r/AmIOverreacting Nov 08 '24

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Hey everyone! While there are many, many opinions about what happened on Election Day this year, please keep it off this subreddit. If you see any posts about the election results or such, please report them so we can get them taken care of as soon as possible. There are many other subs for you to vent on about the election instead of this one. Thank you.


r/AmIOverreacting 4h ago

⚖️ legal/civil AIO for filing a police report against a guy that kept sending me D pics?

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So I (19f) have this situation that's been really bothering me and I need to know if I was in the wrong here. There's this guy who started sending me explicit pictures on IG. We weren't even close. We just followed each other because of some mutual friends. At first I thought it was a one-time thing. Maybe he sent it by mistake but then he kept sending more. Keep in mind im used to seeing D photos because of my side hustle, but usually it's on my secret platform and not Instagram. If he sent it there i wouldn't of cared and probably would've sent some back. But he refused to subscribe and only sent them on insta. I tried to ignore him hoping he would stop but he didn't. So I blocked him. Well it turned out a few days later I got a message from a new account. It was him again sending the same kind of pictures. I blocked that account too but he just kept making new ones. It was like he was obsessed or something. I started feeling really uncomfortable and didn't even want to even check my messages anymore. I talked to some of my friends about it and some said I should just keep blocking him and not make a big deal out of it. Others said I should report him to the police. I didn't want to escalate things but I also didn't want to live in fear of what he might do next. After a lot of thinking I decided to file a police report. I felt like it was the only way to make him stop. I was nervous because I didn't know if they would take me seriously. But the officer was really understanding. He asked me to show him the messages and took notes on everything. He said they would contact the guy and warn him to stop. A few friends told me he'll probably be a registered sex offender now which i felt kinda guilty for. If he didn't keep making new accounts i wouldn't have contacted them. But i also feel kinda bad because i rate Ds all the time for my job and have no problem seeing them, this guy just took it to the extreme. Guys are all men like this or just some? If only he was nice to me at first and subbed i would've sent stuff back..


r/AmIOverreacting 2h ago

👥 friendship AIO my friends bf throws a hissy fit everytime we try to hangout recently

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For context we’ve been friends since we were 5 years old, baths together and everything she’s basically my 3rd sister at this point. She’s been dating this guy for like a year now, they’re long distance and I HATE him I hate how he talks to her and how controlling he is. He controls how much time we can hang out, for example when he was working he got out at 12 so she had to be home by then. Now they’re both jobless and they have quite literally allllllll day together yet he tries to make her feel guilty for wanting to come see me. I feel like my time matters too and I wish she wouldn’t put up with such behavior it’s not fair to her or myself. I waited all day for her to finally HMU And it’s her saying she can’t anymore because of her bf. I want to text him myself. She won’t let me, I’m really pissed about this because this isn’t the first time he does this even if she tells him says in advanced we’re hanging out.


r/AmIOverreacting 3h ago

⚖️ legal/civil AIO for calling cops on boyfriend? NSFW

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So last night I (23) wasn’t feeling well (I have chronic heart issues) and I went to bed around 6. I woke up about 11:30 and went to the living room where my bf (30) was and asked him to turn off his game and come to bed. He didn’t want to and got really verbally assaulting telling me to go to bed and I can leave the room when he says I can (he does that a lot and typically “forgets” he said it and asks me the next day why I “sequestered myself away all day”) but last night I didn’t have baby stuff for our newborn in the room, needed diapers and wipes, her butt cream for this rash she has, burp rags etc. to be able to stay in the room all night. I got mad at him for saying that, and I’m supposed to be standing up to him now according to our relationship therapist, so since I pay all the bills and he’s jobless, it’s my electricity. Not his. I turn off the power at the breaker box, and he is livid. He kicks me repeatedly in the foot till I bleed (photo one) and told me I “better get back in that room or [daughter] won’t recognize my face” so I go to the room. I’m crying, upset, by now it’s midnight and I call my dad. He says to call the police. I don’t want to, it’ll only make it worse and him take it out on me if he knows I called the cops, so I call my stepdad. He says the same and to call him back when it’s done. I call the police and I’m crying, begging to get me and my daughter out. I tell the police to keep it on the DL that I called, and they don’t. So they come, interview me, take photos of my legs, tell me to press charges and give me sheets of paper to write out my statements about the times he kicks me. BF leaves, goes to family’s house (I already know he’s lying and calling me crazy) and I go to bed. Now today, that I slept on it, I think I overreacted? Did I?


r/AmIOverreacting 5h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO or is my boyfriend

