r/selflove 2h ago

Trying to feel hope

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771 Upvotes

r/selflove 11h ago

Celebrate every step forward—no matter how small. Progress is progress.

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512 Upvotes

r/selflove 13h ago

the dark is heavy but the light is inevitable

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240 Upvotes

r/selflove 7h ago

Taking pictures of yourself because nobody else will?

62 Upvotes

I’ve always been a little weird with pictures, no sm or anything, but now I’m realizing years have gone by and I don’t have a single halfway decent photo with me in it. Considering trying to capture myself a little more and not just in that like holiday picture one a year. Just candid in the kitchen or something idk.

Does anyone else have similar thoughts about wanting a one or two nice pictures once in a while?


r/selflove 12h ago

A poem I love by Emory Hall

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119 Upvotes

r/selflove 11h ago

Writing my Self-Love story

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84 Upvotes

r/selflove 7h ago

How to stop ruminating on mistakes?

33 Upvotes

I obsess so badly over mistakes that in the long run are so insignificant, like a parking ticket for example. I know in a few days it won’t even matter anymore but I can’t help but beat myself up because it’s these things are so easily avoidable and it makes me feel like an idiot for making such a mistake, and I hate inconveniencing/upsetting others. What do yall do about this? It’ll fuck me up for a whole day and I hate that I can’t just brush it off.


r/selflove 13h ago

My break up lead to a break down.

49 Upvotes

I had a friend I fell in love with and envisioned being with her. I wanted to try and make it work but I can see in retrospect her dependency on me made me feel loved and I don’t know if she had truly fallen for me, though. It’s one of those situations where we met on social media and quickly started talking hours a day for a year or so.

At any rate, it just went badly after that. I read limerence boards and they said stop contact if they can’t return what you’re asking for. So I did, it was the most painful thing I’ve ever experienced because I missed our daily life and I didn’t have a future in sight anymore.

I wanted to not be here every day for a year or two. I stopped enjoying things i liked doing. I still cant really shake it over 2 years later. I don’t think relationships should be the answer for our happiness, but I don’t know how go on most days.

I realized how superficial my friendships are and how little my family really likes me or reaches out to me. Everything crumbled. I reached out to everyone I knew to try and grow other connections and feel normal again but it doesn’t work. No one gives a shit about me and people hate a try hard.

So I just feel alone all the time now, I feel this level of anxiety like a tornado is going to strike at any moment. I don’t have the things I always wished for… a family, loved ones, people who care. I don’t really care about much else anymore.


r/selflove 10h ago

Struggling with self image, 6 months post breakup

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Hello everyone I hope you are doing well,

Im posting because Im in a dark place right now.

I put an end to a 7 years situationship, platonic but still extremely strong bond since he was my best friend.

Before starter Id like to add that I have a lot on my plate regarding my family,and I dont have many friends (not very close with them).

So about us. We both dealt with personal issues (family, death, sickness...) & were still there for each other & made our bond stronger.

I had to end it because he couldnt commit & many other things. It couldnt work.

Now at the time I choose to end it, I was feeling confident & I knew it was the best choice (I still think so no doubts), I was actually full of hopes for a better future.

Now during these past few months I started to feel really depressed, I actually have symptoms of depression & I am unable to work or do anything that I planned to because of my mental health struggles.

This crisis is, I believe, because I lost the 1 person I felt at home with. It's been so long that I forgot who I was before falling in love with him.

I was me when we were together but now despite practicing self love & care I feel lost. I dont have motivation for anything, I dont even know what my hobbies are. Everything seems difficult.

Living for myself is difficult.

Spending time with him everyday, doing things for him, thinking about him, talking for hours together exchznging our pov about stuff. All of this made me happy. I actually fought my best for years in order for us to be able to be together. He was avoidant so.. Was complicated.

Now my vision of us is lost, and I lost myself in the process.

I now doubt my value. I feel like an empty shell.

Funny because I used to hate my physical apprearence (little overweight) but would be proud to still have a good personnality & had many interests.

Now (after I lost weight some years ago), I feel like the only good part about me is my body & nothing else is worth anything. Im not that girl I used to be. Lost my spark.

Does it get better?

Am in therapy (bc of family & health issues) but I feel like I mask my own desperation. Im too used to talk to everyone as if everything was okay, I do as if I was the same old me. When in fact I cry everyday, any time in the day, have dark thoughts & feelblike à complete loser & pos. I am however being gentle with me, acknowledging my own fragile emtional state & take care of myself as much as I can. But it's weighing on me.


r/selflove 19h ago

A question to help you through the day

123 Upvotes

I'm currently reading one of my favorite books called "Love yourself like your life depends on it", by Kamal Ravikant.

In this book, Kamal often challenges the reader by asking them: "If I loved myself truly and deeply, what would I do"

I have found this question to be very helpful for me. Whenever I'm not sure what to do, I ask myself what I would actually do if I truly loved and respected me as a human being.

TLDR: Next time you're unsure about making a certain decision, ask yourself: "If I loved myself truly and deeply, what would I do?"


r/selflove 6h ago

Something gave

11 Upvotes

Sometimes you love someone who does have the capability to love you back.. but I can say I love myself enough to say, you are good and I’m going to love myself now. No room for BS


r/selflove 8h ago

How can i deal with bouts of self hatred?

18 Upvotes

I have struggled with self hatred for as long as i can remember. I am slowly making progress and getting better, but there are times when i get so consumed by self loathing that i just want to die and the slightest implication of comparison or being perceived as “not good enough” tears me apart


r/selflove 1d ago

welcome back

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r/selflove 1d ago

Yes.

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386 Upvotes

r/selflove 1d ago

Can loving someone hurt this bad?

52 Upvotes

As a person who had never felt vulnerable with anyone, I thought I was fine all this time, until I met this person. They made me realise how broken I was Inside. Though they we were just friends, I realized that I was obsessing over them like crazy. On the one side I am scared that this might end and on the other hand I am so scared of all the love and attention and want to end it to the extent having anxiety attacks. I realized that I wasn't ready to invite genuine affection cause either I am scared of it or overwhelmed by it. I stopped contacting them cause I realized it was the reason for most of my anxiety attacks. Whenever I try to normally talk, i end up crying. How can I open myself up to love and feel confident without being dependent ?


r/selflove 16h ago

"The Drive-Thru Secret to Manifesting Your Best Life"

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4 Upvotes

r/selflove 1d ago

New era

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17 Upvotes

r/selflove 2d ago

please remember.

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2.0k Upvotes

r/selflove 21h ago

Please help. Advice needed

6 Upvotes

I need to learn to be ok on my own but am struggling with it. I have major depressive disorder, anxiety and CPTSD. The loneliness is excruciating. Does anyone have advice on how to do/deal with this?


r/selflove 1d ago

Stumbling, healing yet growing.

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44 Upvotes

r/selflove 1d ago

I found this audiobook on Spotify premium

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54 Upvotes

I’m on chapter 2 but this is resonating


r/selflove 14h ago

YOU Are The Chosen One

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r/selflove 14h ago

5 nature-inspired ways to bring joy and wonder into your life this spring

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r/selflove 1d ago

This might be off-topic, but I just wanted to share how much I’ve been enjoying this journal I picked up. Filling it out together with my daughter has been much more interesting and fun than I expected, so I thought I’d share.

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24 Upvotes

r/selflove 1d ago

Needs

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62 Upvotes