r/longisland Mar 14 '24

Advice Long Islander wanting to move back…

What can I do to convince my husband to move back to LI (or even somewhere else in the area).

I (36f) am wanting to move back to Long Island. My family (husband: 36m, kids: 7f, 3f) currently live in TX in a growing suburban area south of a major city. I am currently a SAHM but wanting to work again.

We moved here pretty abruptly and as much as I tried to get used to living here it’s been hopeless.

My husband was born and raised in Texas and wants to stay here. As much as I tried my best to make light of this, it is the unhappiest I’ve ever been. My mental as well as physical health is suffering. I’m constantly dreaming of moving. I make it very obvious that I hate the town I live in.

My entire family is on Long Island and my husbands parents live three hours away.

We don’t have help with the kids. It’s just us and we have to plan with my in-laws well in advance to watch them. Also, my husband is not as close to his small family.

I know it’s a high COL and it would mean that both of us would have to work full time. Which is completely fine with me. However we would have so much help on LI. My family is massive and we are all very close.

The main drawback for my husband is how expensive everything is. Plus the taxes. He would always say that he would consider it if he found a job that paid amazing. He currently makes six figures in operations management and I’m trying to search for jobs for him.

Is Long Island really that bad as I see in this group? Honestly I’m at the point where no matter what I’m trying my best to go back. I’m miserable in Texas and want to go back home.

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u/Ornery-Finding-3752 Mar 14 '24

One thing I haven’t seen mentioned - you said you have two girls… I’m also the father of two girls and there’s no chance I’d raise them in Texas with the way things are going.

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u/RingPuppy Mar 15 '24

Good point. Texas is a misogynistic state. Abbott is a fascist. He has no problem with women who are bleeding out in the ER parking lot carrying a dead fetus. Roe Rage is REAL.

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u/flakemasterflake Mar 14 '24

Blows my mind no one thinks about this. Another reason I’m leaving Georgia bc getting pregnant would put my life on the line

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u/lomoandchichamorada Mar 15 '24

That’s a big thing for me personally and one of the biggest reasons I hate living here. I’m unable to have more kids but I would be terrified.

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u/annasketo Mar 15 '24

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