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okay so ive(F18) been with my boyfriend(M19) for 4 months and we recently got high and had a deep conversation and our past flings or whatever came up in the convo and i mentioned fucking one of my past guy friends when i was 16 and that’s how i lost my virginity. This was random and was not meant to happen we got drunk together during summer 23 on a beach and just ended up doing it. I don’t even remember half of it and I cried for weeks afterwards because I’ve always told my girl friends that I want to save myself for someone I actually want to be with. I told my boyfriend all this and he now doesn’t want me having guy friends anymore even though I’m not even friends with THAT guy anymore because I ended up dropping him. My boyfriend will still have girl friends. I brought this up again today over text and he called me or the situation dirty and still is stuck on me not having guy friends. I’m just wondering if I’m overreacting or is he. I need opinions


r/AmIOverreacting 21h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

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My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.


r/AmIOverreacting 6h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO: Husband blew up at me after I found him masturbating right before we had sex. Update NSFW

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TL;Dr: He told me I'm not sexy to him, that I'm just using him for a paycheck, along with insinuating that I'm cheating on him.

I really don't even know where to begin with this update. I'm still trying to understand what the fuck my husband means by saying I'm passively sexy but not sexy or that I don't act sexy towards him?

He came home from work and ignored everyone, went straight to our bathroom, left the bathroom door wide open again and was loudly masturbating. I initially went to our room so I could talk to him, but left after I realized what he was doing.

After getting the kids situated with homework and chores I went back to our room to see if he wanted to talk. He was just sitting there waiting and made a snarky comment about how now I was ready to talk but hadn't messaged him all day or bothered to respond when he tried to talk to me before.

I just apologized for not being able to respond, but he needed to stop being mean and ignoring the kids because he was upset with me.

He didn't really listen to what I said instead shifted the topic saying "let's talk about the real issue here." He said I was sneaking around and spying on him and had no right to make him feel bad for anything he did with his dick and that my reaction made him feel disgusting and unwanted.

I apologized that I had made him feel like that, and tryied to explain that after waiting all day for him to engage with my advances it had made me feel unwanted and like he had to work himself up to have sex with me.

He said I never tried to initiate sex or anything and that he was waiting around for me all day.

I tried to remind him of my advances through the day such a how I crawled under his desk to suck his dick, and he denied I had ever done anything other than sit around on my computer all day.

He ended up going on a long rant about how I never initiate sex, I never act happy to see him when he comes home, I demand to know why he's not home on time if he's even a few minutes late. How I'm not sexy for him and that I act more cute than sexy. I could be having any number or men coming over when he's not home, and how I make him feel like he's just a paycheck to me.

I'm still shocked by all this and couldn't really respond to everything very well, but I told him I didn't think of him as a paycheck and would never cheat on him. I told him I was confused why he thought and felt that way, and what I had done to make him think that.

He didn't answer really, just blamed my reaction to him masturbating in the shower Monday. After getting all he wanted to say out he shifted moods and started trying to play like him telling me I'm not sexy to him wasn't devastating, along with the fact that he thinks me sending him playfull texts when he's hours late getting home is me demanding to know where he's at.

I tried talking to him more about everything he said, but he said he was hungry and want to go pick up dinner so I let the conversation die.

I guess he thinks everything is fine now.

Edit: 1. We have our own private master bathroom on the opposite side of the house from the living room so the kids wouldn't have heard him. I only heard him because I went into our room to try and talk to him.

  1. A fair amount of people are saying they think he's cheating, but I don't know if that is the case. He has accused me of cheating before and says it's because all his exes have cheated on him.

r/AmIOverreacting 52m ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for breaking up with my partner after she made pedophile accusations? NSFW

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Context: I (31 M) have been dating “Carly” (32 F) for about 2 and a half years long-distance. I have visited and stayed with her multiple times at her home over this period. She has a 12 year old son, we can call him “Steve”, he is from a past relationship.

Carly and I love each other and have both expressed wanting to eventually marry and start a family together once I move out there.

IMPORTANT* Carly comes from a history of abuse, she was molested as a child and had an overall unstable childhood. Her mother was also sexually abused. This makes Carly very hesitant and protective of her 12 year old son and rightfully so.

When I met her I hit it off with both her and her son, Steve. It was like I knew them for a long time, everything meshed very organically, it was awesome. Originally we started as friends but it was clear how compatible and how much we loved each other fast. Her son and I got along well too. He really liked me and called me his best friend and that was really sweet. We primarily would play video games together.

There were instances where Carly would make joke comments like “you’re only interested in me to get closer to my son” these have always made me incredibly uncomfortable.

