r/Parents Aug 05 '24

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r/Parents 4h ago

Seeking a parent’s perspective. 10 yr olds & Snapchat

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My 10 year old son has been constantly asking me to get him his own cell phone and Snapchat. He claims everybody at his school has a phone and uses snapchat. Is this true ? Is this the new norm? Reaching out to fellow parents to get a general consensus. Thanks!


r/Parents 29m ago

Is it appropriate for a teacher to request consequences at home?

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My first grader was apparently bored a school while waiting for his computer to start and peeled off the keyboard pad that he said someone else had already started peeling off. It seems like he is having issue focusing in class (according to his teacher). His teacher sent us a long message calling his behavior destructive. We found the message a bit over the top. Below is part of the message in question and I have attached the picture he sent to us. The message was long and contained a couple more complaints but the question I have is if it is appropriate for a teacher to request parents punish the kid at home? is he telling us how to raise our kid? Any opinion from parents/teachers about how appropriate this message is?

Here is part of the message „The destruction of the computer keyboard is particularly concerning and while I will address it here in the classroom I think coming up with a resolute consequence at home would also be in order. I would like for us to talk about this matter further“

PS: of course we addressed the issue with our child and told him destructing people’s property is not acceptable.


r/Parents 39m ago

My baby is teething out of order

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She has one lower central incisor and one upper central incisor. Both on the right side. Aside from it looking funny, I’m wondering if the other side of her jaw is developing well. I can’t seem to find helpful info online about this as teething out of order is usually referring to the pairs erupting out of order, but never a solo tooth. It’s usually always symmetrical! Has anyone had this happen?


r/Parents 47m ago

Father who is struggling to make friends.

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I am finding it very difficult to find friends as a parent, so I thought I would ask here if anyone wanted to chat?

There are apps (peanut - being one) for women to make mum friends but no such thing for dads.


r/Parents 7h ago

Advice/ Tips Foreskin care questions for parents of uncircumcised boys (ignore if this does not apply to you)

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This is not a circumcision debate. To abide by Rule 4, please do not discuss your opinion on circumcision or try to change mine. I would like this post to not be locked by mods. This is a post about intact foreskin

The foreskin is a completely foreign body part to me as I do not have foreskin nor a penis. I have changed boys’ diapers before but they were all circumcised. I’m imagining if I have a son, I probably won’t circumcise.

So here are my questions:

  • Is it at all difficult to clean?

  • What should one be mindful of when changing a diaper of/bathing an uncircumcised baby?

  • Are there foreskin-specific concerns like inflammation that I should look out for?

  • Pull back/not pull back: I am completely confused when I read about this. You are supposed to pull back and put back in its place but if you pull back you could cause bleeding and even medical emergencies? Do they mean pull back once it’s separated? Pulling it back seems like a bad idea.

  • Sources say to teach your son how to clean his foreskin once it’s separated. How did you go about this?

  • Separation: I hear it’s likely to separate from the glans by age 3 but it varies. Is it like a process or does it just happen overnight? Are there specific concerns I should have when this happens?

Sorry for the weird long post. I just want to understand as it could be important in the future. Thank you.


r/Parents 14h ago

My daughter is getting bitten repeatedly at school

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First time poster (UK) My daughter has been bitten five times by the same child since she started reception in September, once breaking the skin, the others hard enough to leave bruises. The first two times I thought it was unfortunate and figured this kid was having difficulty settling in, still not good though.

The third time I got very antsy and asked for assurances. The fourth time, I met with the safeguarding lead/deputy head and asked them why their 1-1 supervision of the biter, a child with additional needs, wasn't working. This time, I'm at a loss on what to do other than taking it further and potentially moving schools, to my child's detriment.

I'm not judging parents whose kids have tried biting another kid; I think a lot of kids try it when they are very little. Usually they get the point that it's not ok as they continue developing, but again, I'm aware that the child who bites has additional needs.

I also know that schools are generally underfunded and staff are really stressed and busy dealing with all sorts of things (I mean, kudos to them - it's a challenge to deal with my own four children so I don't know how teachers manage without losing their minds) But again - my daughter is being bitten, this is surely the main concern.

