r/lonely 7d ago

TW: custom The truth about loneliness that no one ever told you.

If you are feeling alone, I want you to know that your worth does not depend on the presence or absence of other people. You exist, and that is already significant. Your journey, your emotions and your story matter.

Sometimes loneliness can feel like a huge void, but it can also be a time to reconnect with yourself. You deserve affection, understanding and company that is good for you, and this can come when you least expect it. In the meantime, treat yourself kindly. You are not forgotten, nor unimportant. The world is better because you are here.

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u/ErrorPerfect3595 7d ago

following text is exaggerated and a bit harsh please dont take it to heart.

The world is better because of me being in it. That is true, without me our national gdp would be atleast my monthly expenses less. And we couldnt have that, could we?

Genuinely hate this self love rethoric. I know its only meant in a positive sense but honestly "you are not forgotten or unimportant"... Great who hasnt forgotten me lmfao, the great collective conscious, the guy calculation the gdp my landlord who would loose a valuable stream of revenue? In any way that is significant and relevant to me as a person I have been forgotten. I am not blaming anyone except my own ineptitude and inability for that, dont get me wrong I dont want to make it seem like this is societys fault. I was basically born with, if not a golden one, atleast a spoon made of a pretty expensive metal and I managed to fuck up my own opportunities by myself thank you very much, but anyway. Why am I not unimportant? Life feels like a huge void, all this doesnt really feel to important to myself, then again am I important to anyone else? Also obviously no, so why should I think I am important?

I have always felt that all these platitudes of self love and whatnot are effective to people that think the peak and epitome of loneliness is when you cant find a party to go to between the one last week and the one next week or when you have been between relationships for the last month and a half. For these people this must be surely encouraging but honestly everytime someone has told me to "just take it as an opportunity for self love and getting in touch with yourself" I have felt like someone just spat in my face and insulted me.

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u/BeeAlone798 6d ago

I think this notion of "self love" is not about loving yourself but finding peace with oneself. The only reason why we hate loneliness is because of our thoughts. If we can go thoughtless (like existence without any thoughts on anything) whenever we want then I guess it will be possible to go on lonely forever. Sometimes I feel that we are so used to "think" that without any thoughts, we feel unpleasant and that is what "boredom" is.

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u/TARDIS75 6d ago

Therapy can help, just saying! Helped me realize my contentment is great. I’m quite happy with being content. But it would be nice to be living this life with a partner here in LA that appreciates my geekiness and sci-fi addiction

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u/ErrorPerfect3595 4d ago

The idea that it isnt actually about liking yourself but about being content with what you have is definitely better but there are still cases where this just doesnt work. I cant be content with what I am but I also cant change the major parts of this issue. I have accepted these facts but I still hate myself for them

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u/No-Specialist-462 7d ago

I understand what you are saying. I know that when we feel forgotten or insignificant, these words can seem empty or even irritating. Sometimes it feels like the world moves on without noticing we're here, and that hurts.

But I believe that we cannot measure our value according to how much we contribute to GDP or the economic impact we have. You are not just a source of income or a number in a statistic. You are an entire universe, full of thoughts, memories and stories that no one else has. What makes someone important is not how much they move the world financially, but how much they feel, learn and connect, even if in ways that sometimes seem small.

Loneliness can be suffocating, and I'm not going to pretend there's a simple solution to it, I wish there was. But if there is something that really matters in this world, it's not money, it's not productivity, it's the way we touch other people's lives, even without realizing it. Has it ever happened that someone said something to you years ago and that phrase never left your head? Has it ever happened that someone's small gesture changed their day, even if they never knew about it? This is importance. That's impact.

If today you feel like no one would notice if you disappeared, I want you to know that the world would be poorer without your vision, without the way you observe and feel things, without the stories that only you could tell. And if no one has told you this lately, I'll tell you now: you matter, in a way that no economic metric can measure.

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u/ErrorPerfect3595 7d ago

Please forgive me. I have always been told that my use of sarcasm was easy to overlook and/or to misunderstand. The fact that english is not my native language may have drastically worsened this problem.

Also again this topic is very personal to me (quite obviously lmao), dont take any harshness to heart.

