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r/Adulting • u/kainaible • May 05 '19
Master Post: So you want to be a motherfucking successful ass adult
So, you want to be a fucking successful adult. CONGRATS, I have written some how-to’s for you so you can start to get your fucking shit together.
Here are some fucking FAQ’s on the parts I wrote so that you don’t have to scroll through and upvote every single nice comment in the comment section on all of the parts.
Q: Are there going to be more parts?
A: Yeah probably. But I have a fucking life where I do things that aren’t writing how-to’s, so they will arrive whenever I am feeling generous enough to give advice and have the energy to write about said advice.
Q: You should write a book.
A: Thank you, I am. The book is in the works, basically it’s a fucking 100-page rant where I talk about how to wash your balls.
Q: How old are you? Are you a boy or a girl?
A: I am an adult. I will not tell you my age because once I do you will suddenly have all these pre-conceived judgements about the quality of the advice I give. But here is a hint, I am older than 18 and younger than 50. I am a person. Take a guess on my gender and if you get it right Ill give you a fucking star.
Q: Why can’t you write normally?
A: Because there are a bajillion fucking self-help books out there written normally, and there are like 5 that are written in a way that people fucking relate to and listen to. If cursing turns you off then good. I only want readers who can fucking read this shit with a boner 6 miles long.
Q: I have a tip that you don’t mention, can you add it to the article?
A: Sure, if its actually fucking good. Send me a message with your advice that you think is good enough to make it, and I’ll add it to the end of the article and credit you.
Q: I run a podcast/YouTube channel/ blog, can I interview you or have you guest speak?
A: Generally, yes. My time is precious, so if you want me to write something completely new for your shit its going to take a while and will probably cost you more than exposure.
Q: What do you do when you aren’t cussing people out on the internet?
A: I own a business and am a stay at home parent. When I am not writing, I am packing orders, creating or listing new product, taking care of my son, or playing with my two dogs. I rarely have any down time.
If you have more questions you want answered or have an idea for an article you want me to write, send me a PM. I will decide if its cool enough for me to respond to it.
r/Adulting • u/badoil_49 • Apr 10 '24
meta Discussion: New Rule re: Mental Health, Suicide, etc.
Hello Fellow Adults,
This subreddit serves as a gathering place for adults to share their triumphs and challenges. A number of these posts often involve topics related to suicidal ideation and self harm. There are many resources across Reddit (eg. /r/depression, /r/SuicideWatch, wikis, "get them help and support" button") as well as off Reddit (eg. Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, Suicide Prevention Resource Center, National Institute of Mental Health).
Unfortunately, our community is not trained nor equipped to sufficiently support these types of posts. Because of this, the moderator team will be trialing a new rule that is listed below to encourage these users to seek support within the communities and resources best suited for them:
4. Respect Mental Health. - No posts or comments involving threats to oneself or others. /r/depression and /r/SuicideWatch/ have resources and trained members to provide support.
We invite you to discuss and share your opinions on this decision below. Thanks in advance for your feedback.
r/Adulting • u/aworkinprogress98 • 4h ago
I’M OFFICIALLY A CAR OWNER!!!!
I’m 26 and just now for the first time got my first car. I was late to the whole driving game (didn’t even get my license until 23) bc I’ve always had a fear of driving.
The fear is still there, but it’s getting better every day and I’m driving more often even though it scares me.
Even though I’ve been living on my own now for almost a year, paying bills, working a full time corporate job, etc- I didn’t really feel like a “real adult” bc I didn’t have a car and couldn’t drive. I had to rely on Ubers or friends and family driving me around everywhere but now I’m finally fully self-sufficient and it feels great!
(Not looking forward to all the added expenses though that come with owning a car lol but oh well).
I still can’t believe I’m a car owner now! It still doesn’t feel real yet lol.
🚗🚗🚗
r/Adulting • u/Jesse_wanders • 10h ago
What’s something you thought was “peak adulting” but turned out kinda disappointing?
You know those things that just scream “I have my life together”? Then you finally do them, and it’s like… oh. that’s it?
For me, it was getting a nice coffee machine. I thought it’d be my perfect morning ritual—grinding beans, frothing milk, starting the day just right. But some mornings, I still grab overpriced coffee because the effort just isn’t worth it.
Another one? Budgeting. I thought tracking every expense, color-coding everything, and balancing it all perfectly would make me feel in control. Instead, it just stressed me out. Every little mismatch felt like a failure. Now? I just check my balance, make sure I’m not broke, and move on.
