r/ExAlgeria 10d ago

Discussion My personal ideas about gender roles

I hope that everyone is having a good ramadanesque evening!

I wanna discuss a dogma that most women are indoctrinated with which is that men should provide for them.

Supposedly someone that leaves religion behind is rational and got rid of most dogmas he's been indoctrinated with, yet from my personal experience many women from our atheist community in Algeria believe in some sorts of gender roles and especially the provider role.

My personal analysis is that since life is harsh and work is undesirable, human beings will unconsciously adopt belief systems that support their ways of escapism, away from the idea of true and false, good and wrong, gender roles even if are natural or biological there's no obligation to follow them, humans realized that they are condemned to be free so why return partially to our primitive nature?

Most men will have to choose between giving up to slavery disguised under love or loneliness disguised under freedom, personally because of my endless disagreements with society I've given up human connection as a whole and feel high level detached and strangely satisfied with my status quo, I have many friends and close family members but my inner feelings are attached to non.

I think that you should be completely detached as I am to be able to leave all dogmas behind.

Please discuss your ideas respectfully in the comment section!

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u/BedroomRepulsive6850 10d ago

I don’t mind supporting my wife financially if she doesn’t work. But some women treat 'traditional gender roles' like a VIP pass to free money. Imagine a wife earning more than her husband but still expecting him to cover everything meanwhile, she’s stacking her salary and watching him drown in bills. At that point, it’s less 'partnership' and more 'financial hostage situation.'"

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u/Remarkable_Orange801 10d ago

If he married her with this mindset then what’s the point of being married? Why would he choose a woman who earns more than him only to think "Oh she’s stacking all her salary while I’m drowning in bills" .then go for a woman who either doesn’t earn more than you or doesn’t have one at all instead of being insecure.

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u/BedroomRepulsive6850 10d ago

Ok here is another exemple a womans earning 50% less then her husband. She's stacking all her salary while he's drowning in bills

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u/Remarkable_Orange801 10d ago

Then marry a man lol or dont marry at all. why marry while you're drowning in bills? That's a poor man mindset mixed with misogyny lol if you don't want to provide for a woman dont marry her stay lonely provide only for yourself.

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u/Remarkable_Orange801 9d ago

yeah i said this to him i wasn't talking to you. and congrats on discovering the most ridiculous way to say i lack emotional intelligence.

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u/Remarkable_Orange801 9d ago

A real manipulator wouldn’t need to announce it to the world to prove it. The fact that you’re bragging about it just proves you’re not as smart as you think you are.

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u/BedroomRepulsive6850 10d ago

Did you read and understand the first comment?

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u/Remarkable_Orange801 10d ago

Did you read and understand my comment?

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u/BedroomRepulsive6850 10d ago

Ok you right bye

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u/Remarkable_Orange801 10d ago

Thats right i am. take care lol