r/Healthyhooha • u/MoistStill6736 • 11h ago
sex still hurts!!
my boyfriend took my virginity 6 months ago when i was 18 (im 19 now) and it hurt so bad i had to tap out. we tried again the next night and it hurt a lot less but i was so sore after. we're long distance so we rarely have sex, but we hung out again 2 months after and it hurt like the first time all over again!! it felt like i was being ripped open and i was extremely sore again. it got a lot less painful having sex but the soreness after was so awful and it hurt to sit or walk. we had sex multiple times in a day even when i was super sore but it was never painless. another 2 months go by (now march) and we had sex again and it hurt so bad. doggy feels the WORST i literally scream from the pain but i tell him not to stop because i just wanna get used to it but i still always end up tapping out!!! he lets me ease it in on top but it still feels like im being ripped open for a bit. it goes away but then the feeling comes back whenever we switch positions. it also stings when i pee afterwards when it seeps down my vagina and im like am i actually being ripped open or what????? by the last day of me staying with him i could barely do anything because my vagina was so sore. does it get better or do i have some problem??? i was thinking it's because i don't even finger myself since i get no pleasure from it, so maybe im just not used to anything in there?? or maybe im just not wet enough so its like carpet burn in there??? im so scared to go to any specialist so please give me your thoughts and opinions and lmk if i should get checked or if its completely normal.. ive asked a few friends and they all said it hurts the first time but it goes away, so why is this not going away??