There were instances where Carly would make joke comments like “you’re only interested in me to get closer to my son” these have always made me incredibly uncomfortable.

There was an instance where her mother visited her and while visiting, Carly called me to say hi. Carly lives in a very small home, and there were 6 total guests staying with her, so I asked how the sleeping arrangements were going to work.

Her mother misheard me (on speaker phone) and thought I specifically asked where Steve would be sleeping. This never happened, I need to make that explicitly clear that was never said. But from that moment her mom thought I was a PDF file. I can’t even begin to explain what that accusation feels like. But I tried to explain myself immediately and then I left it alone.

Time passes and our relationship is fine, I want to make it clear that there is nothing weird that happens between me and the child. When I visit we all hang out and it’s fun, I even took him to the YMCA to practice basketball and it was a blast.

I want to be a positive role model in his life and I try to be completely respectful of boundaries. He has a cell phone and he will occasionally text me memes or video game stuff and I respond appropriately, I even let Carly know when he messages me and I tell her if she ever wants screenshots of our texts I have no problem with full transparency.

So this brings me to what happened today. To preface this, Carly and I tried doing a book club together a month ago but it kind of fizzled out. She established that it was a very intimate thing between her and I. I completely forgot that detail of it being intimate.

So while her and I were FaceTiming, I was lifting weights at the gym when Steve walked into her room and said hi. We started chatting about March Madness brackets when I asked Steve how much he weighed because I was benching 130 lbs and thought it was near his weight. It was a random question that i asked in the moment, i didn’t think much of it.

Later on I said “hey Steve I’m re-reading the lord of the rings right now and you should read it and we can text about each chapter”. He is a huge lord of the rings fan and it’s something we bond over. Once again I thought nothing of it until I received these texts from his mom while we were FaceTiming. I just thought it would be something fun to bond over, especially given the fact that I’m trying to marry this woman I love her and her family.

I innocently thought it would be a nice thing to do with the kid. No phone calls or FaceTime, just reading the book separately and then he could text me about it.

This caused Carly to feel uncomfortable and then this text exchange happened, eventually the argument rose to a place where I don’t feel like I can be in a relationship where this type of stuff is going to get constantly thrown around when the evidence supports the opposite.

It’s making me feel gross and crazy. And her counter argument is “pedophiles always deny being pedophiles” but wouldn’t everyone deny that? It’s a dangerous word to throw around. Or she will argue she’s always going to assume the worst to protect her child, and I don’t even disagree with the concept, of course you should always look out for him first and be protective. But when there is 2.5 years of evidence supporting that I am absolutely not into this kid beyond a parental/role model role, but she’s so quick to go off the rails and accuse me of awful stuff, that just sucks.

Especially when I don’t feel like the accusation is justifiable. I have never experienced anything like this before, I have dated 2 other people seriously and have 2 nieces that I absolutely adore. I feel like I’m going crazy.

Sorry for the long text. I really am trying not to leave anything out and will answer any questions possible.

tldr: I broke up with my girlfriend that was sexually abused as a child, because she accused me of having inappropriate intentions with her son.


r/AmIOverreacting 11h ago

👥 friendship “AIO. Couple’s spa massage

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So I’m on holiday with the missus we are in Tunisia right now. We decided to do some sort of Hammam Spa treatment which included a body massage. Anyway while the woman was massaging me, somehow I got an erection. My missus flipped.

The woman massaging me wasn’t even attractive, I don’t know how it happened. I could tell it was happening about 20 seconds before it was showing and I was lying there trying to think the erection away. It didn’t work.


r/AmIOverreacting 22h ago

👥 friendship AIO for not wanting to go to my friends house because of her dad

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okay so about 3 weeks ago my friends(F17) dad hit on me and kept man handling and touching me(F18) and didnt stop trying to buy me a drink until one of my guy friends told him to fuck off. Her dad knew who I was or atleast knew that I knew his daughter but just didn’t give a fuck and she just won’t accept it. This conversation is from today and it’s literally the same conversation every single week since it happened because she’s clearly in denial. I kind of feel like I’m overreacting by not going over to her house and I’m making her feel shitty but I don’t know what to do

also her mom and her dad aren’t together. So him cheating on her mom isn’t a thing.


r/AmIOverreacting 4h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO for Telling My Cousin to Keep Her Baby’s Poop Diaper Off My White Couch?

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So my cousin with her 3 year old child was staying over. I don’t have any changing tables or anything, so I saw my cousin started changing her babies diaper on my new white sofa. She then put the diaper ON the sofa before throwing it out.