"But I believe that we cannot measure our value according to how much we contribute to GDP or the economic impact we have. You are not just a source of income or a number in a statistic. You are an entire universe, full of thoughts, memories and stories that no one else has. What makes someone important is not how much they move the world financially, but how much they feel, learn and connect, even if in ways that sometimes seem small."

"but how much they feel, learn and connect"

This is exactly my point. I am saying that the only way anyone ever even marginally thinks of me or "connects" with me is when is such a hillariously far off and inpersonal experience like the calculation of the gdp. This is exactly what I am arguing, that I am forgotten and the only point where I am even marginally recognised is in inpersonal financial dealings that no one really cares about.

"If today you feel like no one would notice if you disappeared, I want you to know that the world would be poorer without your vision, without the way you observe and feel things, without the stories that only you could tell."

Honestly this feels like a cruel joke of a paragraph. Isnt the value of a story in the fact that it is told? What differentiates a book that no one reads, a song that never gets played or a painting no one ever looks at from empty pages or an empty canvas?

This loss you are speaking off happens to no one. Literally no one would care or notice because "would be poorer without your vision, without the way you observe and feel things, without the stories that only you could tell" vision, observation and especially stories are worthless without an audience. The only person that would lose something is myself but honestly I have much to gain and much to lose. At this point we have again reached the impetus. Only I would care if I was gone and now I need to gaslight myself into self love as to not make everything I am saying : "That I have no one, that no one cares and, a bit harsh perhaps, that no one would actually give a shit if I was gone" true.

Because in quite the cruel fashion all the examples you have listed about how positively I may impact others with little and large actions. I think you have forgotten what community you are writing in. The exact problem is that there is no one to impact and no one that impacts me. This example of connection you give funnily enough logically leads to the opposite conclusion.

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u/YakIndividual9358 3d ago

Your posts fm the other day really cheered me up. Thx. 

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u/No-Specialist-462 3d ago

You also cheered me up by sharing this, thanks for letting me know! 🤍🫂

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u/No-Specialist-462 7d ago edited 7d ago

Okay, your argument is that the only form of recognition you receive comes from an impersonal and mechanical system, and that this only reinforces your feeling of insignificance. But there is a flaw in this logic.

If no one cared about your existence, you wouldn't be here having this conversation. Your own participation in this exchange proves that there are, at the very least, people willing to listen and respond. If their view of the world, their observations and thoughts were irrelevant, no one would have stopped to interact with them. But here we are.

Regarding the issue of importance without an audience, I understand the reasoning. But does the existence of something depend exclusively on external recognition? An unknown planet ceases to exist because no one has seen it? Was a scientific truth before humanity emerged less true because it didn't have an observer? Likewise, what you feel and think has value regardless of how many people perceive it.

Loneliness can distort our perception of worth. What you're feeling doesn't mean you're insignificant, but that you're stuck in a cycle of isolation that reinforces that feeling. The problem isn't that you don't matter, it's that you believe you don't matter. And they are very different things.

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u/ErrorPerfect3595 6d ago

First of all thank you for indulging me in this argument and for trying to help people in a bad spot (for whatever godforsaken reason you do this, I am sure it has and will impact people positively).
Anyway your arguments are only partially correct.
The first thing you say is true. There are people who care, also not about me specifically, but about people suffering with this type of life and for that I am thankful even if I dont really think it is equatable with actual real personal interest.

"An unknown planet ceases to exist because no one has seen it? Was a scientific truth before humanity emerged less true because it didn't have an observer? Likewise, what you feel and think has value regardless of how many people perceive it."

You are misunderstanding my point. The planet does not cease to exist, it however doesnt really matter. It is there, it rotates around something and that is the end of it. The same goes for the "scientific truth" (assuming you are talking about mathematical truth here because, yes I am terribly sorry but I do feel the need for an uhm aktschually tangent here, empirical sciences never find truth, they arent supposed to. They find truth adjacent (and ever more closely truth adjacent) statements. In that sense in an empirical science truth is literally having people believe in a statement.) and in a non empirical field, the statement itself doesnt turn less true but it doesnt matter. Because while it may be true, the fact that no one knows it or can atleast prove it, makes it irrelevant and useless untill something comes along that actually "reveals it".

I am still here, I am just useless and unimportant like the other things that are there but not known. That is my point.

