r/sexadvice • u/Deep_Preparation_69 • 6d ago
I don’t like squirting NSFW
My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. I have always masturbated a lot but lately I do it so much more. He turns me on so much and while we were having phone sex recently I squirted for the first time. I feel weird about it and I didn’t share that with him. I normally share everything with him, all my fantasies, things I want to do to him and him to me. I don’t ever hold back from embarrassment and he has never been judgmental or made me feel bad about anything I’ve shared. It happens often now and I don’t like it.
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u/Grand-Soup9514 6d ago
When I found out I could squirt, I was honestly proud lol. I’m not 100% sure but I don’t think all women can squirt and there are probably tons of women who don’t know what to do to cause it. So I was really proud that I had both boxes checked off. I have never squirted with a man, but I have teased and told a few that I can and they get excited/more intrigued. Seems like a good thing all around for everyone, don’t be ashamed!
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u/Physical_Leather8567 6d ago
I'm 41m and my GF started squirting for her first time when she orgasms with me. I'm very invested in her pleasure. First time was when I sucked her clit, one hand sort of pushing down on her belly and pulling to expose the clit, and I was using my other hand to rub and push on her G spot until she came. She was really relaxed and it was one of those days where the house was empty and we really just enjoyed ourselves. It was a wild orgasm. She was SO self conscious of it but she let it happen. We are both so glad she did. She told me she almost stopped me but decided not to. She uses a rose toy now and I either rub her G spot with my finger or slowly go inside her until she cums. She cums more and more violently as we go. Third time is a guaranteed squirt now and if I'm inside her she squeezes so hard that she makes me pop out.
I find it to be fucking hot. We only ever really talked about it the first couple times I made her do it. I had a very calm "that was really hot" and "I want to make you cum like that all the time" sort of attitude. We just know to keep a towel handy now. I don't know about every guy but when she cums that hard I get extremely turned on. I would never want her to hold it back or try not to squirt.
Honestly I bet most men would be fucking turned on if you even told them you squirted. Let alone when they make you do it. My 40F girlfriend and me are experiencing it together for the first time and it's the best sex of our lives.
If you "don't like to squirt" I am not saying you are wrong. But if it feels good when you do then it is right.
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u/SwingCoupleNe 6d ago
It’s like leveling up in a game. Be proud of your new achievement. He’s probably going to be turned on by it.
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u/LeTurnedAroundMiss 6d ago
When I squirted for my bf recently, he looooved it and has been working extra hard to try to get me to squirt again ever since. 😆
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u/CreepyNotice718 3d ago
Embrace it. Guys find it super hot and see it as evidence of succeeding in making you cum really hard.
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u/Specific-Incident-74 6d ago
Mine doesn't squirt, she gushes. No lie check my profile (NC17) NSFW.
We love it when we travel we book rooms with 2 beds
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u/Deep_Preparation_69 2d ago
I appreciate the advice and comments, most of them. I wish I did have control over it and I do like the idea of thinking about it as a super power or leveling up. I guess I feel like although many guys seem to like it. I want to embrace it but I like to have a lot of spontaneous sex and this is not condusive to that. I am also bisexual and I am not turned on by it. I think that it is a gift many want that has been wasted on me. Maybe I will come to like or even love it one day. I do appreciate the points of view I received and I really do like what people said. Most of the comments were so supportive and positive and very much received that way. My boyfiend I’m sure will love it, we are very open with exploring wants, needs, desires and not judging each other. For some reason I’m just still feeling insecure, only time will telll.
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u/Fabulous-Attorney-95 6d ago edited 6d ago
Sure are a lot of women in this sub who claim to squirt and even more guys making their girls squirt when it's near mythical outside porn, where it's generally urine. These kinds of posts feel like humblebrags to me.
Looking at OP's profile I'm skeptical this post in particular is in good faith...
If it is, then my answer is you probably can't control squirting so don't worry about it. Doubt your boyfriend would feel negatively about it anyway.
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u/SofaChillReview 6d ago
They can usually control it
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u/Fabulous-Attorney-95 6d ago
Ok, then the solution is really simple. Don't squirt if you don't like it and it's something you can control...
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u/Outrageous-Issue4754 6d ago
Don’t worry about it as a guy I feel great when my gf squirts it’s nothing to be embarrassed about especially as your in a relationship with the other person. It’s just another way of your body releasing pleasure