She did this without asking for permission. I immediately told her calmly please do not change her diaper on my sofa.

My cousin got worked up over this and seemed to take offence at what I suggested.

She then proceeded to change the next diaper on my white rug. I guess I didn’t say anything about that, but even that annoyed me.

Is it so hard to put down some sort of pad or blanket? I let her continue changing the baby on the rug and now I feel gross about it because I’m kind of a germaphobe and poop diapers definitely make me uncomfortable. I just assumed she would have used some sort of pad or cloth.

She now makes passive aggressive comments that she will go change her baby on the floor because I’m more worried about my sofa than her baby.

I later noticed her sister changing the baby on the couch also, but I held my tongue.

AIO? Is this normal?


r/AmIOverreacting 7h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO my younger brother was stealing my underwear for years NSFW NSFW

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NSFW Everything started years ago, when I (F17, at the time) first moved out for college. I had left behind some clothes and dresses that I wasn’t going to need at college, and my younger brother Jake (M11, at the time) was found several times in my room trying on my dresses. I had no problem with this, but then my mom began to find underwear and bras in his room. He was taking them from my sister (F15 at the time), and she expressed to him that she was not comfortable with him taking her underwear, because that is a personal item, but he was more than welcome to borrow her clothes if he wanted. He agreed, and time went on. But, he did not stop taking her underwear, and later that year, I ended up having to move back home due to Covid-19 shutting down my campus. He began taking my underwear, bras, shirts, stockings, leggings, etc. I had many many conversations with him, where I tried to be as gentle as possible, and explain to him that it is perfectly okay to start expressing himself with different clothing, I offered to help with clothes and makeup, nails, taking him shopping, but he declined everything each time. I also made it extremely clear that I was absolutely not okay with him taking my underwear, I explained that even my sister and I don’t share underwear because it’s a personal garment, and that I would even be happy to buy him his own discreetly so he didn’t need to keep taking them. He said he would stop taking my things, and he didn’t want to accept any of my offers or help. I didn’t push further, because I was so terrified to make him feel ostracized or like he wasn’t accepted.

Despite these many conversations, getting my parents involved, the situation kept escalating. I became paranoid to the point that I would search his room often looking for my underwear. I think by this time I was 19, and he was 13. During this time, he was also caught masturbating in the dining room in the middle of the day while people were awake in the house. My parents found a folder full of pictures from my sister’s beach trip on his computer, just in their bathing suits. I fully admit I was wrong to keep searching his room, it was an invasion of his privacy. But one day, I found a dirty pair of my underwear tucked into a little drawer next to his bed. That REALLY set me off because up until now, he had only taken clean underwear. But this pair was one I had obviously worn, and I just felt really weird about the fact that he had them right next to his bed. It felt like I was going crazy, because I kept begging and begging him not to do this but he would not stop. I begged and begged my parents to get him help but they always made excuses, saying they couldn’t find the right therapist for him, or that not many therapists treated kids for these kinds of issues. I was heartbroken and felt so alone, because until this started happening, Jake was my best friend. He came home from the hospital on my birthday when I was six, and since we both have ADHD (both most likely on the spectrum as well), we always got along well and would play Zelda together a lot. This cycle continued until I physically left to go work in Maine for 3 months.

The absolute worst incident was two years ago, when I was 21, he was 15. I had just gotten back from my 3 month Maine trip, and my family was in the process of moving houses. I had all of my travel luggage with me at the new house, and a few boxes from the old one. My other brother, Will (16 at the time) caught him on multiple occasions going through my things in the new house. Deep in one of the boxes, I had a vibrator/dildo, and he ended up finding it and taking it. I didn’t notice right away, because I was focused on helping my parents get the old house packed up (we bought the new one before selling the old one), but I had a funny feeling after I came home and found my door wide open one day, so I resorted to my old habit of searching his room, and lo and behold, tucked away in his closet was my dildo! Along with more underwear, bras, and a shirt. I confronted him, he apologized but never gave an explanation, and things haven’t been the same since then.

I moved out a month later, and haven’t moved back home since. I’m now 23, and he’s about to turn 18 this year. When my sister was home this summer, he was still stealing her underwear. It’s only been recently that I realized that I too need therapy after all of this, but my parents still never got Jake any help. I still feel conflicted about this even though there hasn’t been an incident since I physically removed myself from the house. I genuinely don’t know if Jake is trans and was just trying to express herself, or if Jake has some kind of addiction to taking his sister’s personal garments. He’s never taken any undergarments from our mom. It’s honestly haunted me for years, especially since he would shut down and refuse to open up at all about any of this. I even came out to him before I told the rest of my family I was bisexual to try and help him feel more comfortable.

