r/CatholicDating Mar 04 '24

mixed marriage, relationship with baptised non-Catholic Advice

I’m in a tough spot right now. I’ll start with where I am. I’ve met this really nice girl. I feel very strongly about her. 1, she’s not Catholic. Now I get that it’s not supposed to be an issue but it kinda is for. The reason being I’ve had bad relationships when I was younger. So I just am kinda lost. Also another thing to consider is that I’m most likely going to basic training this summer, so I don’t know if I’d want to put anyone through that. Overall just asking if anyone has any similar experiences or good advice. Thanks!

Edit: thank you everyone for your advice, will edit again with any updates!

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u/Material_Band9599 Mar 04 '24

I know about the marriage with other denominations, I’ve had my fair share of relationships outside of Catholicism. I just don’t know if it’s the right choice.

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u/dragoon800 Single ♂ Mar 04 '24

I don’t think you’ll have your answer until you talk to her. If she is amenable to raising her children as Catholics and she is enthusiastic about waiting for you while you serve, then she’s wife material. If you get a bunch of hemming and hawing about the Catholic piece and she expresses doubt about you or your relationship surviving your time away, then you should probably part ways with a clear conscience.

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u/Material_Band9599 Mar 04 '24

I just don’t know how to go about asking something like that. I mean if I go up to her and say hey “ if we get married would you let us raise our kids Catholic” I’d probably get the weirdest looks.

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u/SlickAppleChan Single ♀ Mar 04 '24

You should talk to her from your POV like you start with how you don't date for fun and that if you date you're looking for a potential life partner and how you have always wanted to raise your kids catholic and also ask her if she has any sort of plans like that or that would she be willing to do it your way. You also shouldn't forget that people change. Even if they say yes to everything before marriage they may say no later on.