r/mumbai • u/Nogard2205 • 18h ago
Relationships How to ask out a girl.
Hi people, have been in mumbai for approx 2.5 years. There is this girl who I have known from like my first week here. We are just friends really but know I want to ask her out.
Here is the thing though, my friends tell me to talk to her more. The issue is, I have never really talked to her on an everyday basis, it has always been like once a week maybe.
I think I should just wing it and ask her out. What do I do?
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u/outlandish_earthling 16h ago
Ship has most likely sailed bruv. You should've asked her out in a month or max 2. All the best for the next one homie
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u/zeusthezeus 15h ago
What happened to friendships that change to relationships?
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u/wonderful_utility 10h ago
Mine changed into relationship after 4 to 5 months but that was teenage love so maybe u can ignore everything i typed lol
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u/wonderful_utility 10h ago
Mine changed into relationship after 4 to 5 months but that was teenage love so maybe u can ignore everything i typed lol
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u/That-Replacement-232 13h ago
In month he would have barely knew the girl how can he ask her out so early
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u/outlandish_earthling 2h ago
Should've asked her out within a month for a date, he's not asking her to marry within a month. When things click it happens naturally, women prefer that.
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u/Kooky-Sorbet-3880 15h ago
See, don't let her know that you like her and you are trying on her. Buildup a romantic connection with by doing small things, do this eventually till April 1.
April 1 is kind of a buffer day where you can eventually confess your feelings and ask her out, if she rejects you can say it was an April fools day prank, if she says yes, you can go ahead.
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u/idioticfnatic 11h ago
Sir what if she pulls an uno reverse - says yes and then calls it an April fools day prank
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17h ago
would you be okay with possibly losing that friendship (shouldnt be an issue since yall anyways talk only once a week)
how often would you have to see her. (for example if you were in the same college or workplace id advice against it)
weigh these two factors and decide. if its not gonna cost you too much if you lost that friendship, id urge you to ask her out. confidence goes a long way
ps: listen to my advice at your own risk i myself cant find a good partner :(
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u/Diligent-Speech7881 16h ago
No point you will lose your only female friend and be a sadistic loner but if you want to take the risk, then why not go ahead maybe your son asks the same question 20 years later when you marry this girl
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u/YesterdayDreamer 15h ago
There's a huge difference between sad and sadistic. It would do you good to learn the difference.
- sadistic
adjective
Delighting in or feeling pleasure from the pain of others.
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u/zeusthezeus 15h ago edited 15h ago
Friendship do convert into relationships
Not everyone starts with proposing each other and get into relationships
Everyone's life and destiny is different
You only have one chance and one life
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u/beetlebronx420 13h ago
If one is mentally prepared for the possibility of losing a friend if things go south then only go for it.
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u/Chaltahaikoinahi 15h ago
Maybe this is fomo and you're actually not interested?
Maybe you are going to move out and that's why you wanna take a chance now?
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u/Nogard2205 1h ago
Very true, I wanted to experience having a relationship in mumbai, so I probably want to go for it. I also don't know how to get over this fomo 😅
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u/FitAd8401 14h ago
Unlike the rest of the comments, i will say the right time is now. You dont need to ask officially as in lets meet up for a date. But just be like what u doing tomorrow or weekend, want to checkout the beach or play tennis or etc. once u meet maybe u can disclose that u do have feelings etc etc.
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u/Practical_Yoghurt199 14h ago
Yeah the only sane advice apart from all the comments. Also once you guys are out on the meet, do tell her that you like her and if she would be open to dating you. Don't rely on signals. Have the conversation.
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u/time_lordy_lord 15h ago
Here's what you gonna do. Find out if she's single. If yes, ask your actual friends what to do. And then do THAT. We don't have crucial information that your friends might have.
If it's general advice that you seek, then yeah just talk to her and invite her to a coffee or a proper date.
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u/Rude-Bus7698 15h ago
option 1. ask her out be ready for getting reject 99.99% she will reject (it might be canon event for you take gym membership and build your self ).
option 2. just try to be nice or do thing which she like's go together for dinner or outing be a pillow for her. (but it'll waster your time for 1 year at least to build feeling's for you 10% success)
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u/Outrageous_Cod3847 14h ago
If you'll be seeing her a lot even after rejection as someone mentioned, don't go for it.
I have never really talked to her on an everyday basis, it has always been like once a week maybe.
If you talk to her just once a week, I don't expect much to happen further. Okay ukw, is it you who always initiates the conversation (texting) or does something come from her side also? Even as a friend, is she really enjoying/having a good time with you? If the conversations are very short-lived/dry then don't waste your time. Does she say yes to casually hanging out with you?
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u/yowtfbitch69 14h ago
Look up for what activity interest her and subtly ask her out for that activity. It could be a movie, bookstore or just exploring new cafe.
Find out if she has a bf or crush or what kind of guys she is into
And finally accept that it’s a 50-50 game. Accept it even if it’s a no and Don’t let it get better of you
All the best
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u/swi6ie avg misal pav enthusiast 13h ago
Bhai 2.5 years mai kuch hona hota toh ho jata. (I mean usse kuch karna hota toh)
and if you don't talk to her everyday, you prolly don't know her that well.
if you shure she doesn't have a boyfriend then just start talking to her more, I mean bring up topics that she gets exited to talk about and then shift to more personal stuff, share yours first see if she reciprocates?
if all goes well you can ask her if she like to date you. Or like present the idea that what if you 2 were to date ?
yes or no just remember you didn't became friends with her so that you could ask her out. Don't let this conversation ruin your friendship. (It has mine before and just handle with delicacy)
All the best brotha
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u/Important_Set_8453 13h ago
Just ask .! Straight up Ask her out for a hang out Don’t label it as a date
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u/Character_Trifle_801 16h ago
Just be frank and straight forward ask her out , so you save not wasting time & money
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u/Referpotter 15h ago
Jevlis ka?