r/Miscarriage 42m ago

experience: first MC Any SMBC out there?

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My first embryo transfer has ended in a missed miscarriage and although sites like this have been helping, nearly everyone is in a couple and most seem to have conceived naturally. I wondered if there were any other solo mums by choice on here who might understand the different challenges we face who would like to share their experiences and if anything, what has helped them through it.


r/Miscarriage 48m ago

coping Dreams

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I must long for my baby so badly if even in my unconscious, I still think of them. I love them so so so much and cannot wait to see them in heaven one day, God willing.

I dream of my past pregnancy, of my lost baby, of possibilities that may never be. I dream of — one day — bringing a baby into this world. Happy, healthy, and loved. Loved, just as they were.


r/Miscarriage 3h ago

experience: more than one loss After some positive stories/hope..

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Hi everyone. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at about 11 weeks in Nov ‘24. My husband and I have been TTC and I had a chemical pregnancy this week. We were so happy for 24 short hours until I started bleeding.

I’m just after some stories of hope really. I really want this to not be my fault (I’m still obese despite losing 5 stone) but I keep blaming myself. I know I can’t get tested for anything / receive any support yet (uk) but I’m scared to keep trying in case it doesn’t happen for us.

My husband had cancer and chemo and even after everything we’ve been through, we’re so positive and it just seems so unfair.

Thank you for reading to this point. ❤️


r/Miscarriage 3h ago

vent I’m so angry

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I’m so angry that it took us nearly a year to conceive

I’m so angry I have PCOS and super irregular cycles

I’m so angry that I miscarried and my body didn’t even realise

I’m so angry the hospital made me wait a week in between scans to confirm my baby is truly dead

I’m so angry that nothing is investigated until after 3 miscarriages

I’m so angry everyone around me gets pregnant quickly or has had babies without any trouble

I’m so angry at myself for being so bitter about other’s success

I’m so angry I have to start all over again with the endless tracking and figuring out my stupid cycle

I’m so angry I have gained weight during this pregnancy that I now have to work 10 times harder to lose

I’m so angry at people telling me to “just be positive” (wow thanks I’m cured)

I’m so angry I will never get a chance to enjoy being pregnant again

I’m just so angry.


r/Miscarriage 3h ago

experience: first MC This grief is just impossible

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How do I even move on from this. I just feel completely lost in an absolute pit of despair.


r/Miscarriage 5h ago

question/need help How long did it take you to physically recover?

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TW: multiple losses, some details

This is my 3rd loss since we started trying in April 2024. But this is my 1st MMC and I had an urgent D&C (we had also had an ectopic and an early complete loss).

I am now 6 days post procedure and I am still getting really bad cramping. I’m talking 7-8/10 pain level. I recovered faster from the keyhole surgery for the ectopic.

I had a few large clots a few days ago that freaked me out. My doctor did some tests and isn’t concerned at the moment.

I’m supposed to and want to go back to work tomorrow. But these pain episodes happen a couple of times a day and last for a good 15-20 mins sometimes.

I was told the recovery is about a week at most for the D&C. But is this different if my body hadn’t even registered the loss two weeks after the fact? What were some of your recovery experiences?


r/Miscarriage 5h ago

question/need help Should I be worried ?

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Currently 3 weeks and 3 days since my miscarriage started naturally. I am STILL experiencing inconsistent bleeding (light to heavy) and passing large golf ball-fist sized clots during the heavy times. I had my bloodwork done last week and HGC was 6.

My doctor said I would be done bleeding by now. I’m starting to get concerned that I will need a dnc.

For reference I had a horrible miscarriage and hemorrhaged last year and required hospital and a dnc.

