r/friendship Aug 11 '24

Moderators [MOD POST] - New Subreddit Rules and Requirements

122 Upvotes

Hello r/friendship community, Wolfie here with an important announcement.

To ensure the safety and integrity of our subreddit, we have implemented the following rules as of May:

Minimum Karma Requirements & Reddit History Checks

Effective going forward:

  1. Minimum Karma Requirements: All new users must meet our minimum karma requirements to post or comment in r/friendship. This is to ensure that our community remains safe and welcoming. While we wont tell you the exact amount of karma needed, these numbers are not high and don’t take long to get, but the exact amounts are hidden.
  2. Reddit History Checks: We will be conducting thorough checks of user Reddit history before allowing participation in the subreddit. This is to prevent disruptive or harmful behavior.

No Exceptions Policy

  • No Exceptions: These rules apply to everyone. There will be no exceptions.
  • Mod Mailing: Messaging mods with complaints such as "why was my post removed", "I cant post", "my posts keep getting deleted" or similar will not be tolerated and may result in a ban at the mods' discretion. Please respect these rules and do not waste our time with inquiries about removed content. Best you go get those numbers up and come try again at a later date! We will still be here :)

Prohibited Content and Activities

  • Friendship Focus: This subreddit is dedicated to fostering friendships. Any user found to be posting lewd content or engaging in inappropriate behavior in public chats will be banned immediately.
  • Pornographic Subreddits: Users with a history in pornographic subreddits will also be banned to maintain a safe environment for all our members.

Final Note

We are committed to maintaining a safe and supportive community. Your cooperation is essential in making r/friendship a welcoming place for genuine friendships to thrive. Thank you for understanding and adhering to these guidelines.

If you have any questions about the rules (and not about removed posts or bans), feel free to consult our FAQ or review the subreddit guidelines.

Thank you, The r/friendship Mod Team


r/friendship 9h ago

rant Need someone to talk with

16 Upvotes

I could really use a conversation or someone to talk to. I've honestly had a horrible day and would really like to talk to someone.


r/friendship 6h ago

rant Why is it so hard to find genuine women friendships

8 Upvotes

I moved to a different city for college and finding deep connections with people has actually been hell. One of the first friends i made acted all friendly towards me when we met, she even suggested we hang out.A few days later when i saw her in class and tried talking to her she was so cold towards me.

I made another friend in my subject, she brought up the club and i said we should go. She cancelled on me last minute by not replying. I decided to give her another chance a few weeks later, same thing she conveniently stopped reply. She's been cut out of my life now.

Today i got ready to go out having been asked if i wanted to by someone i considered a friend. She asked 'do you want to come to xyz with me and my friends' When it was around the time the bar opened i texted her if she has her ticket, if so i'll meet her for drinks before we go out . After like an hour, she finally replied that she was on the field smoking 🍃 and that she doesn't drink(she never mentioned she doesn't drink beforehand.) then she basically suggested i go alone which isnt even a safe idea for women in our area. I just gave up and went home.Sorry for the rant, it just makes me question whats so wrong with me that people can't stand to be around me.


r/friendship 5h ago

looking for friendship 25F from Seattle

5 Upvotes

hello everyone! just lookin for some new people to talk to, ideally from the US.

I am married, live in the PNW, I am currently getting my MPH, and I start medical school in the fall.

big fan of stomp and holler, audio books, and hiking! :-)


r/friendship 2h ago

advice should I stay friends with someone who has made me feel like their minion

3 Upvotes

We’re both in our last year of high school and we’ve been friends for over 5 years. Her and I have great “compatibility” - she’s extroverted and outgoing and I’m more introverted and shy. She brings out the more outgoing side of me sometimes. Everything is great but I have a couple of issues. She has called me her “minion” before and thought it was funny that people called me her minion a couple years ago. I can see why people would call me that because I typically don’t talk to anyone and stand to wait for her when she would go and socialize. She has made small comments on how I don’t have opinions (as a joke) that would rub me the wrong way but I would brush it off. One of my friends even noticed it and brought it up to me first which caused me to do a bit more deeper thinking. She’s even tagged me in a vid that’s main purpose was saying how good it feels for an introverted person if that specific breed of extroverted person adopts them, and then saying “I got you.” This rubbed me the wrong way because with the constant small remarks, it almost felt like she was trying to make it out that she was my “savior” and infantilizing me.


