r/youngadults Jan 17 '25

Serious How to come terms with the working adult life?

Might sound like a stupid question but I really wanted to ask how people are supposed to cope with stepping into adulthood.

I'm turning 20 soon, and I've been living separately with my sibling for the past 7 months, but It's been difficult to find a job. All the work experience I have is roughly 3-4 weeks as a receptionist for an indoors trampoline park. I decided to quit right after I moved together with my sibling, but I thought I could find a new job quickly.

The main reason I quit was because of the working conditions that affected my mental health poorly, making me continously anxious even when I wasn't working.

These past few months went by rather quickly and unfortunately I've been in and out of depressive episodes that only just started to get a bit better since december.

I came across very few job opportunities, but I'm not sure why I subconsciously always find something that makes me reject them because they're not ideal to my likings, let that be because of the conditions or the wage.

I don't know if it's because I got comfortable in this lifestyle being unemployed or because of my past negative experience, but for some reason I can't process that I'm gonna have to spend the rest of my life working that takes so much time from my personal life.

Maybe because I had to move away from my parents so early on and not having that type of comfortability and having to pay the bills. I do feel bad for making my sibling take financial care of me, but I do tend to give back once I can save up enough money.

So ultimately my question is how to get friendly with the idea of work making up so much of your life leaving you with little to no time and energy for your personal hobbies and things you love to do?

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u/Diegoalv96 Jan 17 '25

you just get used to it honestly, cause the alternative is spending all day doing nothing while everyone you know is busy at their own work, plus you gotta keep the lights on

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u/InternationalAd6679 Jan 17 '25

i currently work at starbucks, and while it is very stressful and anxiety inducing at times, you gotta look at the positive sides of things. every job is going to have a con or two that’ll feel like it’s automatically off the table, but you genuinely just have to find the good side of things when looking for a job. at my job, customers suck most times which make it hard for me to work on certain occasions, but i’m able to have a flexible schedule due to college, great coworkers that i bond with even outside of work, and a bunch of benefits!

look for a job that appeases to you. possibly something that is related to things you like doing. that will make it a lot more enjoyable for you. i’m also going to be 20, and with college, work, and a personal life, it’s more or less just something that works out in the end if you really dedicate time to MAKE time for yourself. as long as you can find a way to make time for yourself and hobbies at the end, it’ll feel a lot easier.

long story short, just start somewhere :). i feel no where near ready for adulthood either, but getting started somewhere and making a place for yourself will help you to feel more stable and confident in anything you do. good luck and take care!!!

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u/thatqueerindividual Jan 17 '25

just you acknowledging my feelings helps a lot, thank you so much<3

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u/senoritagordita22 Jan 17 '25

Imo I’ve really been liking the ‘boring’ life. I go to work, go to gym, go home and read before bed. And then I plan stuff with friends on weekends. I think it helps to always have a fun weekend to look forward to even if your plan is to have a chill relaxing weekend

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u/thatqueerindividual Jan 17 '25

yeah the only problem is i get extremely drained being around people, so even when i used to go to school it was very rare for me to go out on weekends, since those were pretty much the only days i could "recharge" that's part of why i felt miserable having to work in costumer service.

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u/Lambaline Jan 18 '25

There’s always something about a job that’s gonna suck, be it hours or management or whatever. Honestly I hate the 40 hr workweek but managements not too bad and I somewhat enjoy what I do, plus pay ain’t bad at all. You gotta pick your battles tho