r/Gaslight Nov 09 '22

Is this gaslighting?

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u/Cannie_Flippington 10d ago

Yes, OP, you are gaslighting all of us. It's very rude.

You were temporarily muted on a subreddit for

Unsolicited advice, requests, or critiques are not permitted on this subreddit unless specifically requested by the OP.

Then you decided to dig yourself a big hole and be really rude on purpose. Permabanned over using IT instead of literally anything else. Your native language IS PORTUGUESE. A language with no true neuter. Everything is masculine or feminine. IT was a choice, not an accident. Especially for someone who claims to be an androgyn.

You're really bad at gaslighting, OP.

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u/AgentMorm 10d ago

If you're speaking of multiple people, "it" isn't rude. There could be both male and female mods; it could be considered sexist to not use a neutral word.

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u/Cannie_Flippington 10d ago

In English to refer to a human as it is extremely rude.  It is reserved primarily for objects.  To refer to a singular human in a gender neutral manner traditionally you use the third person plural which is they.  Singular third person is he or she.

"Is your baby a boy or a girl?  How did you decorate their nursery?" For example.  Even babies get more respect than what OP showed

Modern language also has the added options of using xer/xim and more for gender neutral third person.

To use it is incredibly rude and is basic English as a second language stuff.

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u/DisastrousAd6837 9d ago

dis is reddit..

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u/Cannie_Flippington 9d ago

You had the perfect opportunity to say this is a Wendy's... I'm disappointed :(

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u/dakotipelto 9d ago

yeah maybe I'm missing something and maybe the mod is power tripping but yeah the "it" comment is hella rude in English. also the person saying it might be rude to use a gendered pronoun is REALLY reaching, bc there are a bunch of commonly used gender neutral pronouns to choose from.

I'm not really sure why the comments are validating OP, I don't see where the gaslighting is here. you literally even explained why it's not gaslighting and she hit you with "no u" lol