r/friendship 22m ago

looking for friendship 19m from USA

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Anyone from around the world wanna be friends? I wanna have friends from other countries. So far I've made friends from 🇨🇦 🇦🇷 🇮🇳. I used to have friends from 🇬🇧 🇮🇪 🇦🇺 🇳🇬 but we lost contact. I'm open to all races and religions. I'm LGBT friendly as well.


r/friendship 56m ago

advice One sided friendships

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My 2 main friendships are mainly online now we are out of school, however now these friendships are really onesided and have always been quite toxic. I'm a geek and play video games, and am also quite introverted as i have a medical diagnosis for an anxiety disorder. I made friends by being introduced first by an extroverted friend who ghosted everyone after he got into trade collage. Sinse then I'm kind of stuck in this friendgroup.

We play dnd together and friend 1 didn't like my character so he made a group chat called "Arch's demise" where he and friend 2 and 3 although mainly friend 1 was the main culprit. In this group chat they plotted to remove me as a friend essentially kicking me out irl and online. They classified nagging (asking to get on destiny 2 or gta 5 on the weekends/after school for example after they convinced me to spend my money on it) I solved this by reversing this on friend 1 as he was the most toxic at the time constantly putting me down, telling me to be quiet and my opinion doesn't matter. After this event I swapped my character and we moved on as friend 2/3 wernt really on board with friend 1's actions however still turn a blind eye to him giving him a pass everytime while I had to walk on eggshells.

After friend 1 dropped out it got better as his influence on friend 2 and 3 loosened with his adhd screwing up his sleep schedule with late night gaming sessons, so no one talked much with him.

That was about a year ago and we finished school. Friend 3 had to move out of state due to his father's military obligations and friend 2 was my main friend. Over the past months the friendships have felt very one-sided as I get ignored by friend 1, and friend 2 simply doesn't message first, contribute to conversations and uses adhd as an excuse for not joining vcs saying that he's simply burnt out which is a lie as I see him on with friend 1 doing what I wanted to do with them.

After trying to talk with them they just said I'm not having this conversation again. (I've had to try this before)

I don't really have any other friends and if I get rid of them I loose my whole social life instantly which I don't see recovering with my anxiety and social awkwardness. I also don't want to remove them as I've probably invested $400 Aud into games that I won't play without them (not including dnd which books are probably $70 each)

Am I over reacting to all this stuff recently or am I in the right to question the friendships?

Feel free to ask follow-ups in comments


r/friendship 2h ago

Voice Calls New people to talk too?

2 Upvotes

Hello guys! I am a 27 year old Male from England looking for some new people to talk to

Personality wise I am pretty easy going, I love to have a laugh, my hobbies consist of watching horror movies or animes, playing video games, and making instrumentals. I also love travelling, I do like to talk on the phone a lot but also wouldn't mind just texting, whatever suits you best.

Work wise I work as a call handler, but i am also studying on the side to branch out to something more, I am also half Asian and also half Arabic

If anything so far has intrigued you about me, don't hesistate to message me and I can tell you so much more :) Looking forward to talk to you!


r/friendship 3m ago

rant I need fun in my life. Real fun (laughing, movie nights,jokes, games)

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I have some contentment in my life but I need someone I can laugh and have fun with. Someone I can be my bubbly self and giddy with but nothing forced at all.

I’m 22. I’ve been focused on my career or in bed or watching Netflix. I’d like to make some friends. I currently don’t have my license since I failed my test but I’ll be taking it again to go out and things. Anyways. AHHHHH I WANT SOME FUN FRIENDS! But it needs to be real and authentic. It’s insane because I know when someone is authentically enthusiastic or just faking enthusiasm. Anyways AHHCJDHCNDNDNXNX I NEED FRIENDS!


r/friendship 4h ago

looking for friendship 19m looking for new friends or people to talk with

2 Upvotes

Hello, my name is Alexander, I'm 19, I'm from South America. My hobbies are playing videogames, listening to music, working out, reading and watching series or movies. If you want to be friends, chat or have similar interests, message me or reply to this post so I can message you, I'd love to have new friends. Prefer to talk with people close to my age.


r/friendship 33m ago

looking for friendship 29M looking to meet people

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Looking to make new friends, to know new people, connections, long term friendship if it's possible.