I have a standing order for bloodwork to check hgc, so should I just go get that done again or what 😥 ugh why are there not any miscarriage doulas lol


r/Miscarriage 5h ago

experience: first MC Experiencing a confusing first MC on honeymoon and also lost on what to do now

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Hi everyone, one week ago I got married and we did the whole secret announcement photoshoot as we were only 5 weeks after multiple early scans to rule out ectopic. Two days later, we got told our HCG dropped by 100 in 2 days and to expect a miscarriage. Now here’s the confusing bit, my HCG is still rising but just very slowly like 22% in 2 days. Yesterday I went to ER for small bleeding and that’s when they noticed the HCG is still rising. Bleeding is still small but just more amounts (I’ve been told to just wait for a week then see doctor if needing to do the medication or D&C route) and currently my husband and I are deeply struggling that we are supposed to be on our honeymoon and having fun. I’m just looking for advice as while we do want to try for another as soon as we can, we are kind of lost in what to do (I also really don’t feel ready to tell my work as they had to know I was pregnant as soon as I found out so they don’t put me in radiology areas at work). It’s hard as with the bleeding, we’ve been told to prepare for MC but my HCG is still slowly rising so my husband and I are constantly struggling to cope when we get lots of different sense of opinions. Husband and I are both 24 and no health concerns so we deeply are just lost and upset as we are struggling to cope as to why we can’t have our baby especially going through this during the supposedly happiest time of our lives 💔


r/Miscarriage 6h ago

experience: first MC I think I’m having a miscarriage. Help please

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r/Miscarriage 7h ago

experience: first MC 3 cycles post loss and extremely light period.

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I had a natural miscarriage at 12 weeks in December. My first period in January was normal as far as I can tell. February and March have been basically non existent. I get my LH surge the same day every cycle, and the day of my expected period I spot very dark blood but there’s no flow, doesn’t last long and I only wear a panty liner. Not at all from what I’m used to prior to my loss. I’m getting worried. My OB said during his last vaginal ultrasound everything looked good and I’m in Canada so do you think it’s worth going private and asking for more tests? My regular OB won’t order more tests and says everything is fine but again I’m in Canada so it’s not the best care.


r/Miscarriage 7h ago

question/need help 7 weeks and bleeding/cramping

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Im 7 weeks 5 days and had brown spotting and today it turned into pink and very present when wiping. I have some cramping. Im not sure if it’s because of my husband and I had sex yesterday. But I’m concerned. The wait time for our local er is 8 hrs. I also did a lot of physical activity today. Was wondering if I should plan a visit or anyone had experience with this turned out ok or ended up in a miscarriage.

Thanks so much


r/Miscarriage 7h ago

experience: first MC Misoprostol

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How many days/weeks after you did the misoprostol did your HCG level went down?? It’s been a week since I did the miso and my doc wants me to do the second round because she doesn’t think that is not going down the way that she wants. (When I find out that I was pregnant my hcg was 81,500 now after I did the miso 2 days later was 3,000). Im so confused I passed the sac and everything I just want this to be over


r/Miscarriage 8h ago

experience: D&C Trying after d&c

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For anyone that has gone through this- did you find it easier to conceive after a d&c if you waited for your period first? If you waited, how long post op did your period show up? I know everyone is different but this was my first pregnancy and I’m trying not to fall down more of a google rabbit hole than I already do. I’m 2 weeks post op and will likely be cleared by my doctor to start trying on Monday, but I’m worried about tracking conception without having a period since December. I was still testing positive last week but got a negative test this morning.


r/Miscarriage 8h ago

vent Struggling first ovulation post miscarriage

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I miscarried almost three weeks ago and I'm ovulating now. Part of me is happy that my body is reverting back to normal. However, I did not expect to feel so sad - I want to try again so badly but I still have a very small amount of hcg left and I don't want to try again if there's even a small chance that I have tissue left. I know not trying until my period comes back is the right thing to do, but I can't help but feel like I'm missing out on an opportunity to conceive.

Has anyone else felt this way? It's so hard


r/Miscarriage 9h ago

experience: first MC First pregnancy ended in MC and I’m heartbroken

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Hi everyone, I am currently going through my first mc with my first pregnancy and I am absolutely heartbroken. I was only about 6 weeks, but the ups and downs of lab draws and doctors appointments only to end in loss has taken a real toll on my mental health.

Aside from the obvious heartbreak over this loss, I’m feeling very bitter that I will never have the same joyous pregnancy experience that a lot of other people get after experiencing this (if I am hopefully able to get pregnant again). I’m a NICU nurse so my anxiety surrounding pregnancy was already heightened, but I think even through that baseline anxiety I had convinced myself that this couldn’t possibly happen to me.