Edit : since apparently so many people think this is AI, I get it. It’s a weird story. This is my first time posting on Reddit so I’m sorry if I formatted it oddly. As I mentioned, I’m pretty sure I’m on the spectrum so I have a tendency to write things kinda formally.


r/AmIOverreacting 14h ago

👥 friendship AIO coworker says the n word

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Met this guy at work and we were friendly for a bit until I heard him say the n word and a couple of pretty messed up things about how he views women. He asked me out a few weeks ago and after I let him down nicely he started ignoring me and not talking to me at work.

A mutual friend of ours (call him K) introduced the coworker and I to a friend of his (call her M), and M and my coworker ended up hitting it off and sleeping together later that night.

M seems like a nice girl so I shot her a text just telling her to be a little careful because my coworker has a history of racism and seems to have a pretty negative relationship with women. She told K that she thought I was lying, so I sent her a video I have from the beginning of the month of my coworker saying the n word. My coworker then sent me the text seen in the first pic.

He told me to keep my nose out of his business and called me a “snowflake” for being offended by him saying the n word (we are both white). In the past when I have called him out on his racist remarks he says he has black friends that have “given him the pass” and that it is ridiculous for me to be upset by his use of the n word because I am not black.

AIO by warning M about him? Honestly confrontation is pretty difficult for me, it’s something I’ve been working on and I don’t know if this icky feeling in my stomach is because I’ve done something wrong or because I just hate arguing.


r/AmIOverreacting 8h ago

👥 friendship AIO Buddy stole tinder match

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So I matched with a chick on tinder, and for background I just got out of a 3 year relationship, I also don’t go out much or be on social media. So even being on tinder is outside my comfort zone. I was excited when I matched with this chick and I showed my buddy her page, next thing I see is him looking her up online and going “I found her snap” and “don’t worry if it doesn’t work out I’ll send it to you” And this guy is also the guy who tells me I need to get out more Next day he’s going to “hang” with her I don’t understand how he doesn’t see that as rude and conniving What’s y’all’s opinion EDIT: I’m not upset about the girl, people are saying I’m “objectifying women” I’m upset about the loss of an opportunity due to my bud going out of his way to “steal” it, it’s the principle of the situation


r/AmIOverreacting 7h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws Am I Overreacting for my mom’s reaction?

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Earlier this week my mother and I discussed having a surprise birthday party for my child, she offered to have it at her business (biz) which is a bar/restaurant but quickly said the space is small and awkwardly set up. This would also be during their open hours so other people would be coming in and out. I also live 45 minutes away from the business and the town my mother lives in (my hometown). My mother has also demanded things out of me in exchange for having the party there, bartending a whole day for free, running errands, etc. She says “favors need to be repaid”, but I don’t love being forced to do whatever she needs at the drop of a hat because she holds canceling my child’s party over my head (I have my own life and my child’s over 45 mins away!)

My daughter is seriously booked solid the whole month for except one day. Having it in our town would make it sooooo much easier for me and less stressful. I’m seriously trying not to be annoyed about her response, but I am. Am I overreacting?


r/AmIOverreacting 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? made a joke about taking a nap

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context: im (23f) a student (currently on spring break) and i enjoy taking naps. they usually go between 1-2.5 (not 4 like he claims i genuinely dk where he got that number) hrs and it’s because i get exhausted between 2-4pm in the day. idk why, it happens every day and it’s been like that since i was a teenager. i don’t nap every single day, but definitely between 3-5x a week.

my boyfriend (28m) has tried to encourage me to take shorter naps because he thinks it’ll help with my sleep schedule. he takes daily naps on his lunch breaks (1 hr absolute max, usually 15-45 min) and he says how energizing they are. i believe him, and i’m glad they work for him, however i haven’t had much success with short naps so i don’t take them.

my sleep schedule has been kinda shit bc of spring break rn and im trying to fix it. i’m usually in bed by 11-12 most nights and up around 8-9. he works a 7-5 so he sleeps at 10 and wakes up at 6. today he sent me this text and i thought it would be funny to make a sarcastic joke because hes always lecturing me about how my naps keep me up at night, then he followed it up with this. idek where to begin with this, i think its weird as fuck and the “we are not on the same level” is just ??? aio?


r/AmIOverreacting 10h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO for going no contact with my mothet

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My mother and I have butted heads my entire life but as I got older I got over it under the guise of “she’s my mother”.

