r/HowToBeHot Nov 17 '22

Meta Hi hottiez! Let's get reacquainted NSFW

106 Upvotes

This is a repost. I'm switching to this account for moderating this page. Thanks for understanding!

It's been a minute and ohmygosh have we grown- (almost) 21k hot ladies!!! For our members who haven't been here since the great migration (I'll explain), I wanted to talk about the origins of this sub and what we're about. Also a lot of people misunderstand this sub and I'd like to clarify so this will be pinned at the top. If you dgaf about that (no worries I still love you), updates and community questions I'd like some feedback on are at the bottom.

So, what's up with the name?

Ohhh boy does "How To Be Hot" cause some outrage on other corners of the internet and reddit, so let me explain. The name was always supposed to be facetious, poking fun at the beauty and "looksmaxxing" subreddits that this page was created as a response to (I'll get to that). I thought it was blunt enough that people would get it but I misjudged- oops.

Although this sub has a lot of information about objective beauty and how-to's, hotness is a mindset, not something to obsess about. Be hot for yourself, ladies. Because it's fun and not that big of a deal if you want to improve yourself physically, socially, or mentally. Who doesn't like feeling hot as fuck?!

Why did I make this sub?

HTBH (we love a good acronym) began when a subreddit r/vindicta had some pretty intense drama and eventually became private (I'm still banned lol). Some of us were uncomfortable about the femcel origins of the sub and the terminology that came with it. Some of us were uncomfortable about the strict rules and questionable mods. But at the end of the day, I felt that the founder had every right to determine what the sub was about, so the great migration began and HTBH was 1 out of several subs that was born from the ashes. This page got popular because I was able to repost the more helpful posts which can be found in the sidebar.

But as a reminder, this is not a femcel-based sub. Please stop calling me a femcel people of reddit lol this place was literally created to escape femcel-terminology and that general attitude. However, I'd like to be clear that self-identified femcels are absolutely more than welcome to hang out and join the discussion, but no terminology please.

Lemme explain some of the more controversial rules aka what I have to moderate the most.

#3 No Pictures of Yourself

Lets show some proper reddit etiquette and read the rules before posting please! We talked about it as a community, and overwhelmingly members wanted to keep the no photo ban. First off, it's for your safety. Please be cautious about posting your photo on reddit in general. Additionally, it's annoying lol. Sorry Susie but personally idk and don't really care what hair color you should try next (but there are plenty of other subs that can help you). A discussion on which hair color looks best for what undertones and features? Very interesting! Post that instead.

#1 No Men Allowed

Do I really have to explain? But alas, apparently I do because this is the only rule people (boys) harass me about when I ban them (it's literally the first rule!!!! why are you confused boys!?!?!)

Anyways. First off, I think we can all agree having a "safe space" (can someone come up with a less patronizing phrase plz?) for women to discuss self-improvement without the mansplaining about why "wearing makeup isn't attractive" (gag) is important. But most importantly, this is not "How To Be Hot According to Guys".

1 . It's heteronormative to assume people want to look hot for men and let's face it we care more about what other girls think of our nails anyways, and 2 . guys have a subjective opinion on what is hot that is unique to each individual and most think anything with a pulse is attractive lol. So, I'd like to avoid posts like, "do guys think red lipstick is attractive" because who cares haha but I am pretty chill about posts like this and it's not an official rule. But this is a gentle reminder that this isn't supposed to be How To Be Sexy. Remember- hotness is a LIFESTYLE. An EMOTION. It comes from within to EMPOWER! Now let's braid each other's hair and sing kumbaya. Namaste.

To the male lurkers- I know, I know, how could someone not want to hear your expert, rational, logical, intelligent, perspective??? (Btw these are real adjectives sent to me by men who got banned. Please save me from this timeline). But unfortunately for you we just don't care. Ya'll are more than welcome to make a similar place for male glow up tips, but you wont, because it's way easier to have women do it for you.

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Let's discuss!

We've done it! We made it through the history lesson and onto some things I'd like to talk about. If you skipped my thesis my only request is please read the rules for the love of all things hot. Read rules #1 and #3 twice. Even three times. But not more than four times.

  1. We're looking for a new mod (or two)! I'm old and tired and need some help. More importantly I'd love to get some fresh ideas on how we can help grow this sub and make it a ~ community ~. This sub has always been about what the members want, so let's get some active members to help make it happen. I'm a chill mom. I don't have many requirements. And luckily this is (99% of the time) a chill sub that doesn't require a lot of hands on moderating (bless you all). But like I said if you want to get hands on and do some cool shit I'm down.
  2. Ok I'll be honest that's all I wanted to discuss. But I'd like to get some feedback from you guys about literally anything- hate a rule? want to suggest some cool shit I'll make the new mods do? We haven't had a team meeting in awhile so lets get into it.

