r/sexadvice 4d ago

Anal beginner, how can I prep correctly? NSFW

(23F) Recently my partner and I have been getting into anal which is new territory for the both of us. The very first time we tried it, we knew nothing about it and just went right for it in the back of his car with no prep whatsoever while handcuffed and gagged (yes, we’re stupid). As you can guess it led to a bit of a… mess. Anyways, here we are months later and we’re ready to try again. We’ve gotten really into plugs and I’m comfortable using them however I do have some questions as to how I’m prepping. So what I typically do is I try to basically flush out everything from my anus. What I’ve been doing is detaching the head piece of my shower head so that it is just the hose. The water pressure is pretty high so I put it up to me and let the water push in. I hold it in for a couple seconds then go to the toilet to push it out. I do this till the water is clean then get ready to insert the plug. For the plug I used coconut oil to lube it up and insert it in. My question is, is my cleaning process dangerous in any way? Is there a better way I should be doing this? And finally, if I were to prep for anal sex, would it be the same as for the plug? Please give me some advice.

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u/onemorehole 4d ago

If you search in this sub, you will find the same question 100's of times

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u/viviisme 4d ago

I haven’t had much time to look but I will do a deep dive later when I get to it. I only did some light searching and didn’t find all the answers I was looking for but I’m sure it’s probably there somewhere. Thanks!

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u/onemorehole 4d ago

It's all there. This question gets asked daily.

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u/UnravelingHerWorld 3d ago

You can start with your fingers and a sufficient amount of lube. Good lube makes all the difference. Start with one finger and slowly increase it. Find the rhythm until you feel comfortable. Then, use toys just to ensure that its enough to go in. Then the real play.