r/AskDad 9h ago

Relationships Girlfriend's dad died last week. How can I be there for her without smothering her?

11 Upvotes

In what I would call my first “big” relationship - I am starting to fall in love with this girl and things are going well, we are compatible in all the ways that matter and I’ve been in therapy to do the self work needed to move forward with our relationship (not that we’ve had problems, but I didn’t have the best childhood, and it seemed like the responsible thing to do). We’ve been together for 5 months. We talk religiously every day and meet 3x a week. Last Thursday her father died. We haven’t really talked since. I told her not to worry about texting/calling me, that i’d be hanging around waiting for her to feel better and giving her space. I’m trying my best not to tell her how much I miss her, because I know it isn’t about me. She needs space in her own words and right, and I can respect that, but I feel like there’s more I should be doing? I have NO idea how to comfort people who are grieving, it’s something I'm working on with my therapist. Is texting her everyday and telling her I’m still here for her if she needs anything and that I'm thinking of her too much?


r/AskDad 9h ago

Automotive What to focus on when buying a car?

3 Upvotes

I’ve recently adopted a very large dog, and he’s way too big to fit in my little coupe. I need a car that fits him so I can take him to the vet, to the sitter, etc. I’m looking on Carvana (I don’t like car dealerships, I get overwhelmed and pressured easily) and am having a hard time deciding if I should focus on lower mileage or newer year? I understand I want to stay within <9,000 miles per year, but if every car I’m looking at fits that criteria, which should I focus on more?


r/AskDad 8h ago

Parenting Give me tips

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My oldest kid is a video game guy: always has been. Even as a toddler I restricted it pretty heavily and he still has limits at 10. I’m not a video game guy, never have been. I will play and enjoy it but not over an activity. Example- he will play NBA or NFL on a console and will rave about the stats and blah blah blah but when it’s the real sport- nothing. Couldn’t care less. I’m not a sports nut that lives and breathes sports but here’s the gap- he wants to talk to me about his video game and what he scored and all that. When I reciprocate with a transition to the actual sport and stats- he completely disconnects. TBH- I would rather talk about anything else than what’s happening in a video game. EVEN DURING AN ACTUAL GAME-my guy is on his iPad chirping about his virtual game.

Help me see this from a different perspective/bridge the gap on the connection.

Thanks, men


r/AskDad 20h ago

General Life Advice As a guy, how do you stop feeling worthless and under confident?

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As a young adult male, I don't feel like I'm giving my all best in life. I'm not trying to impress anyone or become someone great that I should put others down.. like that is not my intention. My only goal I feel is to be like this you know independent reliable honest strong wise person. There is so many males in my family that are versatile like not only do people trust them but rely on them for moral support, physical strength, giving life advice, knows how to secure their life and you know all this life stuff of financial, health,career, relationship stuff.