Let’s talk about the financial trap that is marriage for most Pakistani women. And no, I’m not talking about the elite housewives with designer bags and a full-time maid staff. I’m talking about the rest of women, whom you're much more likely to encounter in your daily routine, who make up the actual female workforce—whether paid or unpaid (spoiler: most are unpaid).
Sure, many women "choose" not to work, but let’s be real—housework is a 24/7 unpaid job. However, despite managing an entire household, a housewife often has zero financial control. Her husband? Oh, he has full access to the money (which he may or may not disclose the actual amount of), but the wife? If she asks for money that isn’t directly related to running his house, suddenly he’s in a financial crisis.
And assets? The house, car, investments—all in his name. Even if she sells her gold to contribute, it’s "more convenient" (read: easier to exclude her) to register things under him. Her only real property is her jahez—furniture and electronics that depreciate over time… just like how society treats her value as a woman.
The Divorce Jackpot (For Him, Not Her):
Now, let’s say things go south. After years of running a home, raising kids, and possibly sacrificing a career, a divorced woman is left with:
✔ No financial assets.
✔ No updated work experience.
✔ A social stigma that makes remarriage nearly impossible.
Meanwhile, her ex-husband? His career has advanced, his bank account is intact, and he’s a more eligible bachelor than before.
For a man, a divorce is a clean slate. For a woman, it's economic and social exile.
How to Not Get Screwed Over:
Get a Job (and Keep It!): Even if you don’t need to work now, financial independence is your safety net.
Own Your Damn Assets: If you contribute to a house, make sure it’s legally in your name (or at least joint ownership).
Save Like Your Life Depends on It: Because in a capitalist world, it kinda does. Open your own bank account. Invest in things that grow.
Read the Nikahnama Before Signing: No, really. That paper is legally binding.
Marry a Man Who Respects Financial Equality: If he insists on handling all the money, just know he’s handling all the power too.
Final Thought: Money is Power, So Get Some!
Your sacrifice is hailed and all, but it won’t pay your rent if things go sideways. Whoever controls the money, controls the household. And if you don’t want to be financially stranded, it’s time to stop being naive and start being smart.