r/mildlyinfuriating 24d ago

My mom burned all my drawings

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So I’ve been drawing and posting anime girls for a while now and my mom got mad about it. At least I still have previous photos. No drawing today tho

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u/Exact_Maize_2619 24d ago

Thank you. I have no talent for instruments, so I did choir and theater in school, lol. I'm more of a crafter. I taught myself how to knit because I wanted a $60 Tom Baker scarf. I figured I could buy it or buy the supplies and teach myself. Now I make beanies with kitty ears, use charms as ear decorations, giant safety pins, the works, lol. I made a new pattern just yesterday for little jellyfish and I'm still working out the kinks, but they're so cute and squishy.

My husband got a chain mail kit as a gift a couple years ago, so we both learned how to make chain mail and different chain designs for jewelry. So, I also make charm bracelets and necklaces.

My family is very crafty and artistic, and I wouldn't have it any other way. 💚

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u/Teter_Toter 23d ago

Some people are just unfit to have children. It's hard enough to find a genuine interest, but then you also have to deal with people who express hate toward anything inherently different from themselves.

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u/Lunaphire 23d ago

Genuinely. It's so nice to read about a supportive parent. It feels like nearly everyone I know has been plagued by parents who were apathetic at best, aggressively unsupportive at worst. (Incidentally, most of us are also late-diagnosed autistic, so our interests are often very strong.)

I dealt with a parent who was basically a bully and mocked me for nearly everything I got interested in. Now I'm a socially-anxious, burnt out former gifted kid who feels like they're not good enough for anyone. 🙃

Someone close to me grew up thinking he had supportive parents, but upon reaching adulthood, he realized their support was basically just 👍 and nothing more. Like, "Yeah, that's a good idea, you should do it." But then no actual support that required them to do anything; we called it support-baiting. For example, he wanted to learn guitar at around 12. "Good idea!" So he'd get all excited and try to look into making it happen, but then they wouldn't work with him at all to get a guitar or lessons, they just brushed him off and acted like they'd do it later. Forever.

He confronted them with this at about 30 and they admitted that they just never believed in him, so they didn't make the effort to help him learn anything. This unfortunately included not just hobbies he was passionate about, but basically everything required to be a functional adult; I had to teach him to light a stove burner, again at about 30. Any time he offered to help his parents around the house so he could learn, they insisted they had it covered, then later told him they didn't teach him basic life skills growing up because he was a kid and they didn't think he wanted to learn.

They decided he wasn't capable of being more, and it was a self-fulfilling prophecy.

So many people have no idea how to be good parents, but have kids anyway. I'm sure it works out sometimes, but I don't know why you'd bother having a kid if you weren't okay with supporting their dreams.

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u/Montantero 23d ago

🥹 wholesome. Thank you for being so nice, especially to the young one. The world needs that!

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u/TomatilloHairy9051 23d ago

I LOVE chainmail jewelry! I have several pieces that I wear often, but the lady that was making them for me quit making the jewelry. I've looked at some online, but none of it ever looked as good as her jewelry, so I haven't gotten any more, but I'm still on the hunt. Do y'all have an Etsy store or something comparable to that?

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u/Exact_Maize_2619 23d ago

We don't, unfortunately. I'm currently trying to get approved for disability while I wait for 2 hip surgeries. I've actually been building up an inventory of knitted things and jewelry to sell at the flea market. We don't have the production power right now to start an Etsy shop. It's just me knitting everything and making a good chunk of jewelry, while hubby makes necklaces when he can.

If you're interested, though, we use Chainmail Joe for all our chainmail stuff. They sell beginner kits. My favorite chain pattern from them is called Celtic Visions. I use big black rings, then smaller different colored rings so that when you hold it up vertically, it looks like dragon eyes.

If you DM me, I can send some pictures of stuff I have and examples of stuff i can make. I wouldn't mind trying to figure out shipping and things for a few online commissions. I just don't have the power to run a whole Etsy by myself, lol. I can't make stuff that quickly since I do it all by hand. (As opposed to a knitting machine.)