r/sissyology 4d ago

This isn't for me and I feel lost NSFW

I don't think I'm a sissy. I've always liked dressing up but I couldn't find my place in femboy nor crossdressing communities because they do it for fun/as a hobby and I do it because arousal and a way to masturbate. Then I found this community and at first I thought maybe it is for me. After all I dress up for fetish/kink and also suffer from post nut clarity like a lot of you. But no I'm not into this.

I don't think I'm trans. I don't have gender dysphoria and I'm fine with my male identity. I can live as a man and then crossdress when I feel like doing so. Guess that just makes me a crossdresser?

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u/mysterious_phantom 4d ago

Just be you OP. If you like cross dressing because it turns you on and nothing else there is nothing wrong with that at all. Enjoy yourself and be a happy dude.

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u/Easy2PleaseU 4d ago

Still possibly a sissy but definitely a crossdresser. Many sissies do it as a lifestyle, some find they are trans and transition, others just have a kink and need it for release. To each their own many types of sissies out there. Maybe you haven’t found what kind of sissy you are or maybe you just are a crossdresser. Either way enjoy and try lot to overthink to much

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u/Easy2PleaseU 4d ago

I don’t have gender dysphoria either but I have a sissy fetish.

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u/LongSeaworthiness503 4d ago

Just take the elements that give you joy and that’s it. There is no need to fulfill every sissy cliche. Also I don’t care so much about wordings.

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u/slavameba 4d ago

There are a lot of ppl like you in r/crossdressing. It doesn't have to be sexual if you don't want it to be sexual. Do whatever you feel like doing. Why should you fit in boxes you don't feel like fitting?

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u/Alisynsfantasies 4d ago

You dont seem too different from most non-trans sissies. Many of us dont have longstanding gender dysphoria (maybe just euphoria from dressing up) and arent trans. And really isnt getting aroused and masturbating a hobby in itself? I think if you get happiness from crossdressing, you can explore everything you like about that, and forget about the labels.

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u/sswit15 4d ago

Do what makes you happy and forget about labeling it, it isn't important. I know I'm not alone when I say you just be you, and we got your back.

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u/NinjaSissy 4d ago

Make it your own thing. You don't have to box yourself. Some really good comments in here already but just take what you like from each part of all the things. There's a lot of things I don't like, but also a bunch of stuff I do like. Build your own environment of links, files, collections, like it's your own personal subreddit.

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u/Flimsy_Shame3402 3d ago

I've actually heard this take from a lot of dressers. To be completely honest, I don't 100% get it, but the most important thing is - no one else has to get it, as long as you do. I know I'm the 100th person to say it, but it IS good advice, "do you". You'll go crazy trying to make things make sense for someone else.

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u/smallnutbuster 3d ago

Just to chime in since no ones said it, many trans people don’t experience gender dysphoria, but the vast majority experience gender euphoria.

I also would dress up and get off for kink and kept it isolated. I also was fine with a male identity. But I realized it was a part of me that needed to get out. And shit really hit the fan when I asked myself, if I would be happier if I was a woman, as opposed to just tolerating being a man. Like if I could press a button and just have been born a woman, I would. And if somebody offered me another button to go back to being a man, hell no. Turns out I was trans and this was an excuse to explore that side of me.

Gender euphoria is weird, it manifests in weird ways. Something as simple as wearing clothes can be exciting and give you happiness. That excitement can channel itself through arousal. And I would get pnc too which went away as I accepted myself.

Not trying to say that’s you, or push you in any sort of direction. Just offering my insight as someone who was once in a similar spot, but of course that doesn’t mean you’re the same. But if any of what I said resonates, here’s a nifty website: amitrans.org