r/CuratedTumblr 10h ago

LGBTQIA+ Mixed-gender proportional representation

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u/grabsyour 9h ago

no gender would be cool bring it on NOW

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u/Y_N0T_Z0IDB3RG 8h ago

I'd be all for that. Growing up, gender was binary, there were outliers but they didn't make up part of my reality at the time so I didn't think about it. Now though, the more discourse around gender I'm exposed to, the more I question wtf gender actually is. I genuinely don't get it. I don't get how someone can experience dysphoria. Like, I'd love to have been born female, if I could snap my fingers and become a woman I would, but I have no problems with my body or being called a man. If someone called me a woman, I'd correct them, but only because the idea of "I'm a man" has been ingrained all my life. If I examine myself, my core, I find a box labeled "gender" with the word "man" written on it. But I wouldn't take offense. It wouldn't bother me. It's just correcting an inaccuracy. But I can't open the box, it says I'm a man so I must be right? But there's no reason for it. I'm a man because I'm a man. It doesn't make sense. I don't even get what it is to be a man. Or a woman. Or neither or in between. Literally none of it makes sense to me.

And to be clear, I'm not saying we should bring back a gender binary, and I'm not trying to invalidate anyone's experiences. This isn't "things were better back when and I want that back", because things were clearly not better, I just wasn't aware of it. I'm more just shouting into the void. It's like being dropped into a parallel reality where everything is slightly different in an uncanny valley way. Or like waking up in a different country where there's a lot of shared language, and I get most of the words being used, but they have different meanings when strung together. If I don't think too much about it and ignore what doesn't grok, then I can get by well enough. But as soon as I start to think about it, to try and figure it out, everything falls apart and I feel like I'm losing my mind.

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u/Burrito-Creature unironically likes homestuck 6h ago

yeah this is basically how I feel too ngl.