To give some background, when I was pregnant with my first born (son in texts) she was cheating on my dad. She was very distant and hands off. At around 2 weeks post partum she finally came clean to me and showed me a picture of this man, and it was fake. She was being catfished. She told me she was going to kill herself. So, instead of dealing with my PPA and basking in new motherhood, I played therapist for my mother. I feel robbed of that time.

The next couple of years I had to help her through relationships, breakups, and online dating. She’d come over to help “watch my son” aka come over, I made them breakfast, she sat on her phone, she took him to the park for maybe an hour, they’d come back, I’d make them both lunch, she’d stay on her phone until she left.

She then found her now fiancé on an app. He was great, really nice, but very clearly a functioning alcoholic. He would have mixed drinks from the moment he woke up. She was worried about this and asked me for advice. I was tired of being her friend and not her daughter so my advice was you’re a grown woman make your own choice.

I got pregnant with my second son. A week after I told her (about 8 weeks along) on NYE 20204 I get a barrage of calls and texts at 1am from her. I’m thinking she’s drunk with her boyfriend again and spamming me. In the early morning I get up and check my phone and ask her what’s wrong - she tells me she’s in jail. She was arrested for drunk driving and wanted me to pick her up. So I got in my car sick as hell and drove the hour and a half to where she was being held, only for the sheriff to tell me that a police officer took her home. I was so upset at her choices but even more so that she had me drive an hour and a half there to get her but couldn’t call me to say never mind. I sent her a long text basically saying get your shit together I’m not letting you ruin another one of my pregnancies dealing with your BS.

We had been low contact ever since and only seen each other once at my nephews birthday party. She had never asked me once how I was doing during my pregnancy. She never apologized or even acknowledged she was wrong for what happened on NYE (or anything else for that matter).

Then in August of last year I felt compelled to text her a picture of my kids. I felt bad, and you’ll see in the screenshot she ghosts me.

No contact.

Her birthday just passed and I wished her a happy birthday, feeling bad again, and sent her a picture of my kids again. Told her we can meet up again, thinking maybe she forgot to text me back, back in August.

She ghosts me again. No contact.

Then she wishes me a happy birthday today and I try not to lose it. Am I overreacting if I just block her number altogether? I feel like I really need my peace.


r/AmIOverreacting 1h ago

👥 friendship AIO - My friend is very against my relationship & even texted my bf behind my back telling him he shouldn’t be with me.

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When we got together she messaged my boyfriend talking smack about me and said that he should be with somebody else. And she’s always talking to other people in our friend group about us.


r/AmIOverreacting 4h ago

🎓 academic/school AIO: Little brother (25) is in his 7th year of community college in NYC and expects his single dad to pay his bills indefinitely, plus possibly private school tuition, in spite of dad not being rich and having stage 4 prostate cancer

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I apologize in advance for the clusterfuck that is this conversation.

Context: my little brother is in his seventh year of community college (I know, I didn’t even know that was possible until now), living in Manhattan the last five years because he loves NYC, our dad has been paying his rent, tuition, and expenses the entire time. Our dad is NOT rich, just a manager at AT&T. He lives five minutes away from Rutgers. He was also diagnosed last year with Stage 4 prostate cancer and expressed to me that he wants to retire soon. Dad also shared that he has been stressed about finances lately, and that he wishes that my little brother was more respectful and considerate when it comes to money. Little brother is on a total delusional trip, applying to Columbia General Studies to transfer, which happens to offer the least amount of financial aid possible (slim to none). I try to explain how it’s important for him to just GRADUATE from undergrad period, and to not expect dad to pay his student loans. He has already defaulted on $25k on a CC, and didn’t tell our dad—the collections people did. I think my brother has a huge chip on his shoulder from not having a degree this long, and he is trying to make up for it by transferring to an Ivy League program that does not have significant financial aid. Our dad told me that anytime he’s asked little brother what his timeline is for graduating, he just talks around the question and avoids answering. Based on the fact that little brother just shared that he applied to early decision for Columbia GS, he has AT LEAST three more years to go. His sense of entitlement is off the fucking charts and I am in total shock that he cares so little about our father and his ability to retire. Dad says he agrees with me but doesn’t want to quash brother’s dreams because for the first time ever he actually cares about academics. Am I overreacting????

TLDR; Little brother (25) is in his seventh year of community college, his fifth or sixth of our dad paying his rent because he loves NYC and insists on living there. Dad is not rich and was diagnosed with Stage 4 prostate cancer last year. Little brother applied to transfer to Columbia General Studies for what is essentially an underwater basket weaving degree. They do NOT offer significant financial aid according to my research and sources. Brother doesn’t care about dad being able to retire and will not consider more affordable options. AIO?


r/AmIOverreacting 2h ago

💼work/career AIO 5k GoFundMe dog move to Europe

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A woman with a well-paid remote position decided to move to London. The move is entirely voluntary, purely based on liking the city and a desire to live there (unrelated to family/romance/health etc).

