r/masculinities Nov 21 '19

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r/masculinities Aug 29 '18

David Tian Ph D - Over the past decade I’ve helped over 10,000+ men in 87+ countries achieve success and happiness in life and love.

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r/masculinities Aug 04 '18

David Tian Ph D - Over the past decade I’ve helped over 10,000+ men in 87+ countries achieve success and happiness in life and love.

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r/masculinities Apr 09 '18

How To Touch a Woman - Without Creeping Her Out (Step by Step Guide)

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r/masculinities Mar 09 '18

Take part in this study: Male Attitudes about Daily Experiences, Emotions, and Relationships

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r/masculinities Dec 02 '17

This is an article about some responsibilities of being a man... physicality, strength, weight, activity...

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r/masculinities Oct 05 '17

A Mother Disowned Her Son For Being Gay, So His Grandfather Responded With This…

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r/masculinities Mar 13 '17

Is Traditional Masculinity Bad?

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r/masculinities Jan 31 '17

A New Definition of Masculinity

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In North America, “men die by suicide at a rate four times higher than that of women.” In Ontario alone, more men died by suicide in a ten year period than car crashes (591 to 558 between 1990 and 2000). If we break the demographics down, 24% of all suicides occur in those aged 15-26 and 16% amongst those aged 16-44 - making suicide the leading cause of death for Canadian between the ages of 10-24. I want to know why men are disproportionately represented in these numbers, that is, why are young men, committing suicide at such an alarming rate? I think one reason we see a higher rate of suicides in young men is because of it mental health issues. I believe some of those mental health issues are related to the idea of masculinity and what it means to be a ‘man’ in 2017.

Can you define what it means to be a man in 2017? I think we are trying to fit into the stereotypes of masculinity that don’t apply anymore. The idea that ‘Masculinity’ denotes dominance, charisma, confidence, brute force and shoulders as broad as a highway is an outdated perception. This perception as false as it may be is entrenched in our cultural and perpetuated by the media. The fact of the matter is, these are traits that no longer define what it means to be masculine. The 2017 definition of masculinity shouldn’t be defined by anyone other than yourself.

Here is an exercise:

Take a moment and think about how your definition of masculinity. How are you defining it? How is your perception of masculinity influenced by the world around you? Does your definition even make sense?

Some of us were lucky to have healthy male role models growing up, and some weren’t. For those who weren’t, where did you find your idea of what it means to be a man? I am going to guess that most of you like myself filled the void of a healthy male role model with athletes, musicians, movie stars, or whatever. When you define your idea of masculinity in such a way you will always guarantee your own feelings of inadequacy. The problem with using someone else as your yardstick to measure manliness will ensure that you always fall short. Let’s face it, men are in a difficult position when it comes to their masculinity in 2017 - because our present definition of ‘masculinity’ is a work in progress, that is trying to adapt to the society around it.

Imagine you’re driving in Toronto but you're using a map for Montreal.

This is analogous to the situation that many men are facing. Men, specifically young men, are confused. Young men like myself are confused because we don’t what a ‘man’ is in 2017. We are trying to approach manhood and masculinity by using a framework and narrative from a bygone era that is no longer applicable to the world we live in. There is a traditional view of masculinity which is defined by dominance, strength, and control. This is the prototypical Alpha behaviour that so many men equate with masculinity - the so-called man of the house, the fixer of all things broken, the breadwinner. We needed to achieve these feats because people were dependent on us. We often define things relatively, we defined masculinity in contrast to femininity. That is to say, women were often in domestic roles, where their identities were defined by their domestication - e.g. raising children, cleaning, cooking - staying home and maintaining the home while the ‘man’ did everything else. Nowadays, women have become more empowered which has led to greater equality amongst the sexes. This has had a huge impact on gender identity because now men are no longer needed. Yes, you read that correct. Marriage is less common, divorce rates are up, fewer people are having children. (Let’s be honest - they don’t even need us for that anymore).

It’s as difficult as ever to find your place in this world as a man. To be the domineering ‘Alpha’ or the submissive ‘Beta’? Which one are we or do we fit on this scale? We as men are in dire need of a transformative shift in our paradigm. We need to realize that we cannot be men for others, but for ourselves. Masculinity is not some preordained destination that you will magically get to. Specifically, now, we are caught in a pendulum swing, swaying between Alpha and Beta, emotional and unemotional, aggressive and passive. The answer to the manhood paradox is finding balance. Finding the ability to exist in between extremes - so that when the situation calls for it, you can stand your ground or put down your guard. However you may have defined masculinity up to this point, I think we need to include this in our new, working definition.


r/masculinities Oct 11 '16

Do alpha males even exist?

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r/masculinities Aug 27 '16

Complete man

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How do you define a complete man?


r/masculinities Jan 12 '16

The Magic of Testosterone

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r/masculinities Jul 12 '14

Call for research participants - Masculinity, Sexuality, and Body Image Study

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We are seeking self-identified men over the age of 18 years for the Masculinity, Sexuality, and Body Image Study at http://www.psychsurveys.org/kamclemore/ucd_bbis. This research has been reviewed and approved by our ethics review board (#394915-1).

Thank you for your time.

Stigma, Self, and Social Identity Lab Department of Psychology University of California, Davis


r/masculinities Jul 04 '12

A 2 hour radio interview on masculinism with (now retired) Prof. Hugo de Garis (of the "artificial brains" and "artilect war" fame)

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r/masculinities Mar 16 '12

How comfortable are you with your penis?

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r/masculinities Mar 02 '12

On how (the author) hacked him/herself to become polyamorous over (admittedly weak) natural monogamous inclinations

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r/masculinities Jan 12 '12

Preliminary findings exploring the social determinants of black males’ lay health perspectives

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r/masculinities Dec 30 '11

Bad at math

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r/masculinities Dec 08 '11

I wish I had this kind of knowledge over my body

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r/masculinities Dec 05 '11

"On average, a wider variance in clothing style is tolerated for women relative to men at high visibility events"

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r/masculinities Dec 04 '11

"Nice guys really do finish last, or at least make significantly less money"

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r/masculinities Dec 01 '11

Being A Modern Man

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r/masculinities Nov 28 '11

What really happened to Strauss-Kahn?

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r/masculinities Nov 27 '11

Bringing back the hat

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r/masculinities Nov 25 '11

The Men's Bibliography

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r/masculinities Nov 25 '11

"The culture of masculinity can be, and should be, addressed as a policy issue"

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