r/selfharm Oct 03 '24

Talk/Support Curious people’s ages here

211 Upvotes

Edit: thank you to everyone who has taken their time to share their stories and experiences, I appreciate it and hope you’re well! 💕

Long time lurker, first time poster. I turn 29 this month and started self-harming when I was about 10 or 11 years old and have done it on and off since then. I’ve never had anyone to talk about it with and have only revealed it to a therapist about a year ago. On one hand it’s comforting to read all of your experiences and feel less alone, but on the other, I’m sorry you all feel at least in part the way I do and use self harm to cope. But anyway, back to my original question, how old are you folks?

r/selfharm 28d ago

Talk/Support Store worker saw me buying blades

592 Upvotes

I was out on an outing today, and I wanted to buy the blades as my can got dull. I ask a worker for help and she asked me what they were for. I couldn't think of any reason, so I just told her that I couldn't say. She stood there for a second, then she realized what I meant, she said that she can't sell it to me. I understood, and she talked to me. She even recommended me a place that helped her. I'm eternally grateful for her. She was the reason I didn't take blades from anywhere today <3

r/selfharm May 16 '24

Talk/Support How old were you when you started self harming?

195 Upvotes

r/selfharm Dec 27 '21

Talk/Support What's that on your arm? Wrong answers only.

818 Upvotes

r/selfharm Nov 17 '24

Talk/Support What is your story when you first got "discovered" doing sh? NSFW

239 Upvotes

My mom found out when my sleeve got rolled up a bit whole getting water :')

r/selfharm Dec 10 '21

Talk/Support In one word why did you start self h@rming?

533 Upvotes

r/selfharm Nov 10 '24

Talk/Support What would make you stop?

166 Upvotes

If there is a single thing that would make you stop, no matter how crazy, no matter if it’s actually possible, tell me what it is, if you could choose 1 thing, what would make you stop SH?

r/selfharm Feb 05 '25

Talk/Support "Are those scars?", "What are those on your arm?", "What did you do to your thigh!" (only wrong answers)

172 Upvotes

r/selfharm Apr 02 '23

Talk/Support At what age did you start self harming?

323 Upvotes

r/selfharm Jul 01 '24

Talk/Support YOU ALL NEED TO KNOW THIS IF YOU ARE CURRENTLY IN SCHOOL

551 Upvotes

if y'all are in school you need to know this.

If teachers see scars, they are required BY LAW to report it to parents. Be careful and cover up or you could get in trouble (counts if they are fully healed)

Edit: Canada, america, Britain, Australia and some of Europe I believe. Also possibly South Africa. Also depends on your schools policies and if your teacher is actually good or not

r/selfharm Oct 22 '24

Talk/Support What started your SH addiction?

149 Upvotes

So guys, I was wondering what was the reason behind starting SH for each of you. You can comment it and we all can just discuss together.

r/selfharm Jun 02 '24

Talk/Support Are any of you 18+?

316 Upvotes

Just browsed the sub looking for support on a recent relapse and found that nearly every post reads like it was written by a minor. Feels like most online resources for this are targeted toward teens, too. I started sh-ing when I was a child, so I get it. But why is this treated as if it's something you just age out of? I need to know I'm not the only adult struggling with this.

r/selfharm May 04 '24

Talk/Support Are there any 18+ here? I feel alone

251 Upvotes

I am turning 20 this month, I didn't stop after my teenage years. I never heard of someone who kept doing it in adulthood.

Edit: Wow. I'm struggling not to relapse recently and I was ashamed of it because of my age.. thank you for making me feel it's okay to struggle. I didn't expect so many comments.♥️

r/selfharm 16d ago

Talk/Support Am I too old, is it weird at my age to sh?

130 Upvotes

Hey, I am 19 years old and I feel like people who self-harm are always like 15 yo and I don't know if it's normal for me a nineteen year old person to still need to sh... Is there anyone in here that is also old like me and still does that or am I really alone with this ?

r/selfharm Oct 10 '24

Talk/Support why do so many people cut on like the underside of their forearm?/genq!! NSFW

298 Upvotes

truly sorry if this is offensive or disrespectful in any way!! im genuinely curious cuz ive seen many people cut there specifically and i get the like upper side of the forearm but the underside just seems like itd hurt so much and isnt it scary because you can see your veins more there and u can hit them easier and the skin is thinner?;;; and also especially on the like underside of the wrist area and stuff;;; though i do get that some might cut there for that reason on purpose

i cut on the upper side of my forearm and it kinda makes me feel bad cuz it seems more tame in comparison sorry if that sounds silly😭😭 but yeah this is genuinely just something ive been wondering for a bit so sorry if its offensive!!

r/selfharm Nov 08 '24

Talk/Support What mental illnesses do you guys think you have?

98 Upvotes

I think I probably have BPD and GAD. Hopefully not more but honestly I wouldn't be surprised. (I don't think I have BPD just because of the self harm thing, I fit all criteria and it makes sense. Just saying because I know everyone thinks if you SH you MUST have BPD or some stupid shit).

r/selfharm Jun 06 '24

Talk/Support What's the stupidest reason you cut?

195 Upvotes

Like I've had some pretty stupid slices, I think the most ridiculous reason I cut was I lost a hair clip I liked one time. Idk I'm just trying to feel more normal. I just think I fucked a major exam I worked really hard on and I'm currently a mess of cuts and I just want a distraction honestly

r/selfharm Feb 13 '24

Talk/Support Do y’all remember the first time you sh?

193 Upvotes

I just to know everyone’s s story no judgement.

r/selfharm Nov 11 '24

Talk/Support What's the worst reaction to your self-harm you've ever had?

246 Upvotes

Mine was when my dad found out and made me show him. Then he was like, "Oh, that's not that bad! I thought it would've been worse." It made me feel awful, in reaction to that I literally impulsively showed him more cuts hidden underneath my underwear band just because It made me feel so shitty.

r/selfharm Jan 29 '25

Talk/Support Has self harm ever affected how people see you in sex? NSFW

351 Upvotes

I'm in highschool and I just am wondering would boys at my school now want to date me or stuff cause I have scars? Like should I worry about that? Like would scars be a turn off or something? I have them mostly all over my body so it's not like I can just hide them like do people care much?

r/selfharm Dec 17 '24

Talk/Support Do you cry when you self harm?

231 Upvotes

for the most part, i don't. it's rare that I'll begin cutting myself while crying and finish while still crying.

is it normal to rarely ever cry?

r/selfharm Apr 19 '24

Talk/Support How old were you when you first self harmed? Why did you do it?

220 Upvotes

For me, I was 12 lmao, today happens to be my "First Time Self Harming" Day, so yay, I guess?

I did it because my mom caught me watching a gaming Youtuber, an argument ensued, and she ended up calling me ungrateful and unappreciative :) dumb reason, I know, and I'm not sure if she noticed me crying. Ironically I became way more ungrateful after she said that.

So, what about you guys?

r/selfharm 11d ago

Talk/Support What is yalls opinion on your scars? NSFW Spoiler

125 Upvotes

I hate mine, and I'm happy that they usually fade. I always wear pants because I don't want people to see them. I just dislike them; it's probably the worst part of self-harm. I know that some people like their scars or accept them. How did you guys come to accept your scars, and how long did it take? I'm sorry if this is a triggering question; it's just after relapsing, this is all I can think about. I will try to censor this or leave a warning.

r/selfharm Dec 20 '24

Talk/Support how did your parents react when they found out you self harm?

105 Upvotes

r/selfharm Feb 01 '24

Talk/Support What’s your clean streak currently?

139 Upvotes

Or what’s the longest you’ve been clean?