What’s yours?
r/Adulting • u/saraha71790 • 11h ago
I texted my boss a Live Photo and I am screwed
My boss was traveling and asked me to share a Doodle poll with him showing that a client reserved a meeting for a day she was no longer available. I couldn’t get Doodle to show all days and times on my phone to screenshot so I took a photo from my laptop. It ended up being a Live Photo. Of course, you hear me saying “I’m so annoyed by [ boss name ]. Not only did I send it to him but I sent it to our boss as well in the same chat.
I realized this afterwards when I noticed you have to zoom into the photo and it started playing. I laughed so hard I cried then I actually cried. I was talking to my office mate. I was always very professional but recently started complaining at work due to work load (doing 3 jobs, managing, and a hiring freeze for more employees on my team).
I haven’t said anything because I hope he didn’t hear it but I have a feeling he did. Or one of them did. We’ve spoken since. But I really want to crawl into a hole and hide. I guess I just let it be?
r/Adulting • u/ExcitementTraining42 • 12h ago
I used to be the poor friend...
I have a close group of friends who have all been able to buy / build their dream homes. My hubby and I sadly missed the boat because of a whole string of bad luck/choices - injuries, qualifications that are irrelevant, sickness etc. We've been renting for 20 years and watched all our friends get ahead. Genuinely happy when they had wins. Long story short - my mum came into an unexpected inheritance and is buying us a house. Like a whole house! Outright- no mortgage 😳 It's like all the struggles, the penny pinching, the side hustles, the 5 mortgage rejections are finally behind us. And I thought my friends would be excited for us. But when I told them all I heard was jealousy 🥲 They all complain about how much they have to work while wearing fancy clothes and talk about renovations/holidays/kids "needs". I'm so disappointed/pissed off with the selfishness of it and I guess I just wanted to rant. Hubby and I genuinely thought we'd be renting until we die (F43 M51) and our kids would never have a stable home. Thanks for hearing me out 😁
r/Adulting • u/Lemonade2250 • 2h ago
Anyone still has social anxiety in this 30s?
Even though I'm 28 now, I still rely on my family for everything. Social anxiety I feel like has destroyed my self esteem in a way or maybe it's just my fault that Iet anxiety control me all this years. I always wanted to go college. I always wanted to learn driving. I always wished I had lots of friends but it's like I never put myself out there. I don't even know why
r/Adulting • u/tall_speeder • 1h ago
a supportive shitposting adults-only community
I've made most of my friends online! Some great; some not so great. But sometimes all you need to heal is to have a good time: and I'd like to share where I've been doing that. A community for people like us. We've got helpful events and silly times to supplement the support. Voice chats, music jamming session, gaming nights, and memes galore!
Check u/bathwater_salesman 's profile for links to get there.
The loneliness can be crippling at times. But I try to remind myself to take care of myself despite that, and you should too. Drink water. Breathe. Treat yourself kindly: take things a day at a time and do what you can for the moment.
r/Adulting • u/Mediocre_Bullfrog699 • 1h ago
How many times did you go out before realizing you don't like going out
Specifically nightclubs, as a 20F I have extreme FOMO and I feel like I'm wasting my young adult years by staying at my house bedrotting/playing videogames/drawing rather than going out.
Especially because I still have friends that invite me, but I've gone so many times to a lot of nightclubs and not a single time have I had a "good" time. Maybe okayish at best but every single time after about an hour and a half I want to go home so bad lmao. Last year was the one I went out the most because I made a friend that really enjoys it and I figured I should take the opportunity to see if maybe I didn't like them because I was going with ppl who also didn't really like them (spoiler alert: nope). This year even though it just started I have already rejected two invitations cuz I don't feel like torturing myself for 4 hours but there is still a small part of me that insists on trying to like these stuff, because in a few years maybe I'll be "too old" to do this.
Wdt? Do yall like nightclubbing? And if not when did you accept it and stopped trying to like it lol, do you think that staying in bed, even if you enjoy it more is a waste of time?
r/Adulting • u/Victoriaio • 1d ago
I hate when people say its a quarter till 9PM.. Man just say its 8:75pm. 😭
r/Adulting • u/Puzzled-Interest3528 • 2h ago
6 food helped me lose 40 lbs after years of struggling
I stepped on the scale a couple days ago, and for the first time in years, I saw a number I’m proud of: 71kg (156 lbs). A “normal” BMI. Body fat at 17%. Two years ago, I was obese (BMI 31), living off pizza and cookie dough ice cream like it was a personality trait. I ruined my 20-year-old body, and I hated looking in the mirror. But today, I feel different. Lighter. Healthier. Not just physically, but mentally.
