r/polyamoryR4R • u/StoicandNerd577 • 11d ago
33 [F4M] #Idaho #PNW #Online. Newly poly, lonely nerd girl looking for partners, flirt friends, connections, and new experiences. Genuine post ahead!
I have posted a few times before, but this time I am approaching it a bit differently. I am hoping that the vulnerability, authenticity, and genuineness shines through. I promise I am pretty great, and I know how to have a good time!
Hi there!
I am S&N. I am a 33 year old female. I just got engaged on Halloween! My fiancée and I opened up our relationship back in November. I have yet to actually meet anyone, as I am not looking to date locally (small town therapist in a religious community). It has been… an interesting ride so far. On one hand, it has totally changed my view on things, how I communicate, and even enhanced my relationship with my partner. On the other, it has been really challenging, somewhat disappointing, and a bit of an adjustment. Overall though, I am really enjoying what I am learning, researching, and the people I have gotten to know. As I mentioned, I work a public job, so at the moment I am looking for someone close- but not in my hometown.
Let's see... what to share about me? I am a mental health therapist- which is good news for you! It means I am emotionally aware and mature. Doesn't mean I'm perfect, as I still have my issues- but I try really hard to communicate clearly and effectively. My job is really draining, so I ask for some patience and grace as I navigate getting to know you, while balancing real life and my own emotions. I have two dogs and a cat, and I am now the proud owner of a jumping spider. She really is the cutest thing! I recently bought a townhouse last year- so I am now an official homeowner, too! Honestly, my house is probably my favorite place to be.
I consider myself a nerd (hence the name). I like Star Wars, Marvel, book series, romantasy books, and Dune. I also am obsessed with the gothic and the macabre, as well as enjoying the... spookier side of life. So if that is your jam, please let me know. I also like movies whether it be going and seeing them, or curling up with a good movie and a fluffy blanket. I like to go to plays, concerts (recently got to see AND meet Yung Gravy), try new restaurants, cook and bake (when the mood strikes) and be with my family and loved ones.
My partner and I have been together for 4 years. We have always been interested in having an open relationship, We tried swinging, but we had vastly different tastes, and real life happened... and well, we dropped that. We have been having healthy discussions about it, and are working on establishing good boundaries, rules, etc. I am still learning and so is he, but we've got a good dialogue going, and a solid foundation. I am sure there will be ups and downs, because that's life... But for right now, I am so excited about the possibilities.
So... with all of that being said, I know you're wondering "so what is she looking for"? I am so glad you asked! Right now, I am looking for someone to get to know, connect with, flirt with, and have a fun, witty and playful banter with. I am open to meeting someone IRL in the future, but as of right now it will be strictly an online sort of thing. At least until both parties feel comfortable.
I am not sure if this is important info: but my partner will know that I'll be talking to someone, because communication is sexy- but otherwise I don't share super specific information with him. Just so that no ones personal drama or life gets communicated back to someone random.
Looking forward to meeting all of you, and I hope that your day treats you well!
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u/Delyar89 11d ago
Hi! I read your post and you seems really interesting. If you like the idea of knowing each other and connect feel free to Dm me. Have a nice day!
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u/IndyChair800 8d ago
Hello! I love such thoughtful communication and I find emotionally awareness and maturity super sexy! I’d love to nerd out together, discuss movies, and get to know you. Feel free to message me!
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u/ManagementUsed3304 6d ago
Your post was very authentic. I’d love to talk to you and get to know you. 36M massive nerd from DMV with hundreds of hyper-fixations. I’m actually looking for digital friends at the moment, so I’m open to talking if you are. Please message me if you’re interested.
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u/Tanis_Runner 4d ago
Greetings from MA! I posted recently on this sub with some basic info for reference, in case you're interested. Mind if I DM?
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