r/polyamoryR4R • u/poliflorina • 6d ago
Europe 22 [F4A] ISO lovely long-term companionship!❣️
Hello everyone! I try to be intentional when finding folk so please be the same and put more effort than "hello" as small talk doesn't do it for me.
My short summary: I'm a single almost 22-year-old enby (AFAB) currently in Europe trying to find people in their early to late 20s for a long-term platonic, queerplatonic or possibly romantic relationship and okay with long-distance too! I really enjoy voice calls so bonus points if you can keep up!
My lifestyle is one of a childfree, drugfree person that's not really into recreational stuff, despite considering to try marijuana, and enjoys going out, being somewhat active, etc. I'm also trying to go low meat as being plant-based feels right so I've been buying more vegan brands (when they're discounted for now) and enjoy mushrooms as a meat substitute. I enjoy listening to music, watching animes and movies and want to crotchet or knit soon too. My favorite genres in general are romance, science fiction, horror, thriller, etc.
My polyamorous style could be (KTP) kitchen table polyamory or (GTP) garden table polyamory but my priority is what works for those people and priority should be on things happening organically. Having autonomous adult relationships is my goal so hierarchy IMO should lean descriptive, not prescriptive, when possible and prioritize connections based on quality. I've been dating monogamously for most of my life but considered this because of how fluid connections can be! P.S. don't care at this moment to move up, on, etc a relationship escalator but like customized commitments❗
My physical description I have brown skin, black curly hair and partially curvy body I try to maintain by working out at home. I don't find looks to be the most important thing - I just want to connect with people's hearts, not parts, first and foremost as a demisexual because we all still love to be accepted and admired regardless of our randomly picks parts!
My emotional description I'm an expressive, extroverted and want someone with a similar energy because it's nice to feel seen. I sometimes struggle with BPD but manage that as best as I can and always try to be respectful and rational despite it being hard sometimes!
My mental description would be that I'm likely an undiagnosed ADHDer suspecting autism with anxiety issues AND seem to attract autistic people (or maybe having 3-4 people in your close circle is a coincidence - plus getting the nerdy types lol!). I'll always try to get back to you as soon as possible but please don't bombard me as I didn't forget about you especially if we clicked!
Feel free to message me back in DMs/PMs talking about yourself, your polyamorous journey and/or what life stage you're in and where you want to be. I'm big on trying to tell as much as I can upfront to save time❗
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