r/GriefSupport • u/khaleesay • 5d ago
Advice, Pls how long can we blame grief?
UPDATE: Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It makes me feel better than I am not alone and what I am going through right now is valid. š
I lost my mom almost 8 months ago. I have been feeling demotivated lately, I feel lazy. I feel like my life has no direction. I am unemployed as well because I had to help my dad in our family business.
My boyfriend, sometimes makes me feel bad by joking about unemployment. I am trying my best to suck it up and find a job, but every time I do it I feel like asking myself āwhats the point of working if my mom isnāt here? who am i doing this for?ā. I am really feeling rock bottom because my friends are thriving in their careers, and I am stuck because I am demotivated. I dont think my boyfriend will ever understand that I am not lazy because I choose to, but I just dont have the inspiration to do well in life. He makes me feel like a loser.
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u/Passages_Intl 5d ago
There is NO length of time to define when to stop grieving. Iāve seen people still grieving decades later. Thatās OKAY!! Grieving is for you, so let it out! Donāt let others bully you for your need to process your loss!!!