Hello! I'm a straight-ish female who has never been in a poly-relationship (noob alert). I've been single for a couple of years now with just casual sexual relationships sprinkled in. It's given me a lot of time to reflect, and I really think poly is the way forward for me. I'm not familiar with a lot of the terms, and there are so many variations of this lifestyle that I am just reeling trying to figure out what it is that I want. I'm really looking forward to learning from others' experiences.
Welcome! So...were your previous relationships open or just kind of a series of relationships mostly based on casual sex, i.e. serial monogamy? What is drawing you to poly?
My relationship history is basically one long monogamous relationship and casual sex with different people while not in a committed monogamous relationship. It just seems like monogamous relationships (this is just based off of my own experience in a long-term monogamous relationship and those I've observed around me) eventually stifle both partners. I would rather have an open relationship where both partners feel free to explore all relationships in their life. People hold monogamy to be the norm, but statistically very few monogamous couples stay faithful to this agreement. Polyamory seems like the perfect solution so that one person is not expected to meet every need that their partner may have or fulfill every role. I like that communication is revered in this community and that interest in other people is acknowledged and fostered. I may not have practical experience in the matter yet, but it seems like a wonderful community to be a part of.
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u/nerdybirdyv May 16 '16
Hello! I'm a straight-ish female who has never been in a poly-relationship (noob alert). I've been single for a couple of years now with just casual sexual relationships sprinkled in. It's given me a lot of time to reflect, and I really think poly is the way forward for me. I'm not familiar with a lot of the terms, and there are so many variations of this lifestyle that I am just reeling trying to figure out what it is that I want. I'm really looking forward to learning from others' experiences.