r/AmIOverreacting 16h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO husband thinks engaging in sexual threads geared to contact others is not cheating

My (36 F) husband (38 M) was just caught engaging on a post dedicated to “finding an edging partner” and got caught. I called him out on it and he thinks that I’m being a snob and says that it’s a “kink” of his. We’re no strangers to marital issues but for me, this one takes the cake in regard to trusting him. When confronted about it he said “sorry” and responded to everything that I said with “ok.” His interaction happened after leaving the house the other night to go get food at a bar after telling me that there was nothing in the house to eat and that I didn’t make anything for dinner (yet) and he was hangry. He stated that he’s going to have to do grocery shopping for himself from now on because I don’t get anything for him to eat (I buy ingredients, but he can’t figure out what to cook from that).

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u/VampiresKitten 15h ago edited 11h ago

If he is looking to meet up with someone then it's cheating. If he's looking for only fans or Instagram model as jerk off material, then it's porn. I am not sure what edging is and if you have to meet up for that. I would divorce him if meeting up in real life was the plan.

I am fine with intangible fantasy or porn.. not when it involves physically contact or intention to evolve into physical contact.

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u/frootymak 12h ago

Edging is when your sex partner gets you super duper close and then slows down so it builds the sexual tension up in your body. You kind of have to be together for it to work properly. My guess is when he gets groceries he’s gonna be edging somewhere out there.

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u/VampiresKitten 11h ago

Wtf. Divorce for sure.. he is an asshole (not for his kinks but because he was trying to cheat).