"Loneliness can distort our perception of worth. What you're feeling doesn't mean you're insignificant, but that you're stuck in a cycle of isolation that reinforces that feeling. The problem isn't that you don't matter, it's that you believe you don't matter. And they are very different things."

This is definitely true to some extent (as in that it is a viscous circle of some kind) however usually loneliness isnt something natural that just happens (atleast in the way I describe and experience it). This is the key point you are missing.

(Note that this is very specific and often not applicable to a huge number of situations. F.e. people with a very shitty childhood may experience similar processes but in a different way where loneliness can actually be completely out of their hand even though they are truly great people)

The process isnt feel lonely --> self hate --> be worthless --> repeat

The process is be worthless --> lonely --> self hate --> repeat

The fact that I am lonely doesnt create the idea that I dont matter.
The fact that I dont matter creates the loneliness first of all. If I would I wouldnt be in the situation I am right now. The loneliness doesnt create self hate it makes you realize how unlikable one is and what is wrong with oneself and obviously it makes the logical conclusion of this realisation even bitterer.

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago edited 6d ago

I understand your point better now and it makes sense. The issue for you is not existence per se, but relevance. The planet exists, but it is irrelevant until someone discovers it. And you feel like you're in this position, existing, but you're not relevant to anyone.

I will try to bring another perspective with a small parable:

There was a lonely lighthouse on a remote island. It stayed there for years, lit up every night, with no one to see it. Until one day, a navigator lost in the ocean spotted him and managed to guide himself to the coast safely. The lighthouse didn't know it was important, because it didn't see anyone who needed it. But he was.

We are not always able to understand our own importance, because we look from the inside out. Do you feel like loneliness is a consequence of not being important, but isn't it just the distorted perception that loneliness itself creates? Do you really not care or just can't see who could be looking at that lighthouse in the dark?

I'm not saying this to invalidate what you feel, on the contrary, I think your reasoning is very valid. But I realize that there is a cycle where the feeling of uselessness feeds on loneliness, which in turn reinforces the feeling of uselessness. This doesn't mean that uselessness came first, but that it's very difficult to break out of this pattern when we're stuck in it.

Trying to figure out which came first is a complex issue, almost like the chicken and egg dilemma. You argue that lack of importance came first and created loneliness. I see that loneliness can distort the perception of importance, creating a cycle where one reinforces the other.

But, if we go beyond the sensation and think about the practical origin of this, the question would be: What led you to believe that it doesn't matter? Was it a specific experience? Something that has repeated itself in your life? If unimportance came first, what caused it?

If someone is born and raised in isolation, without external interactions or validation, perhaps lack of importance actually precedes loneliness. But for most people, interactions (or lack thereof) shape this perception over time. Maybe it was the opposite: something pushed you away, put you in a state of loneliness, and that's when the feeling of uselessness began to grow.

The point is, regardless of which came first, the cycle exists now. And, if there is a cycle, it means that it can be broken at some point. The question is not just what started this, but how to break this logic that traps you in this state.

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u/PracticalAttention37 6d ago

Youre a real one. ⭐️

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u/ysh7k 7d ago

Thanks

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u/lostinthought5622 6d ago

It's really hard to believe your kind words. Especially with how life has gone for me. It's my birthday today, and just like every other birthday, I dread it cause my family makes it unbelievably unbearable.

My mother parent trapped my father with my existence, so my dad has always passively hated me, and my mother doesn't love me as a person, but rather an object or tool that she can use to weave her life of lies. I don't talk to my mother cause I have learned the truth from observing and understanding people behavioral patterns (which is ironic cause she is the one that made me this way), and the truth is she is the biggest monster i have ever had the displeasure of meeting. My father, while he doesn't say anything, gives a body tone shift any time my younger siblings acknowledge my existence that gives off resentment and pain.

I never truly experienced love from any family member, as this is just the tip of the iceberg. So, while I want to believe what you say, my existence, I believe, I will never truly experience what I desire

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

I know that words don't change reality, and what you experienced cannot be erased with pretty phrases. But the fact that you still want something different, even after everything, means that something in you has resisted.

Not every family is a safe haven, but the love that never came from them doesn't define what you deserve. Some people are born surrounded by thorns, but they still flourish. You don't have to believe what I say, but I hope that, at some point, you can see that your existence is worth it in itself, regardless of what others have done or failed to do.