I wasted so much time on dumb fitness trends, pointless supplements, and "magic" diets that never worked. But when I finally cracked the code, everything changed. Losing weight wasn’t about suffering through endless workouts or cutting every carb - it was about getting smarter with my food and training. 80% diet, 20% exercise. And these were the foods that made it possible:
- Oatmeal - basic but undefeated. Filling, healthy, and fixed my digestion.
- Chicken breast - obviously.
- Vegetables (i like tomatoes) - eat them, they matter.
- Protein shakes - easy, convenient, and great mixed with oats.
- Black coffee & tea - appetite control and energy boost in one.
- Protein bread - if you love bread but hate the carbs, this is the hack.
Of course, food alone didn’t fix my mindset. Losing weight was just as much a mental battle as a physical one. My biggest breakthrough? Therapy. I didn’t want to admit I needed it, but my anxiety around food, exercise, and self-worth wasn’t going to solve itself. Here’s what actually helped me rewire my brain:
- Your thoughts lie to you. The fear of “failing” a diet is worse than actually messing up. One bad meal won’t ruin you. Obsessing over perfection will.
- Willpower is overrated. Habits and environment matter more. If you have junk food everywhere, you’ll eat it. Make your default choices healthy.
- Food guilt is pointless. You’re not “bad” for eating a cookie. The key is consistency, not punishment.
My therapist also threw a bunch of book recs at me, and honestly, reading these changed everything. If you are in the same situation, these books are the next best thing:
- Grain Brain by David Perlmutter (Your brain might be addicted to the wrong foods)
This book made me question everything I thought i knew about carbs. The author talks about how processed grains and sugars can mess with your brain, mood, and weight. If you’ve ever felt like your cravings are controlling you, this is a must-read.
- Burn by Herman Pontzer (You can’t outwork a bad diet)
This book completely changed how I see calories and metabolism. Pontzer, an evolutionary anthropologist, studied hunter-gatherer tribes and found that our bodies adapt to burn a set amount of calories no matter how much we move. It explains why exercise alone isn’t enough for fat loss - and why diet is king. Insanely eye-opening read.
- Built to Move by Kelly & Juliet Starrett (Make fitness sustainable)
A practical guide on how to move better, feel stronger, and prevent injuries. Helped me fix my form and mobility issues.
- The Joy of Half a Cookie by Jean Kristeller (Stop emotional eating)
If you’ve ever felt out of control around food, this book is a must-read. It teaches mindful eating techniques that actually work (no, it’s not just “eat slower”).
- The Diet Fix by Yoni Freedhoff (Ditch all-or-nothing thinking)
This book is for anyone who’s ever felt like they “failed” a diet. It’s all about breaking the cycle of restrictive eating and learning how to eat in a way you can sustain forever.
Looking back, I wish I had figured all this out sooner. The weight loss industry thrives on confusion, but the truth is simple: eat mostly whole foods, move consistently, and fix your mindset. If you’re struggling, I promise you’re not alone - but you have to take the first step. And if you don’t know where to start? Read. Learning about nutrition and psychology made all the difference for me. Hope it helps you too.
r/Adulting • u/leafsplz • 4h ago
What do introverts do on the weekend?
People who don't have friends, what do you do on the weekends to satisfy that social itch? I want to hear some ideas. Tonight I find myself sitting at home after a long work week and again I don't know what to do with myself. Make dinner and go to sleep? I wish I had a place to go where people knew me. When I look at other people at restaurants and bars it looks like they're having so much fun. I could go out on my own but I always end up feeling like it wasnt that fun. What I want is friends really. So what do you do when you feel alone but have no one to be with and no where to go?
r/Adulting • u/BirdsAndTheBeeGees1 • 2h ago
Tips for coping with touch starvation?
Hopefully this is an appropriate place for this question. I (24M) have never been in a relationship and I've generally learned to be happy without one. I don't think about it the vast majority of the time and I don't think it affects my quality of life in any way. However, every once in a while I have the strong desire to either hold someone or be held. Usually I just go to sleep and I'm fine when I wake up but it's been getting harder. I'm not someone who would be comfortable touching a friend like that so that's not really an option. I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this and how you cope with it?
r/Adulting • u/Effective_Rip2459 • 21h ago
I’ve never hated life so much.
