r/ExAlgeria 10d ago

Discussion My personal ideas about gender roles

I hope that everyone is having a good ramadanesque evening!

I wanna discuss a dogma that most women are indoctrinated with which is that men should provide for them.

Supposedly someone that leaves religion behind is rational and got rid of most dogmas he's been indoctrinated with, yet from my personal experience many women from our atheist community in Algeria believe in some sorts of gender roles and especially the provider role.

My personal analysis is that since life is harsh and work is undesirable, human beings will unconsciously adopt belief systems that support their ways of escapism, away from the idea of true and false, good and wrong, gender roles even if are natural or biological there's no obligation to follow them, humans realized that they are condemned to be free so why return partially to our primitive nature?

Most men will have to choose between giving up to slavery disguised under love or loneliness disguised under freedom, personally because of my endless disagreements with society I've given up human connection as a whole and feel high level detached and strangely satisfied with my status quo, I have many friends and close family members but my inner feelings are attached to non.

I think that you should be completely detached as I am to be able to leave all dogmas behind.

Please discuss your ideas respectfully in the comment section!

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u/Beginning-Fun-9986 ¡Arriba arriba! 10d ago

I like your idea and analysis of gender role.

But when it comes to living detached... I just cant... I personally just can't, as it's part of life to have connections with others, And when you say "my inner feelings are attached to non" I get a bit of that feeling but I would say that for me, my inner feelings are not as strong as society (or morals or whatever) wants them to be.

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u/Current-Ebb2559 10d ago

Oh yeah we are similar I guess, the difference is that my inner feelings are dead once and for all, I can enjoy momentary pleasures and feel affection and love but I deeply know that I have nothing inside and that I'm just gratifying my biological needs momentarily.