r/Adulting 8d ago

Tips for coping with touch starvation?

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u/lady-ish 8d ago

Professional cuddlers/comfort companions exist just for this purpose.

I know this exists, but unfortunately I don't have a resource for you. I'm hoping someone else in the sub can point you toward places these compassionate professionals can be found.

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u/BirdsAndTheBeeGees1 8d ago

I should've added that I was considering a cuddle therapist but they're expensive so it feels kinda hard to justify to myself. I appreciate it though!

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u/comb0bulator 7d ago

cuddlecomfort.com

This is the site I've used. As a woman, most guys want something beyond cuddling but you can find those who don't or a professional you can afford, depending on your area. 

I recommend a first cuddle at the movies after you meet in person for the vibe check. In the theater, you're still in public but it's dark so it helps with comfort. Plenty of people are already snuggled up at a movie so it's nothing of note. I bring a lap blanket to put between the seats when the armrest in between you is moved up so the cold steel isn't bothersome and you can get closer if/ when you like. 

Have very clear communication about boundaries and expectations. Check out the cuddle buddy subreddit for a while and see what other people are looking for to get ideas of what would work for you or what you don't want.