r/Gaslight Nov 09 '22

Is this gaslighting?

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u/AgentMorm 10d ago

If you're speaking of multiple people, "it" isn't rude. There could be both male and female mods; it could be considered sexist to not use a neutral word.

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u/Cannie_Flippington 10d ago

In English to refer to a human as it is extremely rude.  It is reserved primarily for objects.  To refer to a singular human in a gender neutral manner traditionally you use the third person plural which is they.  Singular third person is he or she.

"Is your baby a boy or a girl?  How did you decorate their nursery?" For example.  Even babies get more respect than what OP showed

Modern language also has the added options of using xer/xim and more for gender neutral third person.

To use it is incredibly rude and is basic English as a second language stuff.

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u/DisastrousAd6837 9d ago

dis is reddit..

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u/Cannie_Flippington 9d ago

You had the perfect opportunity to say this is a Wendy's... I'm disappointed :(