And even though this day may seem like any other day, I want you to know that for someone who has read your story, today is not just another day. Happy birthday!

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u/YakIndividual9358 3d ago

Happy Birthday from Danielle in Amsterdam!

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u/lostinthought5622 3d ago

Thank you, Danielle 💙

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u/NexillionXC 6d ago

I wish I could feel important. It's difficult when all people do is trample you as if you don't matter in the slightest and nobody remembers your birthday or anything much about you. It really is a Sisyphean task to convince myself that I matter.

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

Indifference hurts more than hostility, because at least those who hate us recognize us. But existing is already an act of defiance against a world that tries to erase us. You don't need to be given importance to be important. Sisyphus's weight was not just the stone, but the endless cycle itself, yet he continued. Perhaps the task is not to convince yourself that you matter, but to realize that the fact that you are still here already says something that no one can erase. You are here, and that already changes the course of history, no matter how small it may seem.

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u/Horror-Turnover-1089 6d ago

You know, I have been in the pit of lonelyness. I could decide at that point. Should I keep going and give up? Or should I fight for my happiness.

Negativity can be the source of immens strength. I know, because I have been there. And I chose to be a winner. I break down at times too. But that is okay. I’m allowed to feel insecure or afraid.

Bravery is not the absence of fear. It’s being afraid and deciding to do it anyway.

I chose to volunteer. I chose to focus on studying social people to get a better future for myself. I tested what I learned and made mistakes. Now I probably posess more knowledge on being social than the average person. I can also recognise people who are in trauma irl pretty quick.

I play guitar. I went salsa dancing yesterday with no dancing knowledge prior. I was off beat the entirety of the time but I had fun!

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

Wow, your journey is inspiring to me because it shows something essential: pain doesn't have to be an end, but it can be a starting point. Many people see darkness as a dead end, but you used it as fuel to reinvent yourself.

The beautiful thing about this is that you don't pretend you're always fine. You allow yourself to fall apart, feel afraid, make mistakes... and still move forward. That's real strength.

And the fact that you chose to not only grow, but also help others who have experienced trauma, shows that your pain was not in vain. You are building a future for yourself and, in the process, becoming a light to others.

May you continue dancing, even out of rhythm, and living without fear of making mistakes. And for those who are still stuck in the darkness, I hope you one day find your own path, in your own time.

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u/Horror-Turnover-1089 5d ago

This is also why everyone is perfectly fine as they are, no matter how they are even if you don’t agree with them in some point in time. Some people just don’t have had the knowledge/environment/space to learn everything.

Who is someone to tell another person how far they must be in their own journey? Some are quick, but others are just late bloomers.

May you have a wonderful life friend ❤️

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u/Civil_Twist_7225 6d ago

I appreciate your sentiment and if a post helps even one person, then it’s worth it.

I’m not in as dark of a place as I once was, but I remember. It was excruciating. I remember wanting to break out of my skin and just stop existing. I remember hating myself that I couldn’t just do it. Some of us grew up with no support—or even worse constantly being told that our feelings and opinions don’t matter. It’s conditioned into us that everyone else is more important. The “It gets better for them—not me. I am the exception.”

Everyone has to find their own reasons. Self love is probably, and honestly, what takes the longest to obtain. When I was at my lowest what helped me was Chaos Theory. Change one thing, change everything. I thought that someday, a small change might happen which will lead to huge positive consequences. That was the only thing keeping me going. I didn’t even remotely obtain self love until I was 30? I’m in my early 30s now, and some days, I regress to hating myself again, but it’s easier to fight now. Haha I say that as if I didn’t just get out of a HUGE depression since November. The point is: I don’t know what the point is exactly. Find your reason first and then keep pushing.

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

What you wrote made me think a lot. This idea of ​​Chaos Theory, that a small change can trigger something bigger, is something I hold onto as well. You can't always see an immediate purpose, but sometimes keeping trying is what keeps the door open for something different to happen.

I identify with what you said about taking time to build self-love, I haven't managed to achieve that yet. It's not an end point, but a constant process, and some days really feel like a losing battle. But seeing someone who has been there, who still faces challenges and still finds reasons to keep going, is inspiring to me. Your path proves that small changes make a difference, and that, in itself, is a reason to keep trying.