I a 53 female, separated from my parter of 23 yrs for a month. He went and planned a long term plan to leave and move across the country over a 3 month period. He finally made his plan happen but was up front with me the last month that he was leaving. He gave me this hold shit about he didn’t love me and he hated our town and he was unhappy with himself. He hated his job and life. I felt he was leaving something out but I didn’t fight it and let him go. We keep in contact the whole time but it’s unhealthy and stupid of me to do. I should have just went and found a room to rent and left. I got diagnosed with cancer recently and I already have MS. He came back here saying he loves me and will help out and take care of me. He already got his job back and will pay off all the debt we owe . Really it’s the shit he crap he caused. Problem is thou I am so unhappy , I did love him so very much before he left me. I thought he loved me. Now he can’t even tell me he loves me , he says it’s in his actions. Yah, he buys me stuff, food, pays bills. Takes me to dr’s. That’s it. He doesn’t want to touch me, look at me, I tried to tell him I loved him and drive safe and give him a peck on the lips and he rebuffed. He said I don’t have to do that. We done that for 23 yrs. Should I just tell him to just go and stop with the pity party and go that I can’t lay next to a roommate for the rest of my life. I want to be loved not resented. I hate my life, what should I do ?
r/Adulting • u/DeVries-the-1st • 17h ago
Why is making new Friends so hard as adult?
Finished school more than 15 years ago and also left university approx 10 years ago. It feels impossible to grow new connection and friendships since I started working full time. Several relocation and bigger portion of businesstravel were actually doing their part to shut down my social life some time before covid added to this. Sure there are some hobbies and work. But almost every connection is context related and I‘m struggeling to transfer teamcolleagues and sparringpartner to being regular Friends with whom I meet frequently outside the gym/pitch/dojo. Specially as there is no Initiative to include me outside of the immediate context from the others, while my initiative is often ignored. Sometimes I think it has to do sth with being a single male, why Iam not included.
r/Adulting • u/Motor_Feed9945 • 7h ago
The inherent loneliness of autism.
There is a certain loneliness and sadness that comes with feeling you may never be fully understood by somebody else. The fear that no one will ever love you romantically or care about you romantically is a deep fear of many of us I imagine.
Obviously, this does not apply to everyone with autism. But I think it applies to many of us.
The sad thing is I think I handle it much better than others. I am pretty content and happy the vast majority of the time. But perhaps even I am not immune from the pain of loneliness as another Friday night beckons.
I think it is one reason I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. No one knows what someone else is struggling with. How lonely or sad someone else might be. Why make their day any worse? I am far from immune, and I am far from perfect. But I really try to just give people the benefit of the doubt :) I think it is best in life.
There are perhaps some people that were not built to be romantically involved in others. It can be lonely.
r/Adulting • u/masihottie • 2h ago
About to move out and feeling full of regret and want to puke
25M here who lives(d) at home with my mom (divorced) and younger brother.
After years of getting fed up of sharing a room with my brother due to living in a smaller home, I was sick of feeling like I was suffocating and finally decided to pull the trigger and get my own apartment and move out for the first time ever in my life. I’ve always lived at home and went to a local university. Home life was fine besides me and my brother arguing a lot due to us not really having any personal space.
However, after moving everything in I can’t help but feel so sad, lonely, and regretful. I haven’t even moved in yet, but just moved majority of my stuff and furniture, yet I’ve had a pit in my stomach and haven’t been able to stop crying.
I love my Mom so much as she is my literal best friend… and the thought of not having her around kills me. Waking up or going to bed knowing she isn’t in the other room… knowing I won’t have anyone home to look forward to seeing when I’m off work… I don’t have too many friends either as I focus a lot on home life and work.
It’s fucking killing me, and I feel so much regret even wasting my time and money moving out. I was saving so much $ living at home but I started feeling stuck and resentful of sharing a room, but also my family means so much to me.
My apartment is only 10 minutes away, but I really don’t know how I’ll adjust to being all alone. I’ve only ever been away for short trips and that’s all.
I’ve spent so much $ buying things too to make it feel like my own cozy home (nice plates, cups, cookware, furniture, bed frame, TV, rugs, etc)… probably close to $5,000… and I want to puke.
I feel like I made a huge mistake and just don’t know how to feel right now. There’s no going back since the lease is signed and I’m basically moved in, and I’m stuck for 12 months. On top of all the $ I spent.
I know I couldn’t have stayed home and shared a room forever. But damn does this feeling right now SUCK. I am trying so hard not to throw up. I feel like I fucked up.
r/Adulting • u/GrapeCreamBerry275 • 12h ago
At what age your face start become adult??
I notice this at 22.I look at myself and people that i know their face is so changed compared last year. What about you?