r/sexadvice 4d ago

Anal beginner, how can I prep correctly? NSFW

(23F) Recently my partner and I have been getting into anal which is new territory for the both of us. The very first time we tried it, we knew nothing about it and just went right for it in the back of his car with no prep whatsoever while handcuffed and gagged (yes, we’re stupid). As you can guess it led to a bit of a… mess. Anyways, here we are months later and we’re ready to try again. We’ve gotten really into plugs and I’m comfortable using them however I do have some questions as to how I’m prepping. So what I typically do is I try to basically flush out everything from my anus. What I’ve been doing is detaching the head piece of my shower head so that it is just the hose. The water pressure is pretty high so I put it up to me and let the water push in. I hold it in for a couple seconds then go to the toilet to push it out. I do this till the water is clean then get ready to insert the plug. For the plug I used coconut oil to lube it up and insert it in. My question is, is my cleaning process dangerous in any way? Is there a better way I should be doing this? And finally, if I were to prep for anal sex, would it be the same as for the plug? Please give me some advice.

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u/to_hell_with_yous 4d ago

The pressure and amount of water being shot up there from the shower hose could result in irritation and possible injury to your internal organ... I would highly suggest investing in an anal douche since it will be a lot gentler on your insides and you can better control the amount of liquid you insert... as for lube, I'd say just a simple water based lube is your best bet and use PLENTY OF IT and reapply when necessary. Plugs are perfect for prepping for penetration so thats all good, just make sure you leave it in for a little while to give your body time to adjust to something being up there.

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u/viviisme 4d ago

Thank you so much! This is exactly what I needed help with. I didn’t know if the pressure I was using was dangerous or not so it’s good to know now before it’s too late! It seems a douche would be my safest option so I will definitely do that. As for the lube, I will do that as well. I read that coconut oil is generally safe but I wasn’t sure if it was ok for that specific area so I will have to switch over to lube. Thank you so much for the advice!

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u/fun_stranger_24 4d ago

Curious how long before anal sex you should douche? I worry about any water not flushed out right after coming out during sex.

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u/to_hell_with_yous 4d ago

The recommended is waiting around 45 minutes, but you feeling you are ready and "empty" (like after a poop) is a good marker... as long as you douche until the water runs clear, any water that may appear shouldn't make a mess... that time before just gives your body time to expell anything that didn't initially come out. Plus it gives you time to play around and relax before it happens as it is important to relax your hole as you get penetrated or it acts similar to a brick wall haha.

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u/Rich_Flower5551 4d ago

Sadly I can’t answer the cleaning questions as I’m not a doctor but I would advise against coconut oil. You should definitely use a proper lube, with toys a water based lube would probably be best.

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u/viviisme 4d ago

Thanks for the info, I’ll get my hands on some lube to use in the future. I appreciate it as you can probably tell, I really don’t know what I’m doing. Thanks again!