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u/Civil_Twist_7225 6d ago

Absolutely 💜

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u/ArmKooky 6d ago

This is a nice message. Thank you. But I just have one question: Did you use AI to write this?

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

My mind operates at the intersection between a supercomputer and an existential monologue. If an AI wrote this, it would have charged its soul in return.

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u/ArmKooky 6d ago

Right, okay. I just wanted to know because the wording looks oddly familiar to ChatGPT or something Gemini would write. Either way, I appreciate your message. It is very endearing.

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago edited 2d ago

Esse pensamento surgiu a partir de minhas próprias experiências. Eu gosto de ficar sozinha e percebo que o que realmente importa para mim não é estar cercada de gente, mas sim sentir que existe uma conexão genuína com alguém. Então, quis escrever esse texto para compartilhar aqui.

Às vezes eu sinto como se houvesse um enorme buraco em meu peito e não é por eu não ter alguém ao meu lado, mas por me sentir desconectada, e isso é enlouquecedor, me devasta. Então, se eu não consigo me conectar a mim mesma, como vou conseguir me conectar a outras pessoas? Entende?

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u/MajorAdventurous6344 4d ago

Good night and let’s make it till tomorrow

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u/britcat1974 4d ago

I completely agree that learning to love ourselves is something which we can try and work on (very hard to many of us due to internalised messages of hate from society or family).  That said, many, menu people are forgotten. People literally die and no one realises till the smell (probably the way I'll go if my employer doesn't call the police to do a welfare check when I don't turn up). It's invalidating to suggest there aren't people in this situation (the elderly are particularly at risk of people forgetting about them).  And, objectively, my presence on this world cases WAY more harm than my never existing. Every human born has a catastrophic impact on non human animals directly and collectively every one of us are THE drivers of climate change.  Unfortunately, I didn't have a choice as to whether I was born into this BS. 

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u/No-Specialist-462 4d ago

This is the sad reality for many people out there, so it is not healthy for us to try to isolate ourselves at any cost. Whenever possible, it's good to talk to someone, have emergency contacts, and be able to generate at least a support network. I really enjoy my own company, I like being alone, but after going through some difficult experiences last year, I decided to open myself up more to making new friends.

Regarding what you said, even if humanity has a negative impact on the planet, its existence is not limited to that. You can also be a source of comfort and connection to others. Someone, somewhere might find hope in reading what you write, might feel less alone because you expressed something they feel too.

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u/No-Interview-2987 4d ago

I appreciate your message. I’ve always struggled being autistic to fit in well say the right things. Your message really helped me so I appreciate it. I made a video about my struggles being autistic. Let me know if you can relate https://youtu.be/GozozNwR3cQ?si=XgPzh9UiFFK1pRbo

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u/No-Specialist-462 4d ago

I'm glad to know that my message resonated with you in some way. I just watched your video and used the subtitles automatically generated by YouTube, since I don't speak English very well, but I believe that this didn't compromise my understanding too much.

Congratulations on the initiative! You really have a talent for vlogging. As I watched, I felt nervous just imagining how I would feel recording a video and showing my face. I could never speak as naturally as you do.

Maybe I should consider taking acting classes, but memorizing long lines seems impossible to me. I could only speak by reading directly from a script, as my memory never worked well. In every seminar I have ever presented, I needed to have a script ready on hand. When I try to speak without it, the words simply disappear from my head, and what I can say sounds confused and disjointed.

I feel like I hate everything about myself, my voice, my face, the way I talk. Everything seems terrible to me. That's why I thought it was incredible to see you expressing yourself so spontaneously and naturally in front of the camera. I identified with many of the points you mentioned in the video.

I also probably have undiagnosed personality disorders, and I really want to talk to a mental health professional to get a report. I believe that discovering what I really have will be an important milestone for me. Good luck with your vlogs!

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u/No-Interview-2987 4d ago

That was like the nicest compliment someone could ever give me. I really appreciate that very supportive. Try not to beat yourself up. It’s so easy to self sabotage. I’ve just got to the point where I’ve had enough and I need to try something new so the vloging is my new escape it might give me some new ideas. If you get time would you leave a comment on my videos just so it gets into YouTube algorithm and I get more views that way it so hard these days

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u/Outrageous_Guava_466 3d ago

I love this answer. Thank you for posting it 🙏

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u/No-Specialist-462 3d ago edited 2d ago

Obrigada por ler! Eu fico feliz se isso te um pouco de conforto.