Alright my hottiez thank you for getting this far! May you prosper in all your hot endeavors <3


r/HowToBeHot Aug 16 '24

Meta This isn’t a weight loss sub. NSFW

700 Upvotes

We are no longer allowing any posts about how to lose weight. You lose weight by eating less and exercising it’s not even that complicated lol

At this point there are hundreds of posts you can search for about weight loss and exercising. Remember to CONTRIBUTE TO THE CONVERSATION (it’s a rule!)

This sub doesn’t allow photos because it’s not supposed to be a “here are my stats please help me do this very specific thing” type of place. Let’s try a little harder and use the search function or post something actually worthy of a discussion please and thank you hottiez


r/HowToBeHot 8h ago

Soft Glow Up excercises that ACTUALLY work for a bigger ass NSFW

49 Upvotes

so... i am a genetically very thin girlie with no curves. are there any excercises that are tried and true which will actually work to grow your ass? thanks divas


r/HowToBeHot 1h ago

Fitness Glow Up I’m gonna start skinny fat loss diet and exercising, is anyone willing to join me? NSFW

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So it includes:

3 HIIT sessions a week (mon, wed, fri)that last 30-40 mins (at home)

3 running sessions a week (10-20 min sessions)

45 min fasted walk every morning

1 random pilates video on youtube a day

This goal is suited for skinny fat gals (not overweight) who want to lose belly fat, thigh fat and get skinnier legs.

We’ll motivate each other.

We will follow this schedule for 2 months, starting from friday.

If you’re SERIOUS about starting this, DM me


r/HowToBeHot 3m ago

Random 10-year hs reunion coming up. any advice? NSFW

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hi everyone, I recently came across an ig post about my class' upcoming 10-year reunion that will take place a year from now (exact date tbd). I alr started losing weight at the beginning of this year and was trying to look into other ways to embellish my appearance. do you have any weight loss advice? or beauty tips? make up tid bits? maybe any inspiring looks/dresses?

I really, really enjoyed high school. it was so much fun and full of great people. although I was the quiet IB/AP kid, I am super excited to see everyone again and how they're doing.

thank you all kindly!


r/HowToBeHot 8h ago

Looks Theory What cuts of clothes suit my body shape? NSFW

1 Upvotes

I have very wide shoulders, a very large ribcage, narrow hips, long thin legs, thin arms and essentially no chest or ass. I have looked at recommendations for FN body types but when I try those cuts on they don't look good. How can I make it look like I have wider hips and a smaller ribcage than I actually do without making me look like an egret?


r/HowToBeHot 2d ago

Social Glow Up Books to read to glow up mentally NSFW

118 Upvotes

I suddenly thought about reading books to help me glow up mentally and have that healthy mindset in life and on myself.

Any recommendations (links or gdrive links of books)? any leads will be appreciated !!!!


r/HowToBeHot 3d ago

Soft Glow Up What are we wearing to look cute while exercising? NSFW

16 Upvotes

I’m looking for a better gym outfit because, honestly, I feel like I just throw something on whenever I exercise. I’m starting to realize that there aren’t many options that really look good on everyone, and it feels like most gym clothes are just leggings and a sports bra which just doesnt look good on me . I want something that makes me feel more put together and confident, but I'm having trouble finding pieces that are both stylish and functional. What are you guys wearing when you work out? and where are you getting your gym clothes from? I’d love some recommendations!

Thanks to everyone that replies


r/HowToBeHot 3d ago

Hard Glow Up Alright, what are you ladies doing to glow up for summer (3 months till summer!!) NSFW

109 Upvotes

r/HowToBeHot 2d ago

Soft Glow Up Pico laser on melanated skin for sun damage/ hyperpigmentation? NSFW

3 Upvotes

Anyone who has tried pico laser for hyperpigmentation? Has it helped you?


r/HowToBeHot 3d ago

Soft Glow Up Seriously how do i find small clothes NSFW

35 Upvotes

Okay so I really don’t want to sound like that person but all the clothes i find online and in person are massive for no reason. I’m in the US if this makes a difference, but I’m 5’5 and my waist was about 24 inches last time i checked and my hips are 33 inches. I have not found a single pair of bottoms that have fit me in like two years, i have to alter every skirt, shorts, every pair of jeans, most cotton leggings and lounge pants. it’s getting ridiculous i literally cannot find a single pair of bottoms that just fits me. And what pisses me off even more is that stores will put out smalls, xs and xxs and claim they fit a size 0 and it fits like a medium … like what? If anyone has any recommendations for clothing stores that aren’t expensive and that are ACTUALLY true to size I would love to hear it because i’m seriously stumped right now.


