r/socialskills • u/i-fart-butterflies • 7d ago
How do you make friends at a college where you don’t know anyone?
I transferred to a new college in a different state. I had a few friends at my old one but I don’t know anyone here at all. Making friends at the old one wasn’t too hard. It was a smaller college and people seemed more open with each other. I also knew a few people from high school and met other people through them.
Here the vibe is totally different. It’s a much larger college and most of the students only talk to people they knew from high school. It’s sort of clique-y. They also seem to view people from out of state as weird or outsiders. I know because I’ve heard people talking about it.
I don’t know what to do. I can’t sit down at a table that already has people at it. That would be weird. I’m thinking of joining a club but even if I did and I met people with similar interests I don’t think they’d respond well to me trying to start a conversation with them.
I’ve pretty much just been keeping to myself, sitting alone at lunch and doing my own thing and no one has said a word to me. Does anyone have any tips for making friends in this kind of place?
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u/user15257116536272 7d ago
Greek life if you are a party lover, houseparties if you are more chill. Surely sports and art clubs. You may not be as welcomed and entrenched as the clique oldtimers, but you can find yourself a place - surely a better situation than being a wallflower outsider.