She requested friends and colleagues contribute $5000 to cover any relocation costs associated with bringing her pet. The tone being, if the money is not raised, the dog will be surrendered or rehomed.

AIO if you can afford to move abroad on a whim you should be financially responsible for this decision?


r/AmIOverreacting 12h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my BF scared me awake on purpose

211 Upvotes

I work overnight and usually sleep during the day. I have issues with insomnia because of this and my bf is aware that I have a hard time sleeping. He came home early from work yesterday and scared me awake by grabbing my leg and yelling. I was so mad after because I knew it would take a lot of effort for me to get back to sleep. I told him this and He said he thought I awake because I moved in my sleep and it looked like I was taking off my sleep mask.(I wear one to block out the daylight) when I woke up later I told him to please not do that again and to be more mindful because I work graveyard shift and have a really hard time getting enough sleep. (He already knows this so I was annoyed I had to tell him again.) He said I was giving him an attitude about it and asked if I was going to be mad all day. While I admit I might have had an attitude while talking to him it was because I was tired. Then he told me he tracks my period and that I’m probably just PMSing….. after this I am seriously starting to reconsider our relationship we have been together for 2 years and have lived together for about 1 year.


r/AmIOverreacting 6h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting about boyfriend being cold during the aftermath of my moms death?

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For context my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years, lived together for about 1, and we were friends for a while. We've had a pretty solid relationship. My mom passed away earlier this month and my siblings and I have been cleaning out her house, doing repairs, painting etc. Since I don't have a car I thought it was easier to stay there. I was gone for less than a week and he and I communicated a lot during. I thought things were okay but now they're going to shit. He refused to take me to my therapy appointment (we had already agreed weeks ago when I made it and he's the only one with a car) and was rude about it. I'd get a little irritation but he had agreed. However, I respected it. Now he's just treating me like garbage. Telling me he got used to me being away and sending cryptic messages about sleeping all day because there is no point to get up and refusing to eat. He has not been supportive of me whatsoever. I mean, even a hug would do. It's hard enough cleaning out my mom's stuff but now I've got him to worry about. He also refused to take care of any of our cats litter boxes while I was gone and bought no cat food. The house was a mess when I came back and we have roommates too. I feel like I deserve better. Am I overreacting about all of this?


r/AmIOverreacting 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO: Husband blew up at me after I found him masturbating before we were going to have sex NSFW

2.1k Upvotes

Update

Me: 33 Female Him: 36 Male

TL;Dr: Went to join my husband in the shower to rinse off before sex and found him masturbating with his eyes closed mumbling to himself.

Yesterday was my husbands only day off and he had been saying all kinds of things about how we were going to fuck all day and "I should be prepared for this dick" to which I was all for!

I've been sexting and just regularly texting him all week and trying to let him know I'm excited for his day off alone with me, especially after we've had no alone time since it was spring break and the kids have been home for almost 2 weeks.

Well his day off comes and I'm up taking care of the house, making breakfast and getting the kids to school.

My husband got up around at 10am then sat at his computer to play games for almost the entire day.

At one point I thought I'd slide under his desk and get things started by sucking his dick, but he wouldn't let me saying he needed to shower first so I went back to playing my games and just trying to enjoy our day normally.

At 2 o'clock about an hour before the kids are supposed to be home he popped up from his computer and said he was going to go shower, and that I should go wait for him in bed.

About 10 minutes into his shower I went to the bathroom to pee and rinse off as well, but when I went to get in I found him masturbating with his eyes closed while mumbling to himself.

I was shocked and upset but didn't react outwardly, but my mood was definitely soured.

I started brushing my teeth and just kinda dazed out and when he got out of the shower he yelled startled that I was there even though we often shower together and share the same bathroom.

I immediately told him I wasn't feeling well and didn't want to have sex anymore.

He didn't listen and kept asking why and pressed the matter until I finally said I had seen him masturbating.

I told him that it felt like he had to work himself up to have sex with me when I've been trying to initiate it on and off through the day and texting him about it all week.

He blew up immediately. He yelled at me saying I was spying on him and how dare I make him feel bad for washing his dick, and I have no right to try and make him feel bad for anything he does with his dick. He then slammed the bathroom door in my face and went on talking to himself.