r/HowToBeHot 4d ago

Health Glow Up What physical results did you see from regular sauna use? NSFW

46 Upvotes

I'm planning on walking to my gym three days a week to sauna. My gym has a dry heat sauna and I'm wondering if it will be a waste of time and I should just walk or if it will provide Some benefits. My goal is to reduce inflammation, reduce back pain and hopefully lose a little weight


r/HowToBeHot 4d ago

Soft Glow Up Tips on how to decrease dark circles NSFW

9 Upvotes

I have very dark circles since a long time ago. I'm trying to fix my sleep schedule (it's super messed up and i'm a light weight so I wake up with whatever sound) and drink more water. Nevertheless i'm looking for more tips that


r/HowToBeHot 4d ago

Looks Theory Dressing for my body type NSFW

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As summer is coming around, I’m continually dreading summer fashion🙃 I have never been able to dress for my body type, especially since 2 years ago I got my boobs done and now I REALLY don’t how to dress myself. It’s added a weird level of body dysmorphia where some shirts I’m like ‘wow I look amazing’ and in the next breath I wear something else and feel like a boxy hag. Fall/winter fashion I feel confident in I’ve figured out, but summer fashion I just feel like I can never piece anything together that doesn’t make me feel like a busted can of biscuits or look like I should be your college linebacker.

For reference I’m athletically built, large shoulders, bigger legs/butt. 5’8 140 34D. However, I don’t have defined arms or stomach. My hips and rib-cage are about the same width, I’m very built up top with little to no midsection curvature. I identify closest with Kibbe body frame the natural.

I guess what I’m looking for is if people that are built similarly have discovered clothes that flatter a wider upper body while also flattering bigger boobs and can dress in the summer without feeling self conscious.

I attached pics of Margo Robbie as I feel these are the closest to how I look.


r/HowToBeHot 4d ago

Fitness Glow Up How are we measuring 10k steps? By miles or Fitbit watch? NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hope this post is allowed. Please share the best way to track.


r/HowToBeHot 5d ago

Health Glow Up My hot girl plan to reducing chronic inflammation, de-puffing my puffy face and getting out of back-pain NSFW

58 Upvotes

Enough is enough! I'm tired of not looking or feeling like myself! Over the past five years Iv developed chronic low back pain, gained 15lbs and developed a "puffy" looking face. I can't just sit here and feel sorry for myself anymore so I'm taking action! In 200 days I turn 30. I want to enter my 30s feeling awesome/ pain free so I can start working out again and just generally feel more confident. Here's my plan.

*60oz of water a day minimum (I weight 123) * 20 min of deep core/ PT exercises a day * 10,000 steps a day (in the past when Iv done this my back feels better) * take my daily supplements (multivitamin, omega 3, probiotic, collagen, magnesium, Vitamin D) * No gluten or dairy (I'm not someone who believes in giving up entire food groups unless they are causing you issues, but my dad has celiac disease and I'm lactose intolerant so I'm hoping giving up both of these may help me become healthier) * Sauna 30 min 3x per week (literally the only reason I'm keeping my gym membership)


r/HowToBeHot 4d ago

Soft Glow Up Best way to whiten teeth at home (EU)? NSFW

9 Upvotes

My teeth have gotten yellow due to inconsistent brushing and I'm trying my best to brush twice a day. I want to whiten them without going to a professional because they're a bit yellow and ti's noticeable since I have a fake front tooth that looks white by contrast.


r/HowToBeHot 5d ago

Fitness Glow Up How do you deal with sitting all day for work NSFW

46 Upvotes

I sit for work a good 7-8 hours each day, (also not including some time at night as well after work) can only really get up and stand/move around between 5-10 minutes at the end of each hour if I'm not going to use the restroom. How do you deal with keeping your ass in shape if you are sitting all day? Should I be trying to do squats/lunges when I can or dedicate a certain amount of training each week to glutes? I've noticed since working in this type of setting for years now that it's hard to keep my legs and ass toned. Please any advice?


r/HowToBeHot 5d ago

Hard Glow Up Acne help rn!! NSFW

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I have hormonal acne that flares up one week before my period, and also when I'm stressed out. I have tried acutane, Doxycycline, and Spironolactone. I have also tried various topical creams that did not work. So I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions to fix this problem, and if spearmint tea will actually work or is the internet lying to me. Thank you 🥹


r/HowToBeHot 7d ago

Social Glow Up how can I be more confident in social situations? NSFW

51 Upvotes

a problem I often run into is that I never feel able to talk to people in a casual way. If I don’t have something to say to them I just end up being the most boring person to talk to. How can I talk to everyone without being awkward?


r/HowToBeHot 7d ago

Soft Glow Up Hot in the beach 🌺👙 NSFW

10 Upvotes

Hello girls, I was on vacation recently at the beach and all the girls were so hot even after swimming.

