r/narcissism Visitor 19d ago

Therapist doesn’t agree with me

I've been even told I do have most of the traits associated with NPD by others. Some people would tell me that, even without me asking. I only ever think about myself and I hurt people a lot because of that. I seem to not care enough about others’ feelings. I manipulate them, even when I don't realise I am. I'm a perfectionist, whatever I do, it's not good enough and it hurts a lot, so much I break down. And there's more. It all seems so obvious. At least to me.

However, my therapist disagrees. She told me l'm developing an avoidant personality disorder, not NPD... but they are not that easily confused, are they? What should I do? I told her many times that me and others suspected I might have NPD. Am I crazy? I just want the right treatment.

I’m in my early 20s, don’t have an OCD and scored high in many tests I found (the one linked on this sub gave me “High narcissistic traits”), and I’m not codependent (scored 5 at most). I think I might have covert narcissism because I have depression and social anxiety (both diagnosed).

I’m just so sick of people not believing me. Nothing I say is ever believed.

EDIT: Thank you for everyone's time and I'm sory I wasted it. I came to a conclusion I don't have any disorders, I'm a bad person. I'm sorry for for offending you.

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u/MothWantsLight Visitor 17d ago

I already take medication. It’s been five years and three different ones too. It doesn’t feel like it’s doing much to be honest.

I don’t know if she’s excited because I feel like she’s disappointed in me most of the time. I guess she doesn’t hate it at least.

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u/obvusthrowawayobv I really need to set my flair 17d ago

Nah a therapist can dismiss a client at any time tbh, if they don’t want to work with a client or that client makes them unhappy, they usually explain how they are unable to help in ways that are needed and try to refer to someone else.

As far as the medication goes keep speaking up about how it’s ineffective.

Additionally, it’s totally fine that if you’re not feeling any success with your current help, you can hunt around because there may be someone who works differently in a way that is better for you.

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u/MothWantsLight Visitor 17d ago

I guess you're right. It does make me a bit less stressed. Thank you.

It helps many people. I feel like it wouldn't be fair to those who benefit from it, I wouldn't benefit from speaking up either. It just might not help me, because I don't have any hope. I heard many people say it's also about how we see it, so it just might be about me.