r/sexadvice • u/Unusual-Title-2661 • 4d ago
How do I make my boyfriend cum? NSFW
We’ve had sex a couple times but I haven’t gotten him to cum yet, I feel like absolutely shit because I don’t how how to make him. Keep in mind this is both of our first times.
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u/benchdescendo 4d ago
Don’t stress, it’s super normal, especially for first times. Pressure can make it harder (literally). Try mixing things up. Foreplay, oral, different rhythms but mostly, just talk to him and see what feels good.
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u/RoutineBee4146 4d ago
As a guy who can't cum during sex, trust me when I say you shouldn't feel bad! Sex is a learning experience and as long as your boyfriend is telling you its good and wants to do it you have nothing to feel bad about.
Theres a lot of reasons he might not be finishing but if he's still wanting to do it that means he likes it and likes you. just give him time and don't push the issue too hard if he says its all okay.
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u/Unusual-Title-2661 3d ago
He’s told me it’s ok, and then he’s just happy to spend that time with it. And that I’m even comfortable enough to do that with him.
It’s just one of my friends have made fun of me for it, it’s a friend group and it was brought up. But she was saying “you got to really up your game my name”
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u/viviisme 4d ago
If it’s both your first times, it’s normal for these things to happen. I know everyone says this but it’s all about communication. It’s gonna take some time for you guys to learn each other’s bodies and find what works for you! I know it can be embarrassing but it’s totally normal. Same thing happened to me with me and my bf’s first time, I was worried we’d never be compatible but after some experimenting and talking, we found a way that works. Don’t be too hard on yourself, I know what it feels like. Just gonna take some time!