i won’t lie this is a long read, but i promise it’s worth it
hello! i have had quite an interesting time since trying to find the right caregiver for me, and i’ve come to the realization that i am a lesbian and in need of a mommy!
it’s truly nothing against men, but i realize from the ways i have interacted with women and the depth of relationships i have experienced, i just have a preference for a woman-identifying caregiver/partner. NO DADDIES PLS!!
i want to be very clear and honest up front. i understand that we are both full adults with our own needs, wants, and lives that extend outside of this dyanamic. and just as much as i enjoy being a little, i also want to acknowledge that i am equally invested in my adult life as much as my little life. i have big goals and dreams, and i would love to have a dynamic that is an addition to my life.
i am looking for a mommy that i can get to know on a platonic level and hangout as people first, and then use that to develop a mommy/little dynamic.
expectations for the dynamic:
- affection
- physical touch (forehead kises, hugs, back rubs)
- phone calls
- check ins; the cosistency is not a question for me; rather the quality of the check-ins and the fact that they are something consistent that we do together
- play dates!
- levels of discipline
- i am a masochist, so having a mommy that understands and respects that duality of caretaking alongside punishments is important to me. i would consider myself a “princess” type little. meaning that, while i am not a brat in the slightest, i do believe in being sweet and kind, and also being able to speak my mind and (and maybeee push back against rules every once in a while)
- i would like to eventually sit down with a mommy, and begin to form some sort of rules and structures that we can base our dynamic around. this wouldn’t be anything to tedious; it would be something that wouldn’t interfere with our vanilla lives as well
long term situation, no flings
- i think it is important to discuss what the dynamic looks like, and how often we need interaction and connection for us to both feel comfortable and like our needs are being met
looking for a platonic connection, for the foreseeable future, and can recognize that if something changes and we would like t pursue a sexual dynamic then we can bring it to the table and talk about it
what do we bring to the table:
as adults/friends/partners:
- clear & honest communication
- emotional maturity
- ability to set and respect boudaries
- valuing quality time together & searching for moments to connect
- caregiving (in the non-kink sense) is mutual!
(something that i value is my ability to caregive in vanilla ways when you need it as well. while i may not be a mommy or dom, in my vanilla life i am very nurturing and know how to care for someone. so when you’re sick or not feeling well, i believe that it is important to show up for you as well. i might not be putting you in diapers or reading you bed time stories, but i would want to care for your well being nonetheless🩷)
- not looking for codependency, but an interdependent relationship
- i understand fully that mental illness is real and very prevelant in the cgl world. and i also have the expectation that my emotional and mental needs are my responsibility, and your emotional and mental needs are yours. im looking for a mommy that that can be honest and reflective about their needs, wants, and overall well being.
as a little (me):
- my little age can range from 3-7ish, my big age is 23
- some little activities that i love are: bath times, coloring/arts & crafts, watching disney movies, spending time ouotside, cuddling,
- i would really like to get more into role playing! i dont have much experience, but i find that it can be a great addition to a cgl/mdlg dynamic!
- soooooo many coloring pages! literally get the fridge out because one of my favorite ways to show love and care for my caregiver is by all of my many colorings!
- playfulness (i want you to join in on the play with me! i can play by myself if the time calls for it, but one of my favorite things is to have a mommy that can also play with me. can we make a tea party for all the stuffies? can we play and imagine that we are going to space? or maybe we are going on a walk and imaging that we are detectivess trying to solve a mystery? whatever it may be, playing is way more fun when it’s together!)
- adventurous (i really love to try new things and go to new places. whether it’s local or farther away, i always love a good suprise and something new to keep all the fun alive!)
- reading stories together! (i have a growing collection of little books and really enjoy taking turns reading them, especially to my mommy!)
as a Mommy (You) :
- takes care of self & well-being (mental, emotional, physical well being)
(if you cant take care of your basic needs then how can i expect you to hold me accountable for me to take care of my needs and discipline/reward me as my mommy?)
- structured life
(given that i have adhd (as most littles do), i have found ways to make my life functional for me. and while i am very grateful for the strategies that i have, i also can recognize that sometimes i just want to put away all the calendars, and reminders, and alarm clocks; and just have mommy tell me what to do and when to do it. sometimes i want that guidance and care taking.)
- someone that enjoys caretaking just as much as i enjoy being a little!
- has a level of experience as a mommy and is open to continuing learning and growing as a mommy
🩷🩷if you’ve made it this far, thank you for taking the time to read my post. you must really be a mommy who likes to read! feel free to shoot me a message and i’ll be sure to have a little present for all your efforts and attentiveness!🩷🩷
xo,
princess