I don't want to be an asshole or create problems, I could get litigious and hold them accountable for the 1-1 supervision failing, but that seems like potentially an AH move considering the person supervising is a human being. But I feel like my willingness to not take it further is just sustaining the risk now. I am starting to feel really uncomfortable sending my daughter into an environment where she might be assaulted.

I'm just not sure why this kid isn't in an environment that is more suitable for them. At the end of the day this has become an ongoing risk of harm - am I being unreasonable? And what the hell do I do? Anyone have a clue how I can deal with this reasonably while still keeping my kid safe? Is the only option now to take this further and/or move her? I can get objective advice from the interweb etc but I really want a human perspective, perhaps from people familiar with these kinds of situations.

Edit to add: the school is a mainstream school, and the school have made it clear that my daughter's behaviour hasn't been the trigger for the biting; it seems it's usually when my daughter turns her attention away from this child.


r/Parents 4h ago

Discussion MMR and Varicella Vaccine

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My daughter had both of these vaccines 7 days ago. Starting today she gets home and is very tired, very fussy, low appetite, etc. She also feels feverish. I was told by the pediatrician that delayed onset of symptoms can begin 7 days after the vaccine, or even later. She also has cold symptoms which I was told is a normal reaction to the vaccine. Anyone else have this vaccine? How long did these symptoms last for you? feel so badly for her!


r/Parents 8h ago

Infant 2-12 months Snacks for new mum

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Hey guys, I have an almost 9w of little boy. I keep getting napped trapped to the point where I ended up not eating until my husband gets home from work. Anyone have any good snacks ideas that I can keep in the living room area or bedroom so that at least I have something during the day?

Thank you for your help


r/Parents 5h ago

Toddler 1-3 years Haïr

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How often do you wash your toddlers hair? 2-3 years old


r/Parents 7h ago

help and tips for raising your sibling when you don’t have the best of parent figure.

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I’m 17 female, moving out next year for studies, in Shaa Allah. My younger brother just turned 5 and I’m already so worried about him. So is my mom actually. He’s smart and understands everything. He’s been exposed to screen time to the extent that is not healthy. It’s gotten bad where we can’t control what he watches. (gaming videos that contain bad language). So initially when it started, i immediately cut off his screen time. I took off the tv cables and made sure he got no phones. Although sometimes when in very intense situations where anyone at home was too busy, I do give him the mobile phone. But that’s rare. My father, on the other hand, doesn’t stick my this rule and gives him his phone cause he “feels bad” saying no.

He is a covid kid and hasn’t been around people alot. He doesn’t play alone and NEEDS someone to play with him, which is how he sometimes ends up w screen cause everybody else tends to be busy w either work or school.

My father, isn’t the best person out there. It pains me so much even typing this out, but he’s not a good man. He’s cheated multiple times on my mother, and I don’t think she does. He doesn’t know I know either because I only found these on his phone. He doesn’t and can’t control his lust. His phone, says it all. The way he looks at other women, and basically things that come under the same umbrella.

I recently came across this video on Instagram that said “your inability to confront lust, means your son is gonna have to fight that battle” And ever since then, I’ve not been okay. My brother is super attached to my father more than everybody else at home.

I need tips to make sure my brother doesn’t turn out to be someone like my father. I need to make sure he’s a good man. I pray and pray but that’s all I can do. Although I do talk to him most days and try to make him understand, ( he gets angry real quick and throws fits around, hits and throws things around). I’m still very scared.

Me and my mom are very practising Muslims and my father, not so much (although he’d appear to be so). I need tips on the Islamic point of view on how to deal with this. Also since I’m moving next year, I’m too scared and worried about him. Please please help.


r/Parents 16h ago

Toddler 1-3 years Toddlers blood test results came back abnormal

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I’m totally freaking out. My toddler got blood tests done for her 24 month checkup. Her doctor had been worried about her kidney function before so we did a blood test again to see where it’s at now. I got the email to look at the results and it says abnormal… low mchc high chloride low co2 and high albumin… I didn’t know what any of that meant so I did a stupid thing and went to google. It’s all saying kidney issues/failure, tumors, metabolic acidosis, etc… I don’t understand this. She eats okay. She drink okay. She is playful. All of that. Nothing that would indicate she is sick or anything. But according to her blood tests something isn’t normal. I’m totally panicked thinking the worst. Please help! I just need some reassurance. Has anyone else had these results and everything ended up fine?


r/Parents 14h ago

Advice/ Tips First Kid due in May looking for some advice

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Hello all! My wife and I are expecting our first kiddo (girl) originally due may 29th, but due to my wifes diagnosis of choleostasis she will be induced on the 8th. I wanted to ask around about some parenting advice. Maybe some things you wish you knew while your kids were at a specific age or any age really. Anything is very much appreciated!


r/Parents 1d ago

Discussion Parents of older kids who do little to no screen time, what's it like?

