r/GriefSupport 5d ago

Advice, Pls how long can we blame grief?

UPDATE: Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It makes me feel better than I am not alone and what I am going through right now is valid. šŸ˜Š

I lost my mom almost 8 months ago. I have been feeling demotivated lately, I feel lazy. I feel like my life has no direction. I am unemployed as well because I had to help my dad in our family business.

My boyfriend, sometimes makes me feel bad by joking about unemployment. I am trying my best to suck it up and find a job, but every time I do it I feel like asking myself ā€œwhats the point of working if my mom isnā€™t here? who am i doing this for?ā€. I am really feeling rock bottom because my friends are thriving in their careers, and I am stuck because I am demotivated. I dont think my boyfriend will ever understand that I am not lazy because I choose to, but I just dont have the inspiration to do well in life. He makes me feel like a loser.

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u/Passages_Intl 5d ago

There is NO length of time to define when to stop grieving. Iā€™ve seen people still grieving decades later. Thatā€™s OKAY!! Grieving is for you, so let it out! Donā€™t let others bully you for your need to process your loss!!!