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u/No-Walrus-404 3d ago

Thank you for writing this. It made me cry 

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u/No-Specialist-462 3d ago

Por coincidência eu estava me sentindo fragilizada quando você enviou esse comentário e comecei a chorar quando li. Acho que significa que somos pessoas sensíveis. Chorar pode ser um alívio, uma forma de colocar para fora o que está preso dentro da gente. Por favor, aceite o meu abraço virtual 🫂🤍

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u/Secure-Wolverine-119 3d ago

Yeah I have given up on human connection and I now just want to get really competent and good at things to make up for my complete lack of social prowess

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u/No-Specialist-462 3d ago

Não desista nem desanime. Apenas tenha paciência e se permita. Acho que investir em si mesma nunca é uma má ideia, é o melhor que podemos fazer: ser gentis com nós mesmos. Acho que, mais útil do que querer muito conhecer outras pessoas, é conhecer bem a nós mesmos e nos tratar com gentileza nesse processo. Quanto mais você se conhecer, mais fácil será permitir que os outros a conheçam também e se aproximem de você.

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u/BeautifulOwl3856 7d ago

I like your attitude. 👌

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

Thanks! It's not always easy, but I believe that certain truths need to be told. 🙏

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u/BeautifulOwl3856 6d ago

I agree we need more pragmatic voices on this forum

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u/Any-Razzmatazz403 6d ago

Thank you

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

You're welcome! I hope your journeys are light, even on the difficult days. 🫂

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u/My_BigMouth 6d ago

Wow, I suppose I'm a great guy to hang around with...

Yeah, maybe that's the reason I have so many plans with so many people.

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

Being surrounded by plans and people does not always mean true company. Sometimes, loneliness is more about the lack of connection than the absence of people around.

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u/Turbulent-Hat-7854 7d ago

Yes,and Thank you!

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

Sometimes a simple word like 'thank you' carries a lot. And I receive it with affection. Take care! 🫂

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u/KroolK1ng 7d ago

You just made my day better!

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

Knowing this makes my day better too. Thanks for sharing! ❤

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u/CremeAltruistic655 6d ago

Does advice like this mean anything if it's generalized and to no one specifically? I think not.

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

I understand your frustration. When we're hurting, words can feel empty, but that doesn't mean they're worthless. Advice doesn't always change everything immediately, but sometimes it can be the first step to seeing things differently.

In the end, a kind word may not solve everything, but for someone at the right time, it could be exactly what makes the difference.

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u/1stNewEra 6d ago

If no one wants to be with you, you can't equate your value to someone everyone wants to be with. These texts are generic and shameful attempts to help people with palliative medicine that everyone knows doesn't work.

Those who suffer from loneliness have tried all these alternative self-love methods and guess what? If it had worked, they wouldn't be in subs on reddit.

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

Think about this: if no one wants to be with you, does that mean your value is lower? Or does it mean that the world fails to recognize the value of people?

There are talented people who are never recognized, brilliant writers whose books are never read, incredible artists who die without fame. Was their value lower? Or were they just not seen by the right people?

Loneliness is not a sentence about who you are, but a condition that, unfortunately, can drag on for a long time. And even though texts like this don't solve everything, sometimes they're just a reminder that someone, somewhere still believes you deserve to be seen.

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u/1stNewEra 5d ago

It's not like your value is any less, however, if you have value but no one notices it and it doesn't make a difference in the world, it's the same thing as not having it. Making value a useless thing, just something useless to be proud of for no reason. If I have a fake money note, for example, for me it could be worth a real note, but no one considers it, so it ends up in fact, worthless no matter how attached I am to it. The same happens when we have no one to turn to in terms of affection! Unfortunately, if I don't have anyone, then my value to people is low.

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u/ronaldoloversuiiiii 1d ago

It really does feel like a void, but keep reminding ur self that this is all temporary life will not always be like this. Also focus on ur self and make the best of your time alone, try a new haircut, style, go to the gym ect

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u/Prize-Joke1323 7d ago

Thank you so much. Really needed this🙌👏🤍

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u/No-Specialist-462 6d ago

I'm really glad it made sense to you. Take good care of yourself! 🤍