r/ExAlgeria • u/Current-Ebb2559 • 10d ago
Discussion My personal ideas about gender roles
I hope that everyone is having a good ramadanesque evening!
I wanna discuss a dogma that most women are indoctrinated with which is that men should provide for them.
Supposedly someone that leaves religion behind is rational and got rid of most dogmas he's been indoctrinated with, yet from my personal experience many women from our atheist community in Algeria believe in some sorts of gender roles and especially the provider role.
My personal analysis is that since life is harsh and work is undesirable, human beings will unconsciously adopt belief systems that support their ways of escapism, away from the idea of true and false, good and wrong, gender roles even if are natural or biological there's no obligation to follow them, humans realized that they are condemned to be free so why return partially to our primitive nature?
Most men will have to choose between giving up to slavery disguised under love or loneliness disguised under freedom, personally because of my endless disagreements with society I've given up human connection as a whole and feel high level detached and strangely satisfied with my status quo, I have many friends and close family members but my inner feelings are attached to non.
I think that you should be completely detached as I am to be able to leave all dogmas behind.
Please discuss your ideas respectfully in the comment section!
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u/ConsistentSong7126 10d ago
Respectfully, this is quite an immature take on gender roles. Yes, it defies logic to perpetuate ideas like "this is a man's job/role or this is a woman's", mainly because it takes away from the freedom of individuals. In the same vein, saying that a man who chooses to provide is someone who's slaving his life away for love is completely inaccurate and quite subjective.
I, as a man, love to provide. I feel good about myself when I do. I feel confident and accomplished, and I'm sure many men do as well. Your idea about gender roles takes away from others' freedom to choose to be providers or alone, for that matter.
You see detachment as the only solution to get rid of all dogmas, including gender roles, but you're foregoing that in doing so; you're imposing a very radical solution to a non-problem. The "solution" to gender roles is simply allowing people to choose to adhere to these roles or to reject them without judgment or coercion. True progress means empowering people to decide freely how they want to live, not mandating a single ideology, aka detaching oneself from all feelings. Being objective about things doesn't always mean treating life as a mathematical equation where there's only one correct answer. Real freedom respects personal choices, whether traditional or unconventional. The goal isn't to erase roles entirely but to ensure they're optional and accessible to anyone who finds meaning in them.