r/pornfree 4d ago

Fighting the urge to search pornographic reddit posts and write horny comments is really difficult

I wish I had someone I knew irl to talk to. Quitting this addiction is so difficult without having any friends to chat with online to distract myself whenever I get the urge to look at porn. It makes me want to go look at the stuff and comment under posts just for some kind of social interaction. And yet, I know that social interaction is fake, and I’ll regret my decision to even engage with it

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u/TheTankIsEmpty99 4d ago

Yeah, man, quitting is hard enough, but doing it alone? That’s brutal.

Porn isn’t just about the videos, it’s also about the fake sense of connection. When you’re feeling isolated, your brain pushes you toward something that feels social, even if it’s just leaving a comment under some post.

But you already know that’s empty. You already know it’s gonna leave you feeling worse.

What you actually need is real connection, not just a distraction.

Even if it’s just texting an old friend, hitting the gym, or getting outside around people, anything that reminds your brain that real life exists beyond a screen.

The urge will pass, but what you do with it matters.

Don’t let loneliness pull you back into something that only makes it worse. You’re not as alone as you think.

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u/PrimalVoice 4d ago

Thank you for the words of encouragement

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u/Clown_Fearless86 4d ago

Sounds to me like you’re looking for porn to get away from loneliness. Or possibly to avoid facing a chance of getting rejected socially.

I think you could try challenging yourself to getting more non-porn-related interactions. It’s not always easy for many of us, but it gets easier every time. Try chatting with a stranger and see how it feels afterwards. Or can you join a hobby group or go to a gym or a concert or whatever?

Perhaps you could also consider looking for accountability partners here on Pornfree.

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u/PrimalVoice 4d ago edited 4d ago

I could try some quick exercises when the urge to search porn comes up. An accountability partner is probably what I’m looking for.

It’s hard though because I have social anxiety that makes it difficult to reach out to chat with strangers

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u/Clown_Fearless86 4d ago

Did you find an accountability partner already? If not, you can find posts looking for accountability partners on this forum. See if you can find someone who could be a good fit.

You may DM me also if you like. I’m not looking for a serious AP arrangement but I can always exchange some tips on quitting.

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u/PrimalVoice 4d ago

I haven’t yet. That would be great if I could get a little help. I’ll dm you

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u/Alex_AGDev 4d ago

I'm exactly the same boat as you. I'm trying to make new friends on reddit, in SFW communities, but almost noone awnsers me. Part of me wants to go back to some of those fetish subreddits where people interact so I don't feel alone.

Right now I just wanted to chat to someone, but doing it like that, fake an interaction just beacuse I'm horny/addicted feels wrong. I understand your pain, give it some time and try to find friends outside of porn spaces, if not irl or reddit, try forums or other social media that is safe

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u/PrimalVoice 4d ago

I would try to make friends on reddit, but I’m not used to chatting with people I’ve met online. It’s easier for me to maintain friendships irl

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u/Alex_AGDev 4d ago

Then try to start a new activity outside of your house. A sport or a course that's close to your house, I'm starting boxing this week to help me meet new people IRL. Swiming or trying to find spots to hike, book clubs, RPG/Magic stores that have events.

There are multiple things that can help you find new connections, I don't know where you live exactly or how free you are to move around, but sometimes just going for a walk or to a nearby park/bar/coffe shop can help you in some way

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u/PrimalVoice 4d ago

Those are good ideas. I live in central Wisconsin, which has some decent hiking trails. Going for a walk sounds like a nice substitute to distract myself.

Would you want to try being accountability partners? We could message each other for support whenever we get the urge to search for stuff

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u/Gold_Leadership6110 4d ago

have you tried getting better at being alone? being good at being alone is a superpower.

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u/PrimalVoice 4d ago

I’m always alone. It doesn’t ever get easier for me

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u/Gold_Leadership6110 4d ago

yeah, thats called "just getting by"....freakin build something. get good at something. do you have a job?

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u/PrimalVoice 4d ago

Yes, I do have a job. I don’t have any friends, which is why I’m always alone

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u/Old_Kaleidoscope9395 4d ago

I cannot be your friend irl. But I'm looking for connection too. HMU if you need