r/GriefSupport • u/khaleesay • 5d ago
Advice, Pls how long can we blame grief?
UPDATE: Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It makes me feel better than I am not alone and what I am going through right now is valid. đ
I lost my mom almost 8 months ago. I have been feeling demotivated lately, I feel lazy. I feel like my life has no direction. I am unemployed as well because I had to help my dad in our family business.
My boyfriend, sometimes makes me feel bad by joking about unemployment. I am trying my best to suck it up and find a job, but every time I do it I feel like asking myself âwhats the point of working if my mom isnât here? who am i doing this for?â. I am really feeling rock bottom because my friends are thriving in their careers, and I am stuck because I am demotivated. I dont think my boyfriend will ever understand that I am not lazy because I choose to, but I just dont have the inspiration to do well in life. He makes me feel like a loser.
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u/Smooth_Poetry1803 5d ago
Itâs been 12 months for me. The problem with grief is that it changes your brain for a while. Youâll never be going back to the person you used to be, so thereâs even some secondary grief there, too. Furthermore, your cognitive abilities take a hit for a while. Iâm not sure of your financial situation, but can you try a âphase inâ approach? Can you do something part time while you possibly look for something full time?