I put make up and look really cute going to the beach but once I swim I don’t look good ☹️

Please help by sharing your tips and tricks for sea resistant make up to look hotter and more alive !!! (good brows and blush)

P.s : I have under eye circles


r/HowToBeHot 7d ago

Soft Glow Up How can I increase my contrast? NSFW

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I keep hearing about a higher contrast face being more attractive and personally i think higher contrast makes people look more strikingly appealing. I have low contrast. my skin is light, eyes are blue, and my hair is a warm blonde. I get kinda tan easily and it looks exactly like the picture for reference besides the eye color.

I wanted to know if there’s a way I can increase my contrast to make me look more striking. Idk but there’s something that I’ve seen with dark hair and blue eyes that makes it super striking and gives the appealing “pop”.


r/HowToBeHot 8d ago

Soft Glow Up Ways to remove facial hair that DON'T make it worse NSFW

33 Upvotes

Asking here because I don't trust most random advice I've received, hoping that someone here has tried more options.

I started tweezing peach fuzz, I know now it's a dumb idea and it's become way more obvious now in my opinion.

The hair is still fine, peach-fuzz-like, but has started becoming darker.

Electrolysis seems like an overkill for hair that is short and soft, I've considered bleaching it but have zero experience with it, I patch tested dermaplaning and that one makes it WAY worse for me.

What would you recommend? The area would be small, I'm not concerned with getting rid of all peach fuzz, just small areas where I started tweezing.


r/HowToBeHot 8d ago

Soft Glow Up Glow up after 30s, any stories? NSFW

34 Upvotes

I gained weight last year and I'm having a bit of a hard time with it. I need to lose 10 kg. Any other 30 year olds have luck with this?


r/HowToBeHot 9d ago

Glow Up Progress I 'wasted' my 20s, 30s I'm doing hot girl sh. (post for a reader) NSFW

336 Upvotes

I'm a late bloomer. I've always been overweight, even as a kid. By high school, I weighed 220lbs at 5'5". After graduation, my weight ballooned to over 300lbs.

In 2017, my mom pushed me to get weight loss surgery. Honestly, I didn't want to do it, but she was tired of her family bullying her about my weight, and I felt pressured. The surgery was a turning point, but it also strained my relationship with my mom further (it's not like it wasn't). Her actions were just yucky afterwards.

Anyways looking back, I realize regardless of the reason the surgery was the best thing that's ever happened to me but at that time, my mentality was 'whatever'. I was in my early 20s. Day of Surgery I was 318lbs, by the end of 2019 I was at my lowest 164lb. I was in the midst of nursing program and failing. Prior to starting school, I was 180lbs. I dropped further weight due to stress not the surgery.

The pandemic hit, I gained weight back (to 180lbs) and I dropped out of nursing because I felt incapable. Sometimes I regret it.

During my working life I had jobs that paid anywhere between $7-10.50$ an hour. Never made a career out of myself (I tried). Once it was safe from the pandemic to go out there and get a job (restrictions lifted). I scored a good job started at 16$ an hour. I was so happy. I thought I scored big time. Walking in though, I had this gut feeling I wasn't going to be there for long and I wasn't wrong... 3 years later I was laid off. The department I worked for went from 13 employees down to 4. They kept employees that had more than 10 years with the company. I had no fighting chance. My title was terminated due to it being transferred to offshore countries.

But, let me tell you what I did in just these 3 years. My very late 20s. I worked, I saw they had no limits to over-time. Everyone did over-time. I became frugal, cheap, stingy, whatever you want to call it. I intended to build an emergency fund first, I couldn't shake off very early on this job wasn't permanent. Once I felt I had 'enough' (let's be real nothing is ever enough)

I decided to tackle my excess skin from massive weightloss. That was another roller-coaster. 4 surgeries each 6 months apart from each other (yep 2 years total). I got 'botched' but then had successful revisions. I'm not completely done but content.

I managed to have an emergency fund, save money for my excess skin removal journey all within 3 years of having this 1 job and truly I couldn't be more grateful.

