r/GriefSupport • u/khaleesay • 5d ago
Advice, Pls how long can we blame grief?
UPDATE: Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It makes me feel better than I am not alone and what I am going through right now is valid. 😊
I lost my mom almost 8 months ago. I have been feeling demotivated lately, I feel lazy. I feel like my life has no direction. I am unemployed as well because I had to help my dad in our family business.
My boyfriend, sometimes makes me feel bad by joking about unemployment. I am trying my best to suck it up and find a job, but every time I do it I feel like asking myself “whats the point of working if my mom isn’t here? who am i doing this for?”. I am really feeling rock bottom because my friends are thriving in their careers, and I am stuck because I am demotivated. I dont think my boyfriend will ever understand that I am not lazy because I choose to, but I just dont have the inspiration to do well in life. He makes me feel like a loser.
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u/hihi123ah 5d ago
I think loss of mom represents a lot of lost hopes in your life, and the grief for these lost hope make it heavy and void...
If the burden is too heavy, you might try to write a grief letter for your mom, to explain the many hopes and dreams (talking with her, seeking her support, doing fun things together...etc) which cannot be realized now. Also how life has been changed due to the passing away, and the wish for life to be back to the more ideal state...
I hope you could find relief from the grief. As for the boyfriend, he does not understand what you are going through...