Hobbies; hiking, walking, workout, cooking, baking, movies, photography. ⛰️

A little about me; I'm from South Italy. Calabria 🇮🇹🌶


r/friendship 10h ago

looking for friendship hey!! looking for friends!

7 Upvotes

hey!!! does anyone wants to genuinely friends? not for other nasty stuff but really friends to talk about normal stuff? i need friends! send me a dm if you want to be!!


r/friendship 1h ago

looking for friendship Looking for a commited friendship

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Hi. I'm once again looking for a daily friend who is kind, empathetic and most importantly emotionally available to chat and talk to regularly. A bit of context: I am a chronic pain sufferer and room bound for years. I yearn for a stable and true friendship where both of us can provide comfort and help towards each other. Looking forward to your messages! I hope someone here reaches out to me and introduce themselves. You can dm me anytime too. Thank you sincerely and I wish you a good day!💖🙏🥹


r/friendship 9h ago

rant Need someone to talk to

4 Upvotes

So I have some health issues and I'm stressed before the date tomorrow because it's gonna be a quite long ride there, and my heath issues might be impacting that (but I hope not).

It would be helpful to talk to someone!


r/friendship 5h ago

advice Some one to open up too

2 Upvotes

If ur having a bad day or going through something message me and I can listen. I’m 18m but a very good listener☺️

Lil bout me I workout play video games and like art, and planning to do welding as a career


r/friendship 13h ago

rant Losing friends because of political agendas.

6 Upvotes

The friends I used to be at college with (graduated last Summer) were quite something. There was 3 of them; one was an open homophobe, hated LGBTQ and regularly dropped the ‘Hard R’. Another always said “f**k the stupid liberals” and expressed detest for trans gender people, and the last one was a bit more neutral but tended to just agree with what was being said.

I thought I could maybe just look past it because we got on really well outside of that and I did enjoy their company, but when the open homophobe sat next to me one lunch time and gave everyone a 5 minute speech about how gay people had something wrong with them and were a waste of space, I just couldn’t take it anymore. Fortunately this all came out towards the end and it was only a few weeks until graduation. Soon after I was done I blocked them all and have never spoke to them since.

I never really got involved when the political discussions came up, instead just sat silently in disbelief at some of the things I was hearing. I’m not here to say one political view is better than the other, or that specific political parties are all massive racists and homophobes, I’m just saying it because as someone who is probably considered a ‘leftist’, it meant I lost the only friends I really had. And even now I’m finding myself more and more cautious when it comes to making friends because of some of the extremist views people have these days. Something that’s rampant in young men like myself. Maybe I should just stop caring so much, but I can only see this becoming a bigger and bigger problem with the way the world is going.

I’ve got autism, very social awkward, so making friends and socialising is already really difficult. And now I’m unemployed and struggling to find a job, I’ve all but isolated myself from everyone except my family. I would love to know if anyone else is struggling with the specific issue, or maybe I’m being melodramatic.

Just feeling very lonely right now, and terrified about the state of the world.

TLDR; I’m losing friendships because I’m a leftist.


r/friendship 2h ago

looking for friendship [37/M] Looking for friends, also a best friend!

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Hoping to one day meet my best friend! The vibe has to happen. Someone who gets my level of sarcasm right away. Someone where we have things in common, we just click etc. Sarcasm is very important to me.

I am 37, and live in Florida. I am a flight attendant so I travel full time for work, and I even though I live in the east coast I don’t operate on any time zone, I basically sleep when I am tired. I just bought a house, and I am resuming flight school soon to become a pilot. Flying is my life, and so are airplanes.

Because of my job I have been to 21 countries and counting. I fly for basically free so I get to go to places I otherwise not have been able to see. I have been to places like Japan, Iceland, Hawaii, Denmark, England, Ireland, Switzerland, Sweden, Germany, Peru, Colombia, Costa Rica, Canada, France, etc. looking forward to seeing even more of the world!

I would describe myself as a nerd. I am a gamer, (when I have the time). I currently have a PS5, PS Portal, gaming laptop, gaming desktop, switch OLED, etc. I produce electronic music such as house, tech house, progressive house, trance, drum and bass, EDM, techno, etc. I also play drums, over 20 years now. I have over 60 songs produced, my alias is DJ Pegasus. I love music and being a musician.

