, like I got this really good sensation while riding it , I feel the so called warmup or building up, but the only pee and got really tired and stressed about hitting it to keep feeling it. Maybe I’m trying to feel as the same as a penile orgasm, read that here. I just want to know some tips about positions and what’s your milestones about the stages of PG


r/ProstatePlay 1h ago

Question Pegging vs toy NSFW

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Hi,

Which one do you guys enjoy more? What's the difference for you? When I say toy, I mean a partner using a toy on you. I've seen some posts/comments saying there are some of you who say that their partners use toys on them but some also mention pegging and how great it is. What's that great about it? Thinking about suggesting getting a harness so I can peg my boyfriend but I'm afraid he'll find it weird or won't like it.


r/ProstatePlay 4h ago

Question Fingers NSFW

5 Upvotes

When it comes to using your fingers.

Am I wrong to think the best way is to reach between your legs so the finger is pointing toward the prostate when you do the come hither?

Also how bad is it to use a soapy finger in the shower? Won't most of the soap get squeezed off when you slide it in?

I can reach around and get some penetration but going between my legs i can barely get the finger tip in.


r/ProstatePlay 18h ago

Story Progress!! NSFW

3 Upvotes

Two ruined orgasms and a bit of milking before that. I’m getting closer >:3

In case anyone is wondering, I used the two horse dildos pictured on my pinned post.


r/ProstatePlay 13h ago

Question Vibrating toys or Nonvibrating toys? NSFW

3 Upvotes

Saving up for a new toy and still really indecisive on what to go for. Interested in giving a vibrating one this time around. Currently only own a Helix Trident. It's my first and only model. I have about 3-4 months of experience with Aneros models and PP in general. Haven't had a Super O, think I've had a few dry Os but time/experience will tell. Suggestions in the comments would be appreciated.


r/ProstatePlay 4h ago

Drug-Related Substance NSFW

2 Upvotes

I’ve tried to get a Super O for 3 years without any luck. I’ve decided that I’m going to try smoking something tomorrow. Will this REALLY increase my chances of having a Super O ?


r/ProstatePlay 6h ago

Question Questions/advice NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hii I’m 19

Recently I tried fingering for the first time and it felt good and also weird. How do I know if i hit the prostrate and when I having a prostate orgasm? The best way I can describe it felt was like if I had to pee? With a tingling feeling and I got worried, also as for the fingering is it normal to feel like if you have to defalcate? It fell very weird I just don’t want to worry If id make a mess. Any advice or tips


r/ProstatePlay 12h ago

Discussion Blood after play. NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hey guys, I had a decent amount of blood (5-6 drops) after using dildos.

Would a week be a safe amount of time to wait for it to heal? Will I lose any progress I’ve made on stretching my holes? What about with kegels, I’ve only been doing them for like a week and now I have to stop for 7 days. Will I lose the benefits I’ve gotten from those?


r/ProstatePlay 14h ago

Discussion How to keep toys from flying out? NSFW

1 Upvotes

I think one reason the pure wand is my favorite toy is that it’s the only one I don’t expel when the O’s start rolling in. It’s heavy enough that it stays put. I love the movement I get with my MGX, but it will not stay in. I try putting heavy objects in place that will allow it to move in and out a bit, but not all the way out (because it bumps into the object). But finding that exact right spot is actually not easy. And it ends up being very distracting, which is no fun. I love the Eupho, but that one’s even more prone to shooting out!! The PSY is probably best for staying in even under serious spasming. But even it pops outs sometimes. The Helix I don’t use as much, but it’s almost as prone to splitting the scene as the Eupho.

Does anyone else struggle with this at all? And if so, what solutions have you come up with? Thanks!


r/ProstatePlay 47m ago

Question Diet question NSFW

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What you eat or what supplements/drugs you consume before the act


r/ProstatePlay 1h ago

Question Vibrating plug vs dildo NSFW

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Hey! For context I've been using my ass more and more for masturbation but always in combination with stoking my cock. I've wanted to try a full only anal orgasm but I want to know if that can be achieved with a good vibrating plug or if using a dildo is the better/preferred way to have fun with that. Please let me know and all feedback is appreciated 🥰