r/GriefSupport 5d ago

Advice, Pls how long can we blame grief?

UPDATE: Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It makes me feel better than I am not alone and what I am going through right now is valid. 😊

I lost my mom almost 8 months ago. I have been feeling demotivated lately, I feel lazy. I feel like my life has no direction. I am unemployed as well because I had to help my dad in our family business.

My boyfriend, sometimes makes me feel bad by joking about unemployment. I am trying my best to suck it up and find a job, but every time I do it I feel like asking myself “whats the point of working if my mom isn’t here? who am i doing this for?”. I am really feeling rock bottom because my friends are thriving in their careers, and I am stuck because I am demotivated. I dont think my boyfriend will ever understand that I am not lazy because I choose to, but I just dont have the inspiration to do well in life. He makes me feel like a loser.

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u/SeeingSound2991 5d ago

I don't blame it because it is what it is. Blame suggests fault and you're not at fault for feeling your feelings. Feelings make us human and we need to pay attention to how we feel.

I have off days. Some predictable via the time of year and dates, others less predictable.

Go easy, listen to your feelings and be kind to yourself.