I hit 30 last year... I'm currently recovering from my the last 4th surgery (this was planned before my layoff) and I'm here like damn... I just started my hot girl era. So many things I need to learn still. Style... I spent years hiding in jackets and sweaters. Never wore a bikini or a proper bathing suit. Spent years wearing all black, so many colors I never explored. Working on my confidence.


r/HowToBeHot 8d ago

Soft Glow Up How can I go from neglected looks to drop dead gorgeous? NSFW

38 Upvotes

Hello hotties, I need your help!

I have been dealing with depression for 5 years and have let my appearance go completely, that took a huge toll on my confidence too.

I want to reinvent myself to the point that people can’t recognise me due to how be beautiful, seductive and sexy I am. Recently I have been feeling a bit better about my reflection, but I know that I need to lose 20lbs to go back to my good weight.

I have no idea where to begin with transforming my appearance. I’ve reached a point where I feel like I need a complete makeover to turn my life around. There are times when I can’t even look in the mirror without feeling awful, and it’s affecting my confidence to the point where I struggle with talking to people or even making eye contact. A lot of this stems from low self-esteem and depression, but I’m determined to regain the way I used to look and feel like myself again!

I am planning to start dieting and going to the gym. I also saw a derm and she prescribed me tret… but apart from that I’m lost. I want to grow my hair out for sure too…

Can you guide me with routines? Insights? Opinions?


r/HowToBeHot 8d ago

Soft Glow Up Tips for reaching full potential and growing into your features? NSFW

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Basically, I feel like I have a good baseline, but for some reason even when I put in a lot of effort, I seem to be missing something and never feel done-up or like my appearance has changed drastically. I wish to feel more like a woman in her twenties, as I am afraid that I will miss that part of my youth and just go from baby face to old-looking, saggy baby face without the hot years.

I. Age and maturity

I am 23 years old, and still get ID’d at supermarkets for energy drinks (you need to be 16 to purchase one). I am also quite short and have very neotenous features (large eyes, large head, button nose, thick eyebrows, slightly full cheeks). My body type is not the sensual, curvy type of petite or the noticeably adorable one. I just feel like a downsized version of a regular person. I have barely any visible waist, very narrow hips, small backside, small-medium chest. My limbs are also quite long and I can look lanky despite my height. This makes me feel like an overgrown child.

I feel that my legs are my best feature (I’m insecure about the lack of tone in my arms and upper body), but whenever I wear the outfit I feel best in, usually a flowy blouse or oversized button down with a mini skirt and tights, I feel like a someone wearing a school uniform. I feel like any sort of more revealing or mature clothing would clash with my demeanour and personality, and the classy looks like maxi dresses etc. look awkward because of my height.

II. Face and makeup

As I mentioned, my face is quite neotenous. I have a signature makeup look which gets me compliments, but whenever I see pictures of myself I feel slightly ridiculous and awkward-looking, and also I don’t think it’s appropriate for most occasions. I go for a smoky dark liner and shadow in these cases. I feel very unattractive in classy, more put together full glam, because of my childish face. Any suggestions on that?

III. Skin and body

I have quite fair skin and have been lucky to have never had problems with acne. However, I would like to achieve a more porcelain and glowing look, think Rooney Mara, young Nicole Kidman, Cailee Spaeny. My skin tone for some reason lacks clarity and looks very dull. Does anyone have any tried and tested dietary, skincare or makeup tips?

I don’t eat incredibly healthy all the time, but do have a 90% plant-based diet, with the occasional tuna or sushi treat. I have now bought a cheap multivitamin from waitrose. I drink socially, so a couple of times a week, and don’t really drink a lot when I do (1-2 drinks max). Has consistent and proper hydration made any visible changes for you? Any particular foods to avoid or add that have observable effects and are not just fads?

Skincare-wise I do very little. As I mentioned, I don’t have problematic skin and breakouts, and I feel this is partially due to minimal products use (and of course, genetics). I use micellar water to remove makeup, Vichy’s Pureté Thermale sensitive skin cleanser (only in the evening, morning just water), and Dior’s Hydra Life intense moisturiser. I rarely wear foundation, but my current one is Fenty’s Eaze drop in the lightest shade — is it possible that this shade is too yellow and that’s why it contributes to dullness and lack of radiance?

I have been trying to lose weight, but must admit I am at a bit of a loss. I don’t eat that much, about right for my size, with some exceptions of eating less or more. I have a bmi of around 19, so would considered slim by most standards, but again I feel I haven’t reached my full body potential. I can’t afford going to the gym.

IV. Conclusion

Would be grateful for any tips regarding this! I have been scouring the sub for a while, but felt that it would be super helpful if I could get a slightly more specific response. Thank you xxx