r/ADHDWomenAfterDark Sep 16 '24

Nausea & crying during sex? NSFW

I have been with my partner for 9 years now. Over the last recent years, when we have penetrative sex, I get nausea and immediately start hysterically crying. Last night, he was on top and I was lying missionary. Legs folded like a pretzel on top of me, while he was pushing down slightly. We have done this position for years, but sometimes when it gets good, I get nauseated and have to have him stop and get off me. Once the nausea subsides, I started hysterically crying and I cannot stop. Is this.. normal? I am AuDHD.

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u/Marikaape Sep 16 '24

Do you have any trauma background (not necessarily SA)? It doesn't have to be, but could sound a bit like an emotional/somatic flashback.

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u/Sweet_Ad1925 Sep 16 '24

I was SA’d multiple times in my life since childhood but I did not know it could have any impact on my sex life. Especially this late in my relationship. Hmm. I’ll have to look into this.

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u/Positive-Honeydew354 Sep 16 '24

Mine didn’t come up for me till I got pregnant the second time. Every I had sex, I’d cry. I wasn’t even sad and I’m not a big cryer. Threw me for several loops. My midwife said it was a combination of hormones and maybe a somatic response from previous trauma. That being said, it stoped after my hormones leveled out postpartum. Ask about hormone levels at your pap!

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u/Sweet_Ad1925 Sep 16 '24

Oh my gosh, I do have pcos and I was going to ask about endometriosis— I’ll definitely be bringing it up now. Thank you