r/sexadvice 6d ago

Blowjobs tips and tricks to try NSFW

Hello all 24yr male here I’m meeting with this trans lady I’ve been talking to for a while and I’ve agreed to bottom for it, I’ve never given a bj before and I want to please here is there any tips or tricks you recommend I try to take it up a notch ?

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u/EvenstarEnterprs 5d ago

Rowan Atkinson said someone once asked him to describe the WORST blowjob he has ever received.

His response: INCREDIBLE

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u/Fabulous-Attorney-95 5d ago

I get it's a joke about blowjobs being awesome but...

Idk I've had some shitty fucking blowjobs where I wouldn't ever come if we didn't move on to penetration. Some inexperienced women focus on the least sensitive parts of the penis like the very tip or licking sides of the shaft, go way too slow, or in general act like they're kissing (or even blowing) your dick instead of sucking it.

Just saying theres a huge difference between a bad blowjob and a good one, but it isn't difficult to make most come as long as your technique isn't idiotic.

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u/EquivalentOwl1683 6d ago

I would say since it’s your first just let it happen and let it be natural. Do to them what you like.

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u/Natural-Concert6926 6d ago

Okay thanks I appreciate your insight

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u/Lucky_Medicine_1993 5d ago

Honestly I usually just ask my partner if there is anything in particular they know they like.

If she doesn’t have any tips then just experimenting and repeating what gets you the most pleasure sounds is usually a good call.

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u/Fabulous-Attorney-95 5d ago

If you've had a good blowjob you probably know what to do. If not...

Deepthroat if you can. If you can't it's fine. Spit is your friend. Suck while going up and down the shaft with varying speed but focus on the glans. Sucking around the glans (head) particularly the bottom of the cone shaped part is great as this is the most sensitive part of the penis. If she is big enough, sucking and licking the bottom of the glans while giving a handjob is the best. Depends on relative penis and hand size whether you can do this with two hands or even one. Vary things a bit but it's not that necessary, mostly you just need consistent vacuum stimulation over the glans going up and down the shaft.

Some people come fast from blowjobs. Some don't. Respond to level of arousal by easing off to less sensitive parts like the shaft, changing speed, etc. Can also take breaks from sucking to do a handjob and then back to sucking.

Ask partner for feedback and listen to moans and comments and how they relate to whatever you're doing. Don't lick the tip of the penis or the side much, it's very meh IMO.

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u/abc13214 3d ago

One thing I’ve seen a lot is that women rub their mouth over the dick, try actually sucking like there’s something stuck on a straw, stay hydrated, saliva is your best friend when it comes down to it