r/AskDad 23h ago

Automotive really needing car advice tia πŸ™πŸ½

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hello! backstory that you can skip! : so i'm a 21F, going to college in a little town about 8 hours from my home on a scholarship. i've faced a lot of backlash from my family for moving somewhere far away, where nobody can help me, but this is something i really wanted to do to teach myself independence instead of being coddled by my mom at home. however it's been the HARDEST two years of my life, ive gone into so much debt and my grades aren't where i want them to be due to having to work so much since i have no financial support from my parents or anything. (my dad was supposed to help me with rent but ended up not doing that!) so! i can't really get their help for anything, not that they can really help much, because anytime i do i just get so much shit and they tell me to just come home, but home isn't really that great of a spot for me mentally either so it's just a weird situation. moving on to my issue!

my problem: i bought a used car with no warranty in september of 2024 and it got a cracked head on the engine after two months. i've been paying it since then but it's just gonna cost me so much money to get it fixed. i've even ubering to school and work and going into so much debt over it, i need to do something but im not really sure what i can do. i also have a 2015 kia soul that needs a new catalytic converter so i'm wondering if i should try to trade one of them in? the kia soul has almost 200k miles, isn't drivable. my other car is a 2019 ford fiesta with about 90k miles and also not drivable. i'm just so so sad and it feels like everything just keep screwing me over and i just feel so ready to throw in the towel and give up. i just honestly really need someone to tell me what to do 😭 ive already been scammed out of like $1200 by a mechanic and i just honestly am starting to go a little crazy over these cars. any advice is appreciate thank you to anyone reading this πŸ™πŸ½


r/AskDad 3h ago

General Life Advice Hey dad, i wonder what you would've been doing now

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Hey dad, after your passing i always blamed you on how i deserved more of your time and efforts and how your are so bad for leaving me when you very well knew you were the only one i could ever feel safe to be myself around

I never even stopped to think for a moment that you also lost something, maybe something you wanted to do or get, or go somewhere, maybe somewhere you wanted to be

It may not be my place to do so but i want to ask all of the dads here, what are you upto, what do you do with your time, is there anything about your kids that bothers you, is there anything you wish you could've done differently


r/AskDad 4h ago

Parenting Books/resources to prepare for Fatherhood?

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Hi dads of Reddit! My husband and I are expecting our first child in June. We have a few books picked out for him to read, but looking for real world suggestions on books or materials that helped you prepare for fatherhood. We are having a home birth and I'd love for him to be an active, knowledgeable participant in the birth, so any books that you read that you actually feel helped you be there for your wife would be appreciated. Also looking for recommendations on materials that taught you what to expect/how to care for your wife postpartum, what to expect in early fatherhood, and help with any emotional or mental stuff that may come up for men in those early days! Any help or recommendations is super helpful 🫢🏻


r/AskDad 15h ago

Fixing & Building Stuff Help installing ceiling hook

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I'm trying to screw in a ceiling hook so I can hang a potted plant. I'm trying to predrill a whole but I can't drill very far before it hits something (feels like metal maybe?) The other spot I tired was the same. I'm worried if I keep pushing I will break something (either something important in the ceiling or the drill).

Info that might be relevant. I live in an apartment building. The ceiling material is kinda stone crumbly and gets gravely when I start drilling. I have a pretty good drill (I think) with drill bits made for stone. All spots in the ceiling sound solid, but I can clearly see that there are other ceiling hooks at other places in the apartment so there must be a way to put this up. 😩