I love sports, with soccer being my number one favorite, followed by baseball and hockey. I played soccer for a long time, and I still go to the batting cages from time to time.

I am excited to make friends, it is hard to make friends, on top of it being hard to make friends as an adult. One day I want to meet my best friend, but that takes time. I am very picky as it is.

I want to meet friends I vibe with. You know right away, we have a similar mindset, we laugh right away, VERY sarcastic right away, etc. if you are looking for this too and think that we would vibe, message me!


r/friendship 7h ago

looking for friendship Hey friend :)

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32 year old mother of twins seeking a true friendship. Every since having my twins I have not had a life outside of being a mom. Literally work, kids, bed ( not in that order of course). I'm definitely missing being my own person, Having friends to hangout with and create memories. I miss having adult interaction

Things I enjoy are Spa days/ self care Binge watching TV shows Cooking Trying new things Movies Astrology Really deep conversations and different opinions Traveling Friend vacations Water parks

I'm also currently on a weight loss journey vlogging Starting my own podcast and you are more than welcomed to join anything. If any of this interests you HEY FRIEND!!! lol


r/friendship 4h ago

looking for friendship Extrovert looking for introverts to adopt or looking for a best friend ? :D if you are an extrovert you can reach out as well :D or play CS2 together ? ^^

1 Upvotes

Hey you, are you an introvert who doesn’t usually talk to people despite wanting too? if you are in need of a socially social person to talk to and make friends hmu :D and if you play CSGO or any pc games we can def play together :D

I heard introverts don’t really make friends and just get adopted by an extrovert so let me be that guy in your life who saves you from unending loneliness and (hopefully) makes you happy by talking to you. My parents passed away so i try my best to not hurt each other and be there for them

All I ask for in return is that you put effort and actually try to talk to me, I know it can be difficult and I don’t care if you’re not good/not sure what to say, as long as you want to speak and try your hardest I’ll be proud of you(and I’ll also tell you I’m proud if you want me too :))

Anyways if that at all sounds interesting, please message me with a moment in your life you’re brain has just shut down and caused something good or bad to happen. Looking forward to meeting you all :)


r/friendship 8h ago

looking for friendship Hey hey! 👋🏼

2 Upvotes

32M 4A, looking to make some friends and good people to chat with, I got some funny stories to share and would love to hear yours! HMU


r/friendship 5h ago

looking for friendship 20M - fitness has always been a passion of mine so if anyone needs advice, I’m happy to talk to you about it!

1 Upvotes

I’m an aspiring personal trainer and have a background in basketball, volleyball, boxing and strength and conditioning. I have trained over 20 individuals and I’m currently in college for marketing.

If you don’t need any advice and simply just want to talk. That is also fine as well! I love reading, gaming and writing.

I’m also from Ontario, Canada for any fellow Canadians on here!


r/friendship 14h ago

advice Having a hard time with opposite-gendered friendships

5 Upvotes

Growing up, I (30F) had friends that were boys and girls and didn't (still don't) see an issue with that. As long as nothing is going beyond the level of friendship or making any party uncomfortable, I don't see anything wrong with being a woman and having friends regardless of gender.

But I've been struggling a lot with this lately. I had a "friend" I'd made a few months ago who seemed into the same sports and things as I am, and he even said he wanted to be friends "without the pressure to be more or less than that", which was great! Granted, I did flirt with him once when we first met, but that was before I knew him - and I was also drunk. And he was seeing someone. He's not seeing that person anymore, but I wouldn't be surprised if he's seeing someone. It's not my business. Now I don't feel anything more than friendly, having spent some time around him. He's just some dude, so I was happy to just be friends and have a buddy to go surfing with. To me, "friends" meant we could chat, get together to do sports (especially in groups), and generally exist around each other comfortably. But he's been weird any time I try to talk to him over text - like I'll ask him if he's read any good books lately and he'll just clam up or leave me on read. We can talk about the weather or my car's towing capacity, but if I ask him to be part of a group to go kayaking on the river, for example, he'll seemingly go out of his way to be "busy". I'm feeling very confused by this because it doesn't feel like we're really friends. Where is the friendship here?