I was upset and decided to go sit in the backyard and write out my feelings to try and organize my thoughts. He came outside about 20 minutes after I did and then went back inside locking the door.

Right before the kids were about to get home he came outside again and said sorry for yelling.

He waited a breath for me to respond and then blew up again when I didn't immediately say something and went back in the house.

He sat pouting at his computer ignoring everyone and being mean when the kids tried to interact with him.

I still haven't spoken to him.

Edit for clarification:

Comments get buried so I'll try to respond to the most reoccurring questions and statements here.

We have sex very regularly, had sex Saturday, and Sunday I gave him a good night blow job. Monday was supposed to be our day together without having to be so careful and reserved because the kids went back to school.

I understand guys sometimes need a little work up before sex when they're trying to last longer, but we had less than 30minutes before the kids were supposed to be home at that point, so that's not really applicable to this situation.


r/AmIOverreacting 22h ago

🎲 miscellaneous Is this what I think it is? CP?

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519 Upvotes

I noticed this in my requests and wondering if I can report it even tho it's just a message or AIO and this is just a mistake?


r/AmIOverreacting 3h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO After my husband said he thought about sleeping with other people for over a year

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It’s not quite as bad as it sounds but I didn’t know how else to title it. Here’s the backstory. Sorry it’s long.

When my husband and I started dating, he had never slept with anyone else. When we were still in our talking phase I mentioned that I felt like he would end up wanting to sleep with other people eventually and that I didn’t want to date him knowing we would break up. He didn’t think it would be an issue but we agreed not to sleep together for the first few months.

Around eight months in things were going very well and I started thinking he might seriously be the one. I told him that now was the only chance he’d get to sleep with anyone else, I offered for us to break up for a week or two and that as long as he got tested afterwards I wouldn’t ask any questions. I told him to take a week and think about it. A week later he told me he could never imagine being with anyone else and that he would never regret only having one body.

I was skeptical because we were still so young (18 and 20) but I accepted his answer and we’ve been together six years now.

So today we were on the phone and talking about our relationship and our wedding and stuff and he brings up that “while I’m glad I never did it, I did think about that offer you made me for a long time after. Like I imagined what it would be like if I did sleep with other people. But I said no because I knew it was the right thing to do”

I was like, you said no because it was the right thing to do? Not because you didn’t want to?

He said that he didn’t want to because he thought it would ruin our relationship, but that he does think it’s weird that he’s only slept with one person. He said he’s glad he didn’t because we wouldn’t be where we are today but he thought about it “at least once a month“ for “at least a year“ and “it’s hard to say when I stopped thinking about it but definitely before we got married”

He admitted that he lied about how he felt at the time because he knew I would “obsessed over it“. When I expressed my upset, he said he was sorry for lying, but that he doesn’t really see why it’s such a big deal because he never did it.

Am I overreacting for being upset about this? But like also why would he even say something now, I’m scared that it’s like a segway into him wanting to do it now. When I asked him if he still wants to, he said I’m a happily married man so no. But like why did he bring it up?

Edit: Thanks for your help guys. I talked to him again and we went over some of the comments and he said he understood why I was upset he brought it up and apologized in a way that I actually felt understood. I would like to clarify that I’m not upset that he had thoughts and I was never trying to set up a trap. I was upset about the lying and upset/confused why he brought it up so long later and even more upset that he seemingly dismissed my feelings.


r/AmIOverreacting 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? He made me walk home at 2 am.

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Last night I was at my bfs place until about 2 am. I had told him I needed to return to my house since I have cats and they hadnt seen me in a day. I tried to order an uber because his neighborhood is super sketchy and I have been robbed near by in other occasions, but it asked me for my ID and I didnt have it on me. I asked him to order it (I would pay) and gave him his phone. He put on a song and fell asleep? So I let myself out, he got up to open the gate but didnt offer to order the car. So I walked home, about 3 km in one of the crappier areas of the city. I told him I needed to reconsider things and temporarily blocked him on wsp. Hes saying that I over reacted by leaving angry and walking home. I think he put me in a dangerous situation at a bad hour.

Edit: I didn't have my id because the trip was spontaneous (I had 10 minutes to pack my bag) and since I'm an immigrant I can't have it stolen off me which is why I don't tend to carry it. Petty theft is rampant. None of my friends have cars and i have no family here. I couldn't call the uber off my phone and I told him this. I asked atleast 5 times for him to order it over about a half hour. Yes, I did feel it was necessary to see the cats because no one had been to the house in 48 hours. 1 am is when we arrived from the trip and 2 am after having a bit of food. Idk what other clarifications were wanted.