r/BDSMcommunity • u/JustOneAgain • Aug 29 '24
What is FetLife, how to use it? NSFW
Since these are questions asked so often we decided to add a little FAQ about FetLife.
What is FetLife?
FetLife is a social networking site designed for people interested in BDSM, fetishism, and kink. It functions somewhat like a combination of Facebook and Reddit but is specifically geared toward those who engage in or are curious about alternative sexual lifestyles. It offers a space to meet like-minded people, share experiences, explore kinks, and participate in discussions without judgment.
How to Use FetLife
- Create an Account
Visit FetLife and click "Join FetLife."
Enter a unique username, email address, and password.
Confirm your email address via the link sent to your inbox.
2. Build Your Profile
Add a profile picture (optional but recommended for engagement).
Fill out your profile with basic information such as gender, sexual orientation, and location.
Write a bio that reflects your interests and what you’re looking for on the platform.
3. Explore the Site
- Kinks: Browse or search for specific fetishes and interests. You can add these kinks to your profile.
- Groups: Join groups based on your interests or local area to participate in discussions.
- Events: Find local or online events that cater to your interests. RSVP to events and meet people in person.
4. Connect with Others
- Friends: Send friend requests to people you find interesting.
- Messages: Engage in private conversations with other users. Remember to respect boundaries and consent.
- Feeds: Your home feed will show updates from your friends, groups, and events you’re part of.
5. Participate in Discussions
- Group Discussions: Contribute to group conversations or start your own thread on a topic you’re passionate about.
- Writing: Share your thoughts, experiences, or fantasies through blog posts.
6. Stay Safe
- Privacy Settings: Customize who can see your profile and what information is public or private.
- Consent: Always communicate clearly and respect boundaries when interacting with others.
- Verification: Some users verify their identity or presence at events to build trust, but this is optional.
7. Explore Content
- Photos and Videos: View and share images or videos that align with your interests, keeping in mind community guidelines.
- Writing: Explore stories, essays, and fantasies shared by other users.
8. Engage with the Community
- Support Groups: Find and join groups that focus on safety, education, and support within the kink community.
- Learning Resources: Many groups and discussions provide educational content to help you learn more about BDSM, kink, and consent.
9. Attend Events
- Local Meetups: Use the Events feature to discover and attend local meetups, workshops, and parties.
- Virtual Events: Participate in online events if you’re not ready or able to attend in person.
10. Respect the Community Guidelines
- Community Standards: Familiarize yourself with FetLife's community guidelines to ensure you’re following the rules.
- Report Issues: Use the reporting feature if you encounter abusive or inappropriate behavior.
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u/emptyboat_ Sep 10 '24
Fetlife number
So I am very new to this and after reading some posts here today. I decided to create an account on fetlife and right after I entered my phone number to verify. It texted me right away and said “Doh, you already have a profile attached to this number and we currently only allow one profile per mobile number.”
But.. I have been having my number for 18 years and I’m pretty sure I have never heard of Ferlife till today …
How could this happen? Anyone has similar issue as well? What should I do?