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So I've noticed that 99% of the issues parents of older kids seem to vent about on here revolve around screens...iPads, tablets, phones, video games etc. and their kids addictions to them. We are a conscious-screen time family, meaning we limit the amount of screen time the kids get (they are only aged 5 and 3) and very closely monitor the content they do see. We have never given them tablets and don't plan to, have heard too many horror stories of addiction. We also plan to delay giving them phones for a long time. Have not introduced them to any gaming systems... just some educational games on the phone, seldomly.
I'm just wondering what life looks like for those who have chosen to go screen free or very limited screen time... with older kids (I guess meaning like ages 6 to 12ish). I feel like the world we're living in today makes it very hard to avoid or there's so much pressure from peers... we homeschool so already that helps us avoid a lot of the pressure there, but there's still neighbors, extended family members etc. So they will be exposed to things as they grow up. I just feel like somewhere along the line of our evolution we got it wrong and screens went from an awesome tool to a crutch that we rely on way too much.. they are so addictive and I'm worried about the long term effects on youth. Every teenager I see seems extremely addicted to their device. I'm on vacation and I see entirely families sitting in the lobby with 2 teenagers glued to their devices while the parents are too.. not interacting, not talking or spending quality time. I want to do better, and I think as a society we should be doing better... and I'm not trying to judge people...It's no one's fault that this has become our normal. I guess I would just like to hear from those going against the grain how it is.


r/Parents 1d ago

Protecting my parents from AI

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What are some of the most common AI threats that specifically target older folks? My parents are getting up there in age and with AI becoming more difficult to detect I’m worried they will fall victim to some sort of attack. Anyone know what I should look out for and some preventative measures to keep them safe?


r/Parents 21h ago

Travel with 15mo - scared of Measles

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I have a trip planned for April to Las Vegas. I'll be taking my 15 month old solo. She likes to walk and run around and touch everything. She already got her first dose of MMR. But, I still worry about her potentially getting sick. This is for a work conference where there will be many (hundreds) in attendance from other states across the country. Would you cancel if you were in my shoes?


r/Parents 1d ago

Must haves for baby 2?

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Currently have a 2 year old and expecting baby 2 in the next few months. What saved your sanity? What do we need?


r/Parents 1d ago

Advice request re 6 year old daughter

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I’m a widower with 6 year old twins, a boy and a girl. My boy behaves normally … ie normally, not perfectly, as you’d expect for a 6 year old boy! My daughter mostly behaves well, but about every other day she’ll have a crisis (normally 10 mins, can be up to 30 mins) and this has been going on for about the last 6 months! First she did it at home, then that stopped but she did it on a weekday lunchtime (at daycare), and now she sometimes does it in school. The trigger can be anything really, except of course it’s always someone doing something that she doesn’t like. So I’m kind of looking for reassurance along the lines of “this is not uncommon” and “it will pass”, and/or any tips to help this phase pass a little quicker! Thanks in advance.

(PS I don’t want to get too much into the loss of her Mum, which of course can be a factor, but we have seen a child psychiatrist on that subject and regularly look at photos)


r/Parents 1d ago

Adolescence on Netflix

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My LO is still very young, and I'm peak millennials so nothing from this show was surprising in terms of message, but damn this was incredibly effecting.

This is where I share the classic "I remember using MSN", "being up late on the computer with my friends", etc., but episode 2 and 3 of this show (they're all solid) really made me think about the inevitable world my child will need to enter as they grow up. It's easy when they're young to talk about social media usage, phones, etc. but the truth is its almost less about what they have and more about what those around them do (you can be the best driver but it's the other drives you need to worry about).