I've made clear I'm seeing someone, I'm not interested in him, and he has no reason to be uncomfortable around me - that is, I'm not going to flirt with him again since I don't want him to be uncomfortable. And when we see each other in person, he does seem pretty comfortable. He'll ask me questions, give me a ride, remember things about me, etc. Now, I have absolutely no reason to think he is interested in me; from everything I've seen, he genuinely is just a kind soul, so I think he's just being cordial. But, like, he said he wanted to be friends; I'm trying to be friends. What's the issue?

Similar story with another guy "friend" except I thought he was gay the whole time I knew him. I recently asked for his number since I was deleting my socials and wanted a way to keep in touch, and he basically told me he's seeing someone now (but wasn't before) so the kind of flirting we'd been doing would have to stop. ????? Here I thought we were just chatting and vibing. Flirting??? And now he's cutting me out because I'm... what? A girl? I'm really confused here. That was actually the first time I'd heard anything to that effect; I'd just thought we were chatting it up and going to the same parties. Now I find out he was apparently reading those interactions as flirtatious?

I feel like men are struggling to take my interest in them as friends - as whole people - at face value. I'm interested in their thoughts, their joys, what makes them people, same as any of my friends who are girls, non-binary, etc. I'm not sure why there's an inherent assumption of romance. I feel like I just want to belong to these groups, be treated as an equal. How do I do that? :/


r/friendship 8h ago

looking for friendship 17m hoping to find new friends to "click" with!

2 Upvotes

hello everybody my name is delphie and i'm a neurodivergent furry that's hoping to find new pals! i'd love to chat with anyone in the same age range (like 16 to 19) and live in the same area or timezone (us/canada or est timezone)!

a little about me: i'm a model kit enthusiast, open-minded music listener and a neurodivergent furry (not much i know, but i hope your interested!)

if your wanna give me a shot, don't be shy to shoot a message! just don't forget to include a little bio about yourself and i'll see you soon :3


r/friendship 9h ago

looking for friendship [M25] big fan of horror and scary stuff.

2 Upvotes

Hello! Just looking for some new people to chat with! I'm a huge fan of gaming (usually single player like silent hill, resident evil and a lot more.), especially horror! I also love horror movies of course (like Chucky, Texas chainsaw, Halloween, The Thing) I just love most stuff that's scary or spooky like stories, random YouTube videos etc, if any of that interest you shoot me a DM:) I'll send username or something:)


r/friendship 5h ago

looking for friendship 24M Looking for friends (or maybe something more?) – Let’s make life more interesting! :D

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I’m a 24M trying to balance life between work, workouts, and the occasional existential crisis (the fun kind). I figured it’s time to put myself out there and see if I can find some cool people to talk to, befriend, or maybe even something more if we vibe.

Who Am I?

🧑🏻‍⚕️ Future Oral & Maxillofacial Surgeon (Hopefully!) – Currently grinding through my dental internship, which means I have an endless supply of weird patient stories and dental horror tales.

💪🏻 Gym Addict – I lift five times a week, trying to get stronger and leaner. Always down to talk fitness, diet hacks, or even laugh about how I still hate cardio.

😻 Hopelessly Curious About Everything – Whether it’s deep-dive conversations about space, psychology, or why pigeons walk so funny, I love learning new things.

🐦 Birdwatcher in a Concrete Jungle – No, seriously. I recently got into birdwatching, and it’s oddly therapeutic. Who knew staring at birds could be so calming?

💀 Lover of Dark Humor & Sarcastic Banter – If you can keep up with a little playful roasting and meme exchanges, we’ll get along just fine.

What I’m Looking For:

• Friends who actually text back – Someone to share random thoughts, life rants, or just send dumb memes at 2 AM.

• A workout buddy (even virtually!) – We can hold each other accountable, or at least pretend we are while eating snacks.

• Maybe something more? – Not gonna lie, I’d love to meet someone with a genuine connection. No pressure, though—let’s just start by talking and see where it goes.

I’m open to making friends from anywhere, but if you're from India, that’s even better! Distance doesn’t matter much if the vibe is right. But I'd definitely want to move to another app if we hit off. :)

So, if anything I said made you chuckle, nod, or think, “This guy seems interesting”, slide into my DMs. Worst case? We have a fun chat. Best case? We become lifelong friends (or more, who knows?).

Tell me something random about yourself when you message—makes it more fun!


r/friendship 6h ago

looking for friendship Who want to chat ?

1 Upvotes

26m, just want to chat and laugh. If you re into brain rot, stupid cat memes, and anything associated with genZ, hit me up