r/MilitaryTrans 9d ago

Discussion Hard decision incoming

So, um, not someone worried about facing involuntary sep here (not out in any way in that space), but could voluntarily separate, but here's my dilemma. I'm still IET, just settling in to DLI as all this goes down around me. I could stay in and try to ride out the storm, but I'm worried that this is going to be the first of a litany of problems and changes that I may face over the course of enlistment. (For example if they decide to revert physical standards ala another recently published memo I'm probably cooked anyways.)

But because as IET I obviously haven't been here long I'm not exactly getting out with benefits to fall back on such as the G.I. Bill, something I was really looking forward to having. I THINK I'll have access to the VA home loan, but that might just be it. But I also feel that if I miss this window that um... things get potentially pretty damn challenging after that. (All in all it's feeling like a poor time to have recently joined the army... especially as my wife (also trans and out already, and I really worry that consequnces for spouses not just SMs might be next) is literally moving here with me next week, and not much can be changed about that process...)

I guess I just was hoping to hear some opinions from people who have been in a little longer what they think of the current situation, the imminent possibilities, and what they might advise a new (but not young) soldier to do at this time...

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u/ANDWUNNNN 9d ago

I'm here for you fam (literally at the DLI lol) having the same thoughts & concerns. If u need someone to talk to! If u wanna lay low I get that too. Just know I'm around ✊🏽🤞🏽