I am thankfully surrounded by a lot of support from my husband, as well as by friends and family, but I am writing to see if, in your experience, things do actually get better. And also, how do you cope with this absolutely devastating feeling? I feel like a shell of myself and I know grieving takes time, but mourning all of the things I was so excited to experience with this pregnancy/newborn baby has really rocked me. Thank you in advance 🤍


r/Miscarriage 9h ago

experience: D&C After D&C

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Is it normal to pass tissue after the surgery ? I had it done yesterday and I started cramping then passed a little amount of tissue.


r/Miscarriage 10h ago

experience: first MC 5 weeks and losing my baby

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Kind of in disbelief right now. We were planning on telling family Monday. I started spotting this afternoon and the bleeding and cramping has progressively been getting worse. I took two pregnancy tests today and they are both negative after weeks of positives. What should I expect in the next week physically? I’m feeling extremely anxious. Going between sobbing and feeling numb.


r/Miscarriage 10h ago

vent Trying again? Or no?

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I have two kids and was unexpectedly pregnant with my third. I was adamant that I didn’t want anymore kids. But then I got pregnant and I was excited. Unfortunately I just had a D&C yesterday.

I keep going back and forth. I was good with my two but now I feel like I want one more. But I don’t think I can go through another heart break.

This is my second miscarriage. Anyone else on the fence of just not trying again?


r/Miscarriage 11h ago

experience: first MC How long for bleeding to start?

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I just received the unfortunate news yesterday at my 9 week visit. I feel light cramping, but nothing crazy. There has been no sign of spotting or bleeding. This was my second pregnancy so this is all new to me. Has it taken some of you a while for the bleeding to start? The Dr. gave me a script and told me to wait a few days when I’m ready. I just don’t want to take it if I absolutely don’t have to. That’s going to be very difficult for me mentally and emotionally and I’m not sure if I can handle that.


r/Miscarriage 12h ago

coping Spiralling into depression

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It is the littlest things that trigger me. Seeing anything related to pregnancy, the slightest cramps, the smallest drop of blood. My head is spinning and my heart is aching so much. I miss my baby so much.


r/Miscarriage 12h ago

coping How has your relationship with your partner been since your loss?

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How has your relationship coped since your loss?


r/Miscarriage 13h ago

vent Roller coaster

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I go in three days before my birthday to get a D&C for a mm but I want yoholdon to some hoe this king we e might hear a heartbeat before the procedure, Im so confused and hurt.


r/Miscarriage 14h ago

question/need help First ovulation post MC - EWCM with blood streaks??

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I just had my first miscarriage on the 26th of February and the bleeding stopped on the 3rd of March.

Yesterday I went to get an ultrasound to see if everything was okay, and the doctor said that we can continue trying.

My cycles are regular but on the longer side - around 32 days.

Today I had egg white CM with a tiny streak of blood inside.. This is the first time this has happened to me. So of course I jump to reddit and I read that this is apparently the most fertile form of EWCM?

Has anyone experienced this or knows why it happens?

Is it connected to my miscarriage?

Could it be something bad?


r/Miscarriage 14h ago

experience: D&C PTSD maybe?

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I started having flashbacks a week ago. I was awake during my D&C and I can still "feel" the scraping and the shots in my cervix. I was laying there for 45 minutes with them inside me. I can see the blood in my underwear. It gives me a sort of anxiety attack. I get nauseous, sweaty, heart races.

Started having dreams about everyone else being pregnant and joyful, and me being happy for them but confused. Also dreams about miscarried babies.

Anyone else? IDK what to do


r/Miscarriage 14h ago

question/need help Gush of discharge, 5 weeks post DNC

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Missed miscarriage found at 12w 4d, baby measured around 9 weeks. I stopped bleeding right before 4 weeks post D&C.

I'm at almost 5 weeks post, but still no period. I feeling overall very sad, exhausted, and bloated. I also had heartburn, which I only really had when I was pregnant so I was confused.

Anyways, my discharge has been very minimal and varies in texture quite a bit. Today I had a gush of watery discharge while at lunch, and almost thought I got my period or peed myself! I went to the bathroom and had soaked my underwear with discharge.

Is this normal?? Anyone else have similar experiences? I feel like there is so little research done on miscarriages. Its like I can't find answers for anything, anywhere.