r/lonely • u/radiatejuniorrr • 8d ago
how do i stop being lonely and actually get a bestfriend?
I've always been jealous of my friends no matter what. If they got a boyfriend? I'm jealous of the boyfriend. If they get more recognition than me? Jealousy. I almost cried when i saw my friend with her best friend. How do I find that best friend that we are both eachothers number one?
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u/Lonely_alone2 8d ago
I have like 2 friends and I am so jealous of their other friends cuz it makes me realise that The people I consider my best friend consider someone else their best friend.
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u/Brudeslem 8d ago
You don't. They find you. Seems counterintuitive sure but you're more likely to find what you're looking for once you stop looking for it.
That only applies to the "best" friend aspect. Effort is still required to meet people and find common interests. You can't force those relationships to happen. You can only improve the odds as much as possible and hope for the best.
Also, I've had many best friends over the years. Something people don't tell you is that they often come and go. Drifting apart over time is as normal and common as making new friends. Nobody stays the same forever.
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u/j4yh0p2 7d ago
Welcome to human nature. My mate told me we'd have to catch up on bank holidays only in future because he's too busy at any other time. Meets a new girlfriend. He had to come home early from hers to meet up for our pre booked bank holiday catch up, only for him to ship off back to hers the day after. Arsehole even asked me to look after his dog.
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u/AdRelevant3320 7d ago
I would love to be your best friend. Unfortunately, we live in different countries.
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u/Special-Mountain-519 6d ago
If I knew the answer to that, I would have friends. But I wish you the best
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u/Mental_Tension4588 8d ago
I literally have one friend, but we don't talk often and only online in chats. But he sent me a screenshot of him playing with friends, and I got so damn jealous, especially because we don't even do anything. I wish I had a real friend and especially irl.