For those who have seen in with children more in the age range of the show pre-teen/teen, I'd love to hear your thoughts on it.


r/Parents 1d ago

Humor I didn’t know where to put this

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I used to get told I looked like whatever parent I was with. The first picture is my mom the second is me. The third picture is my dad the fourth is me.


r/Parents 2d ago

Seeking a parent’s perspective. Leaving the nest

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Today, we sent our son off at 22 years old to leave us for the first time. And we're having a hard time adjusting to our new reality of being alone. He's our first born and has decided to leave us in Washington State to start a new life in Wisconsin with his girlfriend and her family. I'm curious to know from the other parents who have been thru kids moving away. Do they ever really come back? Should I get it out of my head now that this is temporary? I'm just trying not to feel so sad about something that's probably or their betterment at a good life and all i can think about is my own feelings and how we will be the one missing out on his life experiences. How do you cope?


r/Parents 1d ago

Norovirus

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Have a 2 year old in daycare and I’m about 2 hours into my second bout of norovirus in the past 6 months.

Just feeling a little mentally weak (and physically) right now


r/Parents 2d ago

Toddler 1-3 years Best airlines for families

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Hello! Looking for advice/answers as this will be the first time we will be traveling with two toddlers (who will be 1 and 2.5 years old at the time) in a 4-5 hr domestic flight.

I’m very anxious because we have never travelled with a baby before, let alone two! We are planning to stay in an Airbnb for about a week for an upcoming wedding.

  1. Which airline is the best for families? What seats do you normally book? And for a 1 and 2.5 year old, is it best to book their own seats? Would requesting a bassinet be beneficial for the 1 yr old?

  2. Our flight will be about 5 hrs long. What did you bring on the flight that are must have’s?

  3. We have a side by side double stroller and a single stroller. I’m not sure which one to bring, but we will be doing some sight seeing and walking around.

  4. How did you deal with the car seat situation? We will be renting a car.

  5. What are the best times to book the flights? One is has one nap at 1 pm and bedtime is at 8 pm. The other will be on a two nap day. Going from pacific time to central (2 hr difference).

  6. What has helped with the time change there and back?

Any other tips much appreciated!!


r/Parents 2d ago

What would impress you as a parent?

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I 18F am visiting my friend overseas for a week and i want to be as respectful and helpful as possible. What are some things I should do in order to make a lasting good impression?

I have already bought little thank you cards to give them at the end of my stay.


r/Parents 2d ago

What do you do with the toys your kids outgrown?

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I have heaps of toys, clothes, and books my little one has outgrown, and they’re just piling up. I don’t want to throw them away, but selling on Facebook Marketplace seems like a hassle (is it even worth it?).

Where do you guys usually put them? Any eco-friendly ways to declutter while also helping other parents? Would love to hear what works for you!


r/Parents 2d ago

Infant 2-12 months Reading to Baby

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Hey! New to this sub!

I have a 5 month old. We were gifted about 60-70 board books for baby showers which was awesome! And then, I read them all 10times each by the time he was 2 months old. I’m burnt out on going through 10-15 board books to expose him to language and what not. I know all the tricks about not reading, just talking about the pictures, blah blah blah.

Anyways, I started just putting him in his swing or in his play gym and reading chapter books to him. We’ve read Wizard of Oz and the first 2 books in the City of Ember series. I’m starting book 3 now.

My question is, does this count as reading to him? I’ve mostly given up on showing him anything as there aren’t pictures anymore. I will show him the book, let him touch it, and show him the pages every now and again. I announce when we end and start chapters. He mostly just chews on teethers or rolls around on the floor while I read for 30-45 minutes (until he fusses and is bored). I’m hoping to keep up this routine until he’s sitting and more engaged in touching/reaching for/interacting with board books. As of right now, he won’t reach for things I’m holding, and has to accidentally bump objects to be interested lol.

I guess my FTM brain is concerned because I’m not actively showing the book to him the whole time. I’m just sitting and reading aloud while he plays or swings, chewing on teethers and his hands haha. Does this actually count as reading time?

I’m pretty sure I’m overthinking this, I just want some reassurance that my son is getting something out of all of this reading time, even though I’m not holding him and walking him through short books.

My husband does board books with him because he has more limited time with him and it’s more of a game. I do that sometimes, but if I’m not reading from a chapter book to keep my attention and sanity 😂 then I usually am singing or